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BarryS1

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Just wanted to thank the GC staff and members for providing excellent feedback the past year! I have gotten results, but my greatest accomplishments have been quiting porn, eliminating approach/social anxiety, and preventing a girl who friendzoned me to make me an orbiter.

A year ago on August 10th, I asked a girl out on a date for the first time in my life for the GC newbie assignment. I stumbled tipsy into a bookstore during the day after drinking at a bar. I was a 22 years old virgin w/o no women experience, just stopped a porn addiction, had high social anxiety, and lead the life of a recluse. 6 months previously, I tried hitting on a girl for the first time and got friendzoned. So far, it was the lowest point of my life.

If I can start approaching girls late and in a bad spot in life - SO CAN YOU.

Here are the results from 8/10/13-8/10/14:

Approaches: 298
Phone #’s: 50
Dates: 19
Lays: 7

Here’s the breakdown of lays:
Age:
21 y.o. - 1 lay
mid 20s - 1 lay
late 20s - 3 lays
early 30s - 1 lay
late 30s - 1 lay

Locations:
Meetup night event - 2 lays
School - 1 lay
Department store - 2 lays
Jogging trail - 1 lay
Social circle - 1 lay


Overview:
Except for the 21 y.o., all the girls listed are of the same type - professional, feminine/submissive, and energetic. Strange I am laying these girls right away because this was original type I desired b/c the girl who friendzoned me was like this. Even stranger is that 4 of these girls pushed for a relationship even after telling my real age.

80% of the approaches have been doing direct day game, but the lays have come from different places.


New Goal: Meet more girls w/in 5 years of my age.

I am going to start expanding my social circle and cold approach during night game at events. I am not even MEETING that many girls my age during day game. I am taking salsa lessons, a kickboxing class, and enrolling in a night class at a nearby university to meet more girls my age. Doing daygame alone does not suit my personality either, I feel happier in a social environment.
 

xilb51x

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awesome job!!
that's some seriously detailed stats!

this made me think back to the past year and my "stats"

cheers.
 

trashKENNUT

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BarryS1,

BarryS1 said:
Here are the results from 8/10/13-8/10/14:

Approaches: 298
Phone #’s: 50
Dates: 19
Lays: 7

Usually, I notice a trend among an average guy (this is without any or little knowledge on girls) where for every 50 girls, there must be at least 1 lay. The fact that you have 19 dates from 50 numbers (and i am sure some of those numbers was "maybe's" that unfortunately didn't happen) is a good feat, in my opinion.

You owe this to yourself, man. :)

Zac
 

PrettyDecent

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BarryS1 said:
I was a 22 years old virgin w/o no women experience, just stopped a porn addiction, had high social anxiety, and lead the life of a recluse.
Way to 180 and start kicking ass, Barry!

Here's to someone reading your post and deciding it's possible for them, too. :)

~Nick
 

Franco

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Barry,

This is awesome, man! It's cool to see that you've kept track of every single one of your statistics, and you've gotten a handful of lays to boot! I don't doubt that you'll be reaching new heights this year, and we definitely want to see more of your work in the Field Reports. =)

Cheers!

- Franco
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

RDawg

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- Barry

Great work man! Keep on rolling brother!

All the best to your future success!

- Rdawg
 

ray_zorse

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BarryS1 said:
my greatest accomplishments have been quiting porn, eliminating approach/social anxiety, and preventing a girl who friendzoned me to make me an orbiter.
Feel it bro :) have had exactly the same problems so I know how hard it can be. Way to go man, you're an inspiration.
BarryS1 said:
If I can start approaching girls late and in a bad spot in life - SO CAN YOU.
Late you say? Dude I waited until I was 38 hahaha you're in good shape. I agree that u have to hit bottom before deciding to climb out though...
 

BarryS1

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ZacAdam said:
BarryS1,

BarryS1 said:
Here are the results from 8/10/13-8/10/14:

Approaches: 298
Phone #’s: 50
Dates: 19
Lays: 7

Usually, I notice a trend among an average guy (this is without any or little knowledge on girls) where for every 50 girls, there must be at least 1 lay. The fact that you have 19 dates from 50 numbers (and i am sure some of those numbers was "maybe's" that unfortunately didn't happen) is a good feat, in my opinion.

You owe this to yourself, man. :)

Zac

That's exactly what happened Zac! My first lay was on approach #50 and second at 102. After that, they began clustering at weird intervals. I think the dates turned out like that b/c I've mostly gone direct. Its a good testament for the "Are you single?" opener. If a guy like me can get laid for the first time with that opener after 50 approaches, its worthwhile! :)

PrettyDecent said:
BarryS1 said:
I was a 22 years old virgin w/o no women experience, just stopped a porn addiction, had high social anxiety, and lead the life of a recluse.
Way to 180 and start kicking ass, Barry!

Here's to someone reading your post and deciding it's possible for them, too. :)

~Nick

Thanks Nick! The newbie assignment started everything. I remember your post a year ago, after quitting porn I'll start seeing success in other areas. Thanks to this site, its starting to come together. :)

Franco said:
Barry,

This is awesome, man! It's cool to see that you've kept track of every single one of your statistics, and you've gotten a handful of lays to boot! I don't doubt that you'll be reaching new heights this year, and we definitely want to see more of your work in the Field Reports. =)

Cheers!

- Franco

Your feedback has been incredible over the past year Franco! Can't thank you enough for all the sticking points you've helped me through. I'll definitely keep posting for contributing to the site!

RDawg said:
- Barry

Great work man! Keep on rolling brother!

All the best to your future success!

- Rdawg

Hey thanks RDawg! I've been enjoying your LR's lately. Keep posting them!

ray_zorse said:
BarryS1 said:
my greatest accomplishments have been quiting porn, eliminating approach/social anxiety, and preventing a girl who friendzoned me to make me an orbiter.
Feel it bro :) have had exactly the same problems so I know how hard it can be. Way to go man, you're an inspiration.
BarryS1 said:
If I can start approaching girls late and in a bad spot in life - SO CAN YOU.
Late you say? Dude I waited until I was 38 hahaha you're in good shape. I agree that u have to hit bottom before deciding to climb out though...

ray_zorse, this site will catapult you! It's amazing.
 

Chase

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Kicking butt and taking names, Barry. Those are some fantastic stats for a guy who'd never slept with a girl only a year prior. Great development, man.

Good on you to post this year so other guys can see it too - if you're working at it right, you can make progress fast. I'd be curious to know what you felt like the major turning points were for you in correcting mindsets, tactics, fundamentals, etc. - what made the biggest difference (or was it just going out and doing it)?

Chase
 

BarryS1

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Couldn’t of done it w/o you and the staff Chase! If not for this website, I wouldn’t have figured out half this stuff by the time I turned 40!

The first couple months of approaching had the biggest turning points. After the newbie assignment, I kept going direct and had a lot of firsts - phone #’s, dates, make outs, sex.

Number one is mannerisms under fundamentals, I stopped being an entertainer and felt sexual tension for the first time. Being unsocially calibrated and entertaining, girls always used to say I was quirky and sarcastic. No one knew if I was serious or not. Cut the entertainer part out and girls immediately called me sweet, not desirable in the long run, but it was THE biggest change.

Number two would be changing my tactics to going direct. I had a lot of firsts after following your advice.

Number 3 follows from 2, my mindset changed because I experienced first-hand girls enjoyment with being approached direct. Previously, I thought hitting on a girl in a public place was disrespectful, but the cops weren’t called and no one got upset. The tactic I heard complained about for years….actually worked!

Number 4 is appearances under fundamentals, I changed my hairstyle and clothing and got called handsome by girls for the first time in my life (other than my relatives lol). My previous hairstyle gave the appearance of Eric from that 70s Show and wore conservative/preppy clothing. Long story short, I started choosing the style instead of my parents. Later on, I would show FWBs my old college pictures and they said I looked like a conservative, married man with kids!
 
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