Hey guys,
I’ve recently started cold approaching and while I’ve had the usual mix of rejections and warm responses, this one left me confused.
I approached a beautiful woman in professional attire near the subway with a direct compliment. We exchanged names, and she told me she works in consulting. I shared what I do too — everything was flowing well.
Then out of nowhere, she asked, “Why are you asking me these questions?”
I got a bit flustered and flipped it back, asking if it was her first time talking to someone outside her social circle. She said no, just didn’t expect it. I acknowledged that and tried to move the conversation towards a different tangent by asking her how she spent her weekends.
She cut back with: “What are you doing?”
I clarified if she meant why I approached her — she said yes. I told her she seemed charming so I came over. She said, “Okay… but I’m not interested.” I said no worries and walked off.
What confused me was that her tone was warm and sweet , and she was smiling throughout the interaction with a slight blush when I told her she seemed charming which she replied with a - but I am not interested.
I don't know if her smiling was because she found the situation bizare, liked the attention or was just being polite.
So I’m wondering:
Was this a test? Was she flirting? Should I have handled the “why are you talking to me” differently — maybe stood my ground or steered the convo elsewhere?
I’ve recently started cold approaching and while I’ve had the usual mix of rejections and warm responses, this one left me confused.
I approached a beautiful woman in professional attire near the subway with a direct compliment. We exchanged names, and she told me she works in consulting. I shared what I do too — everything was flowing well.
Then out of nowhere, she asked, “Why are you asking me these questions?”
I got a bit flustered and flipped it back, asking if it was her first time talking to someone outside her social circle. She said no, just didn’t expect it. I acknowledged that and tried to move the conversation towards a different tangent by asking her how she spent her weekends.
She cut back with: “What are you doing?”
I clarified if she meant why I approached her — she said yes. I told her she seemed charming so I came over. She said, “Okay… but I’m not interested.” I said no worries and walked off.
What confused me was that her tone was warm and sweet , and she was smiling throughout the interaction with a slight blush when I told her she seemed charming which she replied with a - but I am not interested.
I don't know if her smiling was because she found the situation bizare, liked the attention or was just being polite.
So I’m wondering:
Was this a test? Was she flirting? Should I have handled the “why are you talking to me” differently — maybe stood my ground or steered the convo elsewhere?
