FR 1 Minute Number - Build Comfort, Set a Date or NEXT?

[Smurf]

Woke up kinda' salty with a few of my friends so I was in a really odd mood. Good, but had something to prove to myself. So I set out to go grab a number or move a girl. That's my goal for today.

Head to the grocery store to get warm. Grab some coconut water (Hella hyped up but shit's good guys) and a protein bar to get some food in my body. Don't see anything around the store so I head to checkout. Chat the checkout people as usual, then head towards the door. See one coming in and I stop her as she gets in the door. Tell her, "Hey I saw you...And had to tell you... You're absolutely gorgeous" as I said the last part I gave her an obvious up and down. Paused the most I had ever in this open and it felt great to have no rush to my words. She started blushing and thanked me. Just a warm up so I told her to have a good day and dipped. Head to the train and see something about 20 ft away. Can't see much but I see heels, and I'm still in the warming up stage so I say why not "fuck it". Walk over and tell her "hi." She's acting awkward at first so I supplicate and tell her I'm bored waiting for the train. She laughs and the tension dissapates a bit. Chat her, see she's not that cute so I just chat, getting my mouth moving. We hop on the train and I decide not to sit next to her. Nothing else on the train so I watch some videos.

Eventually get to my stop to the campus I like to game at nowadays. It's cold, temperature dropping and I hurry over to the shop I'm going to. See a few but pussy out, DAMN. Should've just opened, don't know why I didn't, no excuses, just do better next time. Get to the shop, bullshit, get food then dip around an hour later. Head back to the train and see one to open as I'm getting close.

Make eye contact as I'm walking past, she smiles, know I have to so I spin and open her. Give her my standard direct opener and she seems flattered. Ask her where she's going, "to the gym" so I ask if I can walk her there. She says "sure but I have to stop at TOWER" which is literally 100ft away. I go with it, and start bullshitting with her, asking questions. It's been like a minute, achieved my goal of moving with them, said "fuck it" and go to grab her number. Tell her we should get coffee sometime (Need to stop this, I don't even like coffee haha) and she says "totally", punches her number in and I'm off in less than 2 minutes (no pun intended). As I'm walking I feel no feeling of success, achievement, as I feel this number isn't super solid and she's not very sold on me. Whatever, I'll see if it pans out.

At work, it's super SUPER slow. Dead because of the sudden blizzard like conditions. Get a break and text her an ice breaker: "Hey CampusLawyer, it's Jake, nice to meet a future lawyer, save my number " She responds within a minute with "Nice to meet you too!" Still not sold on this to be honest, but I'll see where it goes, but I'm confused as to where to go next:
1)Should I text her to set up a date? My conflict with that is that we didn't have much rapport at all as I didn't stay with her long.
2)Call her and build rapport then set a date? Never called a girl to plan that kinda' thing so I could use practice there.

Not sure where this is gonna' go, but I'm used to flakey numbers so no biggie if nothing pans out.

Lessons:
-Go for EVERY approach you want to. No need in wasting time.
-Moving with them should be a staple for me. Don't do that nearly as often enough.
-Need to start grabbing numbers again to see if my approach is solid. Working backwards through my open and rapport.

Positives:
-First number grab of 2016. Not too excited but still a win
-Making women's days one girl at a time

Jake.

 

[Skid]

Hey dude ,

Just a few comments.

When you were doing your warm up sets the first girl you opened blushed. You didn't say anything about you not finding her attractive - I think you should have stuck with her. Like your reason to leave was this was a "warm up" set. It should be an excuse to help you start opening not leaving girls hanging! It took me a while to do this but try and get into the habit of always seeing how far you can get with a girl. The first thing I do is ask what she is doing - which you do later but try doing it from set one.I think there is this myth you have to be warmed up before you can get a decent interaction with a girl but there are many other things that influence the outcome of a cold approach. For all you know the very first girl you talked too was the most into you - but you walked away because she was a "warm up".

Then you open a girl on the train. She doesn't really know how to handle the approach so you back off abit - good social calibration. I think its good you just disengage and leave her be : smooth.

After there's a girl that walks past you and smiles open good. You find out where she is going and that she is soon arriving at her destination so you adapt and walk with her as long as you stopped her first and then offered to walk with her its fine - personally I don't like having to do that but as long as you stopped her first its ok.

You're concerned that you didn't build any sort rapport with her - you did what you could with the time you had so you skipped steps and went for the number good job! When you know what a girl is doing you have to plan whether this is going to be a 5 minute interaction or a really long one where you try and sleep with her the same day. Your primary weapons are intrigue in short interactions you don't really want in the middle interactions where you talked to her on the street for 15 minutes because by then all intrigue is gone. And you know what ? she was intrigued because she replied to your text in 1 minute. Girls don't do that unless they are ready to go NOW. She is in the mood.

Strike while the iron is hot. You should always be looking too reciprocate a girls interest levels if she is ready to move forward you should be too.I used to be afraid that I'd lose a girls interest if I broke all these stupid rules I filled my head with : wait a million years to text her back etc. Always show slightly less interest in her than what she is showing in you. If she takes a couple hours or whatever then you can rest on your laurels abit. But in this case if I were you I'd arrange a meetup that night or the next day. Otherwise you risk her going cold and then she's gone. I had that happen to me a while back this girl I met it was a 2 minute interaction similar to yours - there was so much sexual tension I got a little hard looking into her eyes; I texted her later that night on my way to a party then she replies in 2 minutes I don't really want to talk to her I'm busy partying so I take like 25 mins while she replies every 5 I set up a date for next week and then she says she is busy when the day of our date comes around. Don't let her go cold!

Skid

 

[Smurf]

Thanks Skid, definitely gonna' remember those tips next time I go out.

Texted her yesterday, no reply which is what I figured somehow. Oh well, NEXT it is!

Jake.