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Dudes! There was a thread posted the other day about rewarding and punishing good and bad behaviour. I started to think about how we make sure that they know it’s a “punishment” and that we’re not just having an emotional reaction.
I like to use touch as a reward, and if I don’t like their behaviour I stop touching. Usually they quickly pick up on this and correct their behaviour. Occasionally they don’t and you see them trying to figure it out or even engaging in touch themselves to make up for it. I vividly remember taking my hand of a girlfriend once when I wasn’t impressed with her behaviour. She immediately apologised but she was conditioned, I’m wondering if this could be taken as an emotional response to her actions?
I also think this goes with mirroring text messages. If you feel they have taken way too long to reply you’re not going to message them back immediately because you wouldn’t want to encourage bad behaviour. I feel that they’ll quickly notice that they took a day to message you so you took a day to message them. This could seem like an intentional “game” or that you’re having an emotional reaction rather than you’re just matching their effort or unimpressed with them.
Thoughts?
I like to use touch as a reward, and if I don’t like their behaviour I stop touching. Usually they quickly pick up on this and correct their behaviour. Occasionally they don’t and you see them trying to figure it out or even engaging in touch themselves to make up for it. I vividly remember taking my hand of a girlfriend once when I wasn’t impressed with her behaviour. She immediately apologised but she was conditioned, I’m wondering if this could be taken as an emotional response to her actions?
I also think this goes with mirroring text messages. If you feel they have taken way too long to reply you’re not going to message them back immediately because you wouldn’t want to encourage bad behaviour. I feel that they’ll quickly notice that they took a day to message you so you took a day to message them. This could seem like an intentional “game” or that you’re having an emotional reaction rather than you’re just matching their effort or unimpressed with them.
Thoughts?
