FR 11.7.2019 Mai Vietnam

[fearlessuk]

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A couple of notes before my FR

In the beginning, I started get blown out a lot and I figure out why, I think I was delivering my direct opener too fast. Now, when I deliver it. I will pause until I get her attention.

F; excuse me (pause until I get attention or until they stop)

+ normally this will work, If they keep walking then I can say:

option 1: look just one second, very quickly
option 2 Listen listen, very quickly very quickly
option 3: can I just say one thing

Depends on how you feel.

Most important is: through out the whole time, you have to smile and hold strong eye contact

F: excuse me (pause until they stop)............I know this is random (pause longer) but (pause longer) I think you very look cute

+ I think I'm uncomfortable with pausing because it makes the girls uncomfortable. They don't know what you want until the compliment comes out. I rush into it because I worry the girl is uncomfortable.

This doesn't guarantee the girls won't walk away but it can increase the chance of that happening

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A couple of quick sets

Set 1

F: excuse me, sorry.......can i say something

HB: yep

F: I think you look really pretty

HB: oh thank you haha
NOTE: my gut told me she was attracted.

F: are you from China?
NOTE: I step in and invaded her personal space and she didn't back away. I also used my hand to touch the outside of her left arm while saying "are you from China" all at the same time. I felt her attraction spiked up more. It was her energy and something in her eyes

HB: yes

F: knee ji jerley joe somemore?

HB: blah blah

F: actually my Mandarin is not so good haha

HB: where are you from

F: where do you think I'm from, India or Africa
NOTE: I said I won't use it but I used this line again. Don't use this line until 3 months have past!!!

HB: I don't think so, you look Asian

F: yes

HB: where you from

F: I was born here but my parents are from HK

HB: Yes I guessed

F: you look very nice today, are you meeting a friend?

HB: just finished dinner with my friend

F: oh you just finished dinner with a friend, that's good, where did you go?

NOTE: you should make a statement instead of asking a question.

HB: I need to check the supermarket if they are closed.

F: yeah yeah yeah

HB: they might close in a minute

F: 2 seconds, 2 seconds, I know you're busy.

NOTE: this is very good. Your throwing out 2 seconds. By repeating it twice, she pays more attention.

F: i like to take you number and we go for coffee sometime

HB: so sorry I have a bf

F: really, can you break up with him and go out with me instead, I'm more fun

HB: oh (and walks away)

+ I'm not too sure when attraction faded but it faded.

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Set 2

F: excuse me, sorry, can I just say one thing

HB: yeah

F: I just saw you from over there , and , I think you look very cute

NOTE: you need to pause more on the opener

HB: Oh thank you haha

F: knew she, jie jung got ma

HB: confused

F: where you from

HB: I'm from japan

F: door more ka knee chi wah

HB: haha thank you haha

F: one second, just one second. I know your busy, i know you have to meet a friend. I have to meet someone as well.

HB: uh huh

F: I like to take your number

HB: I'm sorry

F: why, why you break my heart

HB: I don't have a number here so

F: why you break my heart

HB: giggles no sorry

F: why? I love you

HB: haha thank you

F: I love you

HB: thank you lol

F: your the one, you're my true love, you're my true love

F: don't go I love you (open my arms out to her)

HB: sorry giggles and walks away

+ Yep i had a lot of fun doing this one
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Set 3

There was another set, where I took her number because she was busy. I gave her a hug

NOTE: this is good, try and hug all girls after the number. If the vibe is good then there is no reason not to. If it feels right, go for it. Use your gut feeling
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[fearlessuk]

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F: excuse me, um, I know this is random .....but....... literally, I just saw you from over there....and .....I think you look very cute

HB: very

F: very cute and I had to tell you

HB:

F: are you from China, where you from?

NOTE: statement: You look LIKE (PAUSE and have a think) your from China

hb: are you from China?

F: I'm from, where do you think, I'm from?

HB: you look like your from Korea

F: yeah a lot of people say, I look korean

HB: kinda of

F: no no no I was born here but my parents from HK

HB: ok

F: how about you, where are you from, you accent

HB: Vietnam

F: Vietnam but you don't have a Vietnamese accent

HB: how you don't know I don't have a Vietnamese accent because you know many Vietnamese people?

F: ah no no, I believe yeah, that Chinese and Vietnamese people have there own native accent

HB: no where not the same accent

F: yeah that's true, I understand

+ this made her feel better, when I agreed

F: so what are you doing anyway, you look like you're studying.

+ good you made a statement

HB: are you?

F: you look like you study psychology or something

NOTE: perfect statement You look like (pause and think). Making statements is 10 times better than asking a question

HB: no what about you?

F: me, I work in property management

HB: which company?

F: do you know a company called Foxtons?

HB; where

F: I work for a different company, it's called Ellis and Co, it's in Ilford area. Do you know where Ilford is?

HB: you can spell it, Ilford ok

F; it's a not so good area but it's ok

HB; so i'm studying

F: I don't know, if you free right now but I like to have a cup of coffee with you.

NOTE: I tried to invade her personal space from the beginning but she backed away. She didn't quite feel comfortable. I have also noticed my energy levels have increased, I bring more energy to the interaction.

F: I think, I think there is a pret down there or something

HB: why you want to have coffee with me (feeling unsure)

F: just to get to know you, I'm not selling anything, I don't know if you think I selling something but i genuinely think

HB: haha so you are selling something, property or real estate or something lol

F: no no no haha I'm actually hitting on you

HB: what's you name?

NOTE: this is good but I feel you instant dated too soon. obviously use your gut feeling, she wasn't ready.

F: my name is F

HB: are you born here or?

F: I was born here

HB blah blah

F: I know it's random yeah yeah

F: what are you doing down here, are you shopping or something or?

NOTE: always make statements. You look like (pause) you are shopping

F; or you meeting a friend later on?

HB; ah I not met friend but i just like want to go to Zara

F: Zara discount, did you see any discounts?

HB: ah no I just return it

+ she is warming up to me, which is a good sign

F: you one of the girls, that like to try some stuff and return the stuff

HB; er

F: nah, I'm just kidding ha

HB: so how old are you

F: how old am I, guess

HB: sorry it's like

F: no no it's fine, guess, how old do you think I am?

HB: 30?

F: 33

HB: I know Asian people look younger than there age

F: yeah yeah yeah now you know my age, how about you

HB: ahhh so you can guess

F: maybe 24 or 25, something like that. You seem a bit mature

HB: hahha secret

F: secret haha

F: just by the way you are talking, you sound quite mature

F: I'm guessing around 23

HB: so 23 or 24 is already mature right?

F: I think so haha I think so yeah haha

F: maybe, maybe not yeah

F: there's a coffee shop down there, lets go for a quick chat

NOTE: the timing is right for instant date because she seems intrigued, she is asking lots of questions and want to know more about you.

F; come up, just for 10 minutes as i need to go and buy something later on

HB: you need to buy something?

F; ah yes basically

HB: so where , which kind of thing you want to buy

F; basically, i want to get a card for a friend

NOTE: next time say "I want to get a Birthday Card for a friend"

HB: coat?

F: card, maybe my accent is very bad

HB: no because you were born here, your accent is better than me

F: yeah yeah is it

F: lets go for a coffee. lets go, 10 minutes

NOTE: good it's assertive.

HB: ok

Minutes 4.50 instant date

F: so are you the oldest in the family

NOTE: statement: you look like the oldest in the family

F: or are you the youngest in the family

HB: I'm the youngest

F: oh so you the spoilt one, the one that every one gives

HB: you

F: actually I'm the youngest as well.

HB: maybe you the only one

F: I have an older sister and two older brothers

HB: they live here

F: yeah yeah they actually live in the UK

F: my sister lives in Malaysia actually

F: my other 2 brothers

HB: for work

F: yeah they live around UK

F: I like you glasses, it make you look a bit like harry porter

HB: he has round glasses

F: does he have round glasses, is different is it?

HB: blah

F: but you still look like a wizard, do you know any magic?

HB: I'm a witch

F: haha you are a witch, are you

+ In Pret

F: so you look like a latte girl

NOTE: good statement

HB: tea

F: you're a tea girl, that's cool, what kind of tea do you like then

HB: let me try the tropical tea

F: oh that's good

HB: blah blah

F: which one is it then, tropical tea, okay

F: I don't know if it's good, never heard of it

I get the tea

F; so you came here shopping today is it

HB: yes just shopping

F: browsing around, looking at good looking men

HB: looking at men no haha

F: haha so you like the weather today?

F: why aren't you travelling, you should be going to Prague

HB: HK

F: hong kong, why not?

HB: Hong kong recent had like

F: I think they have some kind of dispute or something, I'm British born

HB: no I mean

F: oh lets have a drink yeah (grab tea)

F; where would you like to sit, can you sit here or something

NOTE: this is very good Actually you were leading her, you weren't giving her a choice, even though you were asking her a question lol. i like the way you were the one holding the drinks, ahead of her finding a seat. You were finding a seat where you can escalate, which is good.

minutes 7.52
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[fearlessuk]

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F: oh lets have a drink yeah (grab tea)

F; where would you like to sit, can you sit here or something

F: tell me about the tropical tea and how it taste and

HB: blah blah

F: you are are an adventurous girl, I never heard of it

HB: I never tried before, I think it taste, it's not like Vietnamese green tea

F: you know what, I never tried Vietnamese green tea, is it green tea kind of favour

HB: have you tried this green tea

F: in China they have green tea and in Japan they have green tea

HB: I think the tea in Vietnam is a little bit heavy, can't sleep

F: that's cool

F: so how long has it been, you been in Uk for then?

F: because I don't believe you are born here right?

HB: nearly two years

F: I'm not surprised, the way you are dressed, you look kind of stylish

HB: Asian people are more stylish

F: no but your extra stylish, than normal Asian girls

F: I feel some of them don't know how to dress

F: you look nice

+ good compliment

HB: thank you

F: you are the youngest in the family, right. you must have an older brother or older

HB: I have an older brother and he is not here

F: oh, what do you mean?

HB: I mean, he is not in the UK

F: oh ok that's fine haha

F: i was like, what should I say

HB: he is discovering the universe

F: he is in Mars

F: he must be an Elon musk fan

F: do you know Elon musk

HB: ahh yes Tesla

F: he created his company Space X and. Maybe you brother is in Mars right now.

F: so just one older brother

HB; yeah

F: so what do you do? You look like, a bit like a ganster

NOTE: I like the statement: you look like (pause)

HB: yeah

F: are you a Vietnamese mafia? Do they have mafias in Vietnam?

HB: roles play with me a bit

HB: it's my secret business.

F: can you cook pho ho fun?

HB: I just eat, i don't cook

F: but i thought it was quite easy to make, right?

HB: it look easy but it's not easy

F: you know the bones, take a long time to cook and the favour to come out

HB: it takes along time because of the bones

F: not your bones right?

HB: maybe my bone

F: OMG i don't want any, i don't want any

HB: maybe some seasoning, herbs

F; so you do know how to cook, you know its got seasoning.

HB: but i don't make it

F: you don't make it, your mum makes it for you

HB; sometimes haha

F: you lucky girl

F: your so lucky, my mum and dad don't love me

Hb giggle

F: your mum and dad loves you, your such a lucky girl (pause) no i'm just kidding haha

NOTE: nice delivery

F: yeah you're still lucky anyway

F: you came here to study, did you say, what did you study then?

HB: I study marketing

F: marketing, yes yes the marketing look

HB: haha

F: it's either art

HB: you said, I look more gangster

F: well you can be half gangster and half marketing, you have to, have a special niche nowadays

F: people can remember you, the way you look. I can imagine you, with your logo, with you face, wearing your glasses, being like a gangster

NOTE: your repeated gangster too much, you should do some other role plays. Your switching to the entertainer role. To be fair, your self amusement has switched back on and you're new to this self amusement experience. For now just keep pushing and calibrate back down later on.

HB: so where do you live around here

F: um, i don't actually live around here

F: I told you, I work for a company similar to Foxton's. It's called Ellis and Co

HB: so you selling

F: not selling anything, just managing properties and stuff like that.

F: about half a year ago, i quit, now i help my dad. My dad is in development. Doing up the flat, decorating the flat.

HB: architecture, we buy cheap properties and do the flats up. We then let it out

HB: now you work for you father

F: yeah, i work for my father

HB: real estate

F: yes you are smart, did anyone tell you are super intelligent, kind of thing

HB: errr haha

F: yes many people, yeah

F: too many

HB: it's not a normal word

F: is it?

F: that's what I do, I help my dad

HB: he lives here

F: yeah he lives here, you know Stratford

HB: you live in Stratford

F: yes I live in Stratford, it's 5 stops away from Strafford

F: it's called...........

F: where about do you live then, do you live in the halls? in uni, partying everyday. Like dancing on the table.

HB: do you do that haha

F: i don't know haha

HB: are you stereo typing Vietnamese people?

F: i don't know

F: you don't look like a Vietnamese

HB: most people say that

F: are you immigrated or something, you look more like a Chinese Vietnamese.

F: did your mum and dad come from China, they went to Vietnam or something

HB: yes

F: or course you are vietnam

F: how do you say pretty girl in Vietnamese.

F: pretty gangster girl

NOTE: self amusement is great but you have to be real with the girl. Your 16 minutes in, you should do some kind of kino or make an excuse to get near her. You can also consider bouncing her. I think touching should start at least 10 minutes in as attraction should be fast

NOTE: Once you created attraction, you should move more into comfort. Use your gut feeling. I know there was resistance in the beginning but with all that self amusement, her defences are down and you can go for a connection. She is no longer guarded and has processed you as a cool guy.

Touching her will create sexual attraction, the man to woman frame or a bubble. Touching and getting close to her is much more powerful than self amusement. Over doing banter will make you look like a clown. Your goal is to remove her defences and get close to her and start touching her. Try and do this right from the start if you can, It will be a lot easier. Obviously it's not always possible if she is scared.

You might need to break down, your opening more. How you were approaching, where you were approaching, every detail. She might have spotted you already walking around before opening her. Girls are aware of her surroundings. The street is also like a bar, where girls can spot, whatever someone is doing. That in itself can create resistance and trust issues.

HB: pretty gangster girl haha

minutes 16.37
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[fearlessuk]

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F: how do you say pretty girl in Vietnamese.

F: pretty gangster girl, no just pretty girl

HB: haha it's long

HB: em dep lam

NOTE: I just googled: em dep lam means you're pretty. sar hoi dem means gangster

F: how come you don't have a bf or something, you're so pretty, so gorgeous

NOTE: kind of good, your building up you confidence, i guess. A bit weak though

HB: how do you know, I don't have a BF

F: I don't know, unless you like women.

HB; what about you

F: I'm half gay, I like women and I like men.

HB: it's bi

F: yes bi sexual hahaha

F: I'm not what ever you call it.
+moving my hand like a wavely movement

HB: haha

F: why are you so interesting, tell me

HB: about?

F: I don't know, you seem very socialised and very witty kind of thing. You have this witty sense of humour about you.

F: that's the first impression, it might change later on.

HB: I don't see that, you see that about me

F: yeah yeah yeah I'm just taking a calculated guess

HB: calculated assessment

F: do you know, like Iron man, Marvel. He programs everything in Jarvis . An AI robot and tells him to calculate everything for him. the probability of

F: are those the Spiderman glasses, you are wearing? where you can control the AI and drones. Did you watch the Spider man movie

HB: yes but i don't like it.

F: you do but you secretly pretend not to like it.

HB: haha

NOTE: this is what happens when you don't kino. The conversation goes on and on and on but nothing happens. Your 19 minutes in. You should have touched her 10 minutes ago. Touch the save areas and then work you way up.

HB: I will fall a sleep

F: great next time we should go to

HB: next time haha

F: we can watch a super hero movie and you can like, fall a sleep

HB; so you have to go or?

F: huh

HB: when?

F: maybe later on, not really, I'm just looking for a birthday card

HB: confused

F: I sing happy birthday.

HB: yeah yeah

F: because my friends birthday, is coming up in 2 weeks time. I thought might as well look around. Around lunch time i had dim sum

F: do you like dim sum

HB: real like

F: I haven't travelled to HK yet, I like to travel there

F: can I see you hand ( curious my face) why is it so orange. i touch it a little

Minutes 21 you touch tip of her hand

+ kind of luck her hand was a bit orange

F: why is it orange, did you eat too much carrots or

HB: yes too much orange like spiderman

F: haha you're funny, I like that

F: why you decide to study marketing then?

HB: i like to try new things

F: is it because the foreign men , British born Chinese, wondering around Oxford circus, looking around

HB: just myself, inspire me

F: haha

F: why here, why not America, why not Austria

HB: my course, study here one year and one year internship

HB: I choose here because the study time is just one year for masters

F: what kind of marketing firm, you like to work for?

HB: i don't want to work in marketing, I have a job previous in Vietnam so I choose marketing because blah blah ( couldn't hear what she was saying)

F: so you use to work then, you must be quite mature then

F: you must be 26, 27 I'm guessing now

HB: haha so you change you mind right?

F: you look very young yeah

HB: I don't remember my age, sorry

F: actually I'm 752 years old, I'm a vampire

HB: haha, I'm Benjamin buttons

F: that's a good movie actually, I need to watch in again

F: i like how he goes from old to young

HB: like growing young and young and don't know why ha

F: what movies do you like

HB: young gangster and detective movie

F: like a thriller

HB: you have to think but not fight, unlike a super hero movie

HB: detective thing, they apply in real life

F: instead of marketing, why you don't become a detective instead

HB: I choose marketing just for study

HB: I work as free lance assistant

HB: like news and video,

NOTE: she works as a news and video assistant

HB: any hobbies?

F: tennis

HB: how often you play tennis?

F: I haven't played in a while, I would love to play again but no one wants to play with me

F: because I'm sad. All my friends said I'm sad :/

HB: have you ever watched the tennis match?

F: honestly, I don't like watching tennis, i love playing tennis

minutes 26.49
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[fearlessuk]

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HB: have you ever watched the tennis match?

F: honestly, I don't like watching tennis, i love playing tennis

F: actually I do kind of like watching tennis but i'm not a big fan, if you ask me who these players are, i have no idea

F; when it comes to tennis, i just love playing it

HB: yep

F: i do envy them, when they are able to smash it, you kind of know there kind of really good. the way they smack it, it's like wow. it's like years of experience kind of thing

HB: there is a tennis competition right now

F; do you watch in or

HB: blah blah

F: i went to Kings Cross and it was amazing. On a sunny day I watch a movie, they had an outside cinema. The atmosphere was great as it was packed with people. Everyone was enjoying there own picnic.

F: you should go, Kings Cross

HB: do you watch American football because I see you have an NFL t shirt

F: really, oh okay. No no no sometimes I go shopping and if i see something I like, I will try it on, to see if it fits me or looks good on me.

F: I also like hiking, walking, that kind of thing. I love nature. i like the parks, I like down river Thames. Just walking and enjoying nature. It doesn't have to be nature, I also like site seeing

F: i do like a bit of shopping and browsing around, looking around and trying things on. I like a lot of things actually.

F: travelling, so where have you been?

HB; around Europe and some place around there

F: Have you been to Prague

HB: not yet

F: have you been to Madrid

HB: yes blah blah France

F: very romantic. Bonjour, the french men

HB: do you know French language

F: Bonjour, je ma pearl Fearless, common de ley vious. Trebeanne mercie.

+ hb starts doing the same thing

both giggle

F: I study french when I was young, that's about it, that's all I remember

HB: where did you study French

F: I study French in high school

HB: which one

F: bla blah

F: that was the only course you can study. You couldn't study other languages. They didn't have Vietnamese.

HB giggles

F; are you good at teach Vietnamese?

HB: huh

F: obviously you are good. maybe you can be my teacher. I can hire you. you can be my magical Harry Porter teacher

HB: if you hire me, the salary is so high

F: really, why is that

HB: hahaha I'm actually an English teacher for Vietnamese people haha

F: really

HB: thats why my salary so high

F: I found speaking to you, you sound very fluent

F: it does sound strange as i don't know if it's meant to be American English or British English

HB: I think it's meant to be more American English

HB: in Vietnam we watch American film. We have, more of an American culture than British culture. I also studied the British accent so i got influenced by this

F: I think your American English has turned British as well, so you don't have an accent. It's interesting because you fluent at it

minutes 35.33
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[fearlessuk]

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HB: in Vietnam we watch American film. We have, more of an American culture than British culture. I also studied the British accent so i got influenced by this

F: I think your American English has turned British as well, so you don't have an accent. It's interesting because you fluent at it

HB: haha blah blah

F: do you have any Vietnamese friends in Uk

HB: yes

F: cool and what do you guys get up to and what do you do?

F: I'm guessing they are all from marketing, kind of thing

HB: I think people who come here from Vietnam do not choose marketing like me, it's not easy to get the job here. Vietnam people are more likely to choose Finance because there is a bigger chance of getting a job.

HB: they would choose finance, tax, audit. It will all be about economy. They might choose a different major but not marketing. If they do choose marketing, they all choose one year because they intend to go back to Vietnam.

HB: I like my current career, I'm actually a tv reporter

F: you're the reporter, so do you broadcast the news?

HB: blah blah, I really like going behind the scene. I like to produce

F: No wonder why you have this glowing energy about you, when I first saw you. Wow you look

HB: thank you

HB: I work in Vietnam for over 6 years, so that's a hint.

F: so your around my age, 28, 29

HB: yeah yeah yeah

F: you look so young, whats the secret, is it the pho ho fun?

HB; you look young, it's normal for Asian people

F: i think my secret, is watching Super hero movies. It makes me feel young

HB grin

F: it feels like I can be Superman or something, my mindset

HB: giggles

F: that's my secret

HB: haha

F: whats you secret then?

HB: green tea

F: green tea and what else? that's it

HB: that's it haha

HB: now i work as a sport reporter for the BBC. Yes I speak english. It a more serious role

F: i can imagine you being serious, wearing your tie and you suit

HB: yeah look very dangerous haha

F: so I'm confused, have you finished studying?

HBI I just finished my course.

minutes 43.12

 

[fearlessuk]

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F: so I'm confused, have you finished studying?

HB I just finished my course.

HB: I work here a long time and came here to study, I'm so tired, i want a break

F: I just want to party and drink alcohol

HB: life is so boring haha I like work and I'm not a party animal

F: you not a party animal, you a party dinosaur

HB: I just want to go to sleep, I just want to travel

F: travel is not boring

HB: because blah blah

F: finding something you love is awesome, it' one of the best thing you can do

HB; haha

HB: are you a party animal?

F: er

HB: hahh yes

NOTE: you can break rapport "I love to but I don't have any friends :/" Your response is better because you being more real with her. This is better than self amusement.

F: I don't know, I don't mind it, it's quite good but I don't go partying all the time. It depends if I had some friends and if I'm out, that's different. Have a few drinks but that's about it. Not really a party animal

HB: do you prefer a party animal

F: why are you switching it onto me, you the party animal

both giggle

HB: I'm a reporter

F: so like this, whats you name? + pretending the coffee cup is a microphone.

F: teach me how to be a reporter

HB haha no it's a secret

F: it's a secret, so what is you secret haha pointing the mic cup at her

F: it's basically asking questions right?

HB: reporters have a clip on mic nowadays

F: oh yeah, so you don't have the past the mic around

F: in the old days you have to past the mic around

HB: yeah its so confusing, so no we don't do like that

HB: thats the first lesson for you, don't do like that

HB: don't do like that, it's very disturbing haha

F: I thought it be fun

HB: not professional haha

F: now the younger audience don't want it to be professional

HB: yes they want it to be fun, not like old school

F: your the new school, the new hip hop reporter

F: do you like dancing? it's like your shape, you know

HB: disco right

F: I can imagine you doing disco

NOTE: "I can imagine" is a very good word. It leads to role play which makes the conversations more fun.

+ she is wearing disco style clothing

F: I think you look like a 80s dancer. But now 80s is becoming more fashionable ain't it. Like the clothes and stuff. I'm seeing women wearing trousers to there tummy

HB: I can cheat on my body portion

F: but you have a nice figure, you don't need to cheat, why you cheating for?

HB: huh because I like

F: making yourself more attractive, to the opposite sex and

+ I like the way you are putting her in a frame.

HB: i don't want to attract anyone. I am happy the way I am

F: no no no men no

HB: haha

F: haha I'm a good girl, I like to study, I like to read books and no parties

HB: haha I'm a good gangster

+ I go to the toilet and came back at the table

HB: why you trust me with your bag

F: huh, I forgot, you a gangster

HB: haha

F: I don't know, you got this memorising and hypnotic eyes that you do, maybe you been a reporter for too long and you know how to hypnotise people.

HB: yeah

F: dam I'm so stupid, why do i trust you?

HB: why do you trust me haha

F: why do i trust you with my life, my money, everything no

NOTE: you should of made it sexual. Sexual self amusement is great after she invested into the interaction. You could of said "my virginity"

F: my parents always told me never to trust women

HB: yeah so you should obey them

F: I think your quite interesting, that's good

HB: but what?

F: interesting but conservative

F: your shirt, it making me, it's really got too much patterns, it's making me dizzy. It's that the purpose of this shirt

HB: it's a very cool and peaceful shirt

F: the first time I saw you, you were a little bit scary as well

HB; haha

F: at first you were glowing with energy and when i spoke to you, omg, is she going to kill me or something

HB: more like scary

HB: what did I say?

F: you said, I was really good looking, very attractive and you were memorised by me or something

HB: you or

both giggle

F: I'm going to take you to the hospital

HB: yes you have mental problems

F: you have mental problems, really

HB: yeah haha

F, don't worry lets talk about it.

NOTE: I noticed you aren't falling into her frames, which is good. She tried to pigeon hole you but you seem to always self amuse your way out. this is good. I feel you are pushing past a comfort zone and increasing your game. For some reason, your not quite there yet with this girl, but i feel you are getting closer to a naturally confident and sexual guy. You still have a lot of sticking points but so far, i feel this is good progress.

+ whats missing is kino, sexual intent and the mindset your a sexual predator. You have to be more direct with her in terms of communicating (man to women frame). Your also need to lead more. You have to beware of you honest signals. She is trying to figure out if you are lying or not, she wants to know if you are the man that she thinks and hopes that you are. Actually there is a lot of work, you still need to do. It's good so far I guess :/

F: yes, why is your hand orange?
+it really is orange

+ I touch her hand
NOTE: very good
minutes 53.50. it's better late than never. I'm proud of this

F: I think you shouldn't drink too much carrot juice. Do you drink a lot of carrot juice honestly?
+ just being real with her

HB: hahaha orange not carrot

F: orange

NOTE: I move my chair next to hers. Very good it shows balls. It's a set up to palm reading


F: I want to know your secret, show me you hands, go like this

+ I touch her hand and do palm reading

F: I can read you hand, I'm very good at palm reading
+ still holding the side of her hand
+ minutes 54.23

F: because there is this palm reading expert. I use to work in a restaurant, yeah. I use to work as a waitor. there was this customer. He is this really good palm reading expert

HB: what is palm?

+ moves her hand away, which means not comfortable. Fuck it, i'm going to practice my kino anyway

F: this is palm

HB: ahh palm sorry haha

F: not bum but palm

HB: haha

F: I don't know if he is but, he look like a gangster, there so many gangsters in my life, I see.
NOTE: there should be less self amusement. There should be one or two spikes, to keep the conversation going. You are becoming more of an entertainer. I guess because you kind of just added it to you game recently and just messing about with it more. Palm reading is a time to get more serious and interesting.

F: like your a gangster and he is a gangster. He looks like a gangster palm reading expert.

NOTE: your using self amusement to mask your personality. It's hard for her to get to know, the real you. I think deep down, you like it like that, rather than put yourself out there and get laid. Your not being honest and masking your sexual desires.

F: show me you hands, let me see what you life is like

+ Holding her hand and reading her palm. minutes 56

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PALM READING

F: so this is your relationship line
NOTE: moving my finger across that line. GOOD!!

HB: yes

F: here means you dated, one, two, three, four people in your life. Is that true? So you had three boyfriends and one girlfriend

HB: haha continue

F: okay maybe 4 boyfriends

F: so you had 4 boyfriends

HB: yeah

F: really?

NOTE: at this moment because your close to her. You can talk slow and be seductive. Your eye contact needs to improve though.

F: when you saying that, you're like (pretending to roll sweat of my head with my hands)

HB giggles

NOTE: there is tension but not sexual tension because no eye contact. You also wasn't slow and seductive.

minutes 55.44
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HB giggles

NOTE: there is tension but not sexual tension because no eye contact. You also wasn't slow and seductive.

HB: so where four

F: here it is, one, two, three, four

F: whats interesting about the hand, the lines on your hand will change over time

+ the men's one is on the left, the woman's one is on the right. She corrects me

F: so yeah, you had four boyfriends, the funny thing with these lines, it can change over time.

HB: change the boyfriend

F: not the bf change over time, your lines can change over time. As you get older, the more life experience you have. the more your lines will change

HB: how about career because I'm focused on career

+ I move my fingers over the career line

F: your career is forging, it's quite long, it's starting from here, going all the way here. It's long, so its a good career for now but again this can change. Don't think that, just because it's long right now. Because it's not really deep enough. it's just like starting but it's a long career and you have a lot of potential. if you continue and persist on this journey, you will do well

F: in life, because you get more life experience and your destiny will change, the way you think, the way you take action, that matters as well

F: here means you can save a lot of money, this is the money line by the way. that means you have a lot of money

HB: no

F: wow

HB: because I'm a gangster

F: who has a lot of money

F: this is your life line, so far you have a long life.

F: and you hand is really small.

+ I measure her hand with my hand

F: that means, sometimes your very protective of yourself, People with small hands get scared and not too opened. that makes sense as well because over time, you have to get to know that person.

HB: over time, my hands will get bigger or something

F: it will be a dinosaur hand haha
NOTE: too much self amusement lol

HB: so the more I open, the more my hands will get bigger right

F: go like this
+I move and shape her hand to see if there are any gaps between her fingers

F; that means you will save a lot of money because you have no holes in your hands

HB: ahh

HB: now what

F: your so lucky, look my money is coming out

HB: haha

F: you have no money coming out, so that means, you be able to save a lot of money. This is good

F: go like this, open you fingers like that

+ I move my fingers over her fingers to test for compliance. It's a compliance test. Her fingers did not roll her my hand, which means she didn't pass compliance. It means the trust is not there yet. It also means try again later.

F: this is like a valley.
+ I point to the get the gaps between her fingers

HB: what is a valley

F: it's like a mountain, with high peaks and low peaks
+ waving my hand up and down

F; a valley of hardship, it's about whether your life is smooth or difficult. at the moment. Right now you are going through some difficulties but you can handle it.

HB: difficult in career or life?

F: It covers the whole aspects of your life

F: I want to see how many children you have

HB: four

F: one, two, three, four. How did you know?

F: three boys and one girl

HB: haha

F: can I see your love line, you have 14 husbands in the future. Your not going to divorce them, you going to live with all 14 of them
NOTE: too much banter, it doesn't make you seem special. It make you seem try hard

HB; haha

F: I'm just kidding haha

F: your actually quite small. I put my hand on her head but anyway
NOTE: good

HB: haha

F: are your wearing high heals

HB: yeah

F: oh right

HB: how high are you?

NOTE: see is entertained but no doggy dinner bowl look.

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HB: yeah

F: oh right

HB: how high are you?

F: 178 cm's 5 foot 8

F: do you have any tattoos , you look like someone who has a lot of tattoos

HB: secret

F: I got one as well, I have a Hello Kitty

F: i can't show you but I like Hello Kitty

HB: hello kitty, really

F: the one with the pink bow

F: on the right one

HB: really

F: I'm just joking, you look like someone who has tattoos or something, you don't have tattoos?

HB no

F: I noitced something, you have small ears

NOTE: I touch her ear. GOOD!!

HB: so it means Im a boy

F: yeah yeah yeah

HB: haha

F: i don't know why, there is a contradiction, with you hand

HB: what can I believe, in my ear or in my hand (grin)

F: I came to one conclusion, you have to believe in yourself

F: don't believe in god, just trust yourself

HB haha

F: after 10 minutes of palm reading, so that's what I decided

HB: so now i have you pay you money for palm reading haha

F: that's 200 pounds now

HB: I know what your selling, your selling palm reading haha

F: you funny, your a funny girl

F: are you the shortest in the class

HB: why class, here

F: no when you were studying in Vietnam

HB Normal

F: in Vietnam, what do you do for fun?

HB: I'm Benjamin button. I get younger

HB: you can go Vietnam and try, it's more fun in Vietnam than here

F: I think Vietnam would be more fun, I think it's got more to do with the weather, do be honest

F: when the weather is good, here is fun, when the weather is not good, no one wants to go out. No one is in the mood

HB: I think in Vietnam, Korea or Thailand, it's more lively than here

F: where are you going to take me if i go Vietnam?
NOTE: a bit low value because this sets the frame, where you are chasing

HB: have you been Saigon and also the beach

F: do they have the dook dook in Thailand?

HB: we use to

F: how come you have an earing on this ear and not on this ear
+ I touch her ear GOOD!!

HB: I don't like it, I just like one

F: why, this one will close up

F: do you have a hole here

NOTE: I'm touching her ear and looking at her ear while chatting to her.

HB: not here but here haha

F: why you have one here and not one here

+ someone call her and she finishes the call

F: saleman is it?

F: I get a lot of sales calls as well

HB: confused

F: sales calls, sometimes you give your business cards out

HB: you have a business card

F: yeah yeah but not on me. We exchange numbers later on

HB: hehe

F: sometimes you give your cards out, and you get people calling you up, and try and sell you something

F: saying, do you want to be richer, do you want to be taller, do you want to go to Africa. that kind of thing

HB: yeah

F: actually you got really small arms

+ I put my hand over her small wrist.

F: it's very tiny, why is it so small

HB: I like it, I like small

NOTE: I think you should make it an aim, to kiss the girls asap. Just to get your escalation and sexual mindset down. To make it clear for yourself, why you are there. The mindset is your there to fuck her. Your not there to make friends and create small talk. It will destroy the interaction but you be able to escalate much quicker in the future. Your goal now is to crash the car and get her to say no. You should try and get into a sexual state, where you feel sexual in you body when chatting to the girls. It's like a horny sensation and that will put them in a certain state. Slow down your breathing until you get in this state.

F: that's good because being small, there is a lot of advantages. Like a super villan in a super hero movie, you can go inside a hole and run away.

HB: haha

F: I can't do it because I'm too big

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HB: haha

F: I can't do it because I'm too big

F: you're so cute like Hello Kitty, can i call you hello Kitty from now on

HB: but Hello kitty has no mouth

F: but your the new version of Hello Kitty

HB: No I don't like that

F: from now on we will create a Hello Kitty with a mouth, and we will become rich

HB: it's creepy, where is your Hello Kitty haha

F: I told you, it's on my bum, it's on the right side

HB: you swear

F: no no I'm kidding. I swear i don't have a Hello Kitty on my bum

HB giggles

HB: you ever want a tattoo

F: I want to but I feel if I ever make a mistake, I won't be able to take it off

HB: how many gf did you have? can you sit here, my neck hurts

+ I was sitting close to her but now she wants me to back away a bit

F: I think it's 5,762

HB: no seriously

F: I think about 9

+okay too high number. Make it around 6

HB: how many bf because you are bi

F; how many husbands do you have?

HHB haha

F: look at my eyes when you say that, how many husbands do you have?

+ I touch her knee. GOOD

HB: you always touch girls knees?

F: sorry, I didn't I realise

F: are you a rabbit, what kind of animal are you?
NOTE: this is too weird, don't say that again.

HB: I'm human haha

F: which star sign are you?

HB: you mean the Chinese zodiac

F: yes

HB: If i tell you, you will know my age

F: I know your age already, 28

HB blah

F: that's okay, eventually we all die and get older

HB: 9 girls is a lot

F: basically they are all from UK, through work or friends

F: I had a past, it's not good

HB: whats not good

F: I don't know, having 9 girlfriends of something

NOTE: this is not good. Your feeling bad about the past. You should just shrug it off.

F: how about you, you tell me something about you

HB: you said four and that's about right

F: really

HB: yeah

F: so what actually happened. is it because you moved from Vietnam to Uk?

HB: so are you with anyone

F: no

HB; so any bf

F: minus 2 points, for being so naughty

F: If you do well or come across charming, you get one point

HB: ok

F: did i answer your question, how many gfs i had

minutes 1.17.15

 

[fearlessuk]

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HB: blah

F: what do you think of that robot over there?
+ I'm in pret, I pointing towards a picture of food that look like a robot

HB: that's the new Hello Kitty. i don't like hello Kitty because

F: you don't like Hello kitty, I thought women like Hello kitty because

HB: You know why Hello kitty doesn't have mouth?

F: I think you are right, it is creepy

HB: no no no you said you like Hello Kitty

F: I don't like Hello Kitty, I'm joking

HB: haha

F: naughty girl, bad girl

HB: haha

F: your evil, your a gangster evil. Villain

HB: do you know why they don't have a mouth

F: yes, I'm curious too

HB: I don't know either hehe

F: you know what, i don't know either, I didn't realise

HB: I know, I'm just kidding

+ minutes 1.18.00. Because the kino is weak and you didn't project much sexual energy towards her. This kind of just went into a friendly vibe. If you did a man to women frame and if she did reject you, it's good because you won't be wasting your time.

HB: I heard she doesn't have mouth because she just wanted to listen

F: do you like Disneyland

HB: I haven't been

F: they have one in France

HB: I haven't been there

F: I hear you accent now, it's the Vietnamese accent.

HB: don't say that, you don't like it

F: I do, why you say i don't like it

HB: it's not true, it's not correct

F: I'm saying, I like your accent in general

HB: it's wrong, it's not correct

F: whats correct then?

HB: I try to apply for job her, please correct my English if i say it wrong hehe

HB: do you know the law of attraction

F: yeah

HB: I'm trying to apply that with my life

F: have you watched the movie the secret

HB: yes

F: that's interesting how you watched it and I watched it. Is that what your trying to, manifest

HB: I want to apply it to my situation right now, for the job

F: I think you do fine, your very smart and intelligent

HB: I think I need luck as well, I'm an international person. I want to apply the law of attraction in this situation.

F; you can do some magic and make it happen

HB: I'm a witch

F: what kind of witch are you?

HB: just a normal witch

+ I'm 1.23.00 minutes in. I feel like I'm running out of things to say which is normal. This obviously will go into the friend zone. She see's me as a interesting conservationist but that's about it. I feel my inner game is weak and my value is low. It comes across in the interaction. This is the blueprint in my mind that needs to change before I get laid. I'm waiting for the click moment to happen, until all of a sudden, I feel worthy of girls I'm talking to. The reason why I can have interesting conversations is because of my FRs and breaking things down. I know what to say to instant date a girl to a coffee shop, to get more reference experience. My fuck worthy levels, isn't there yet and hopefully that would change soon.

NOTE: stop saying gangster all the time. Your using it as a clutch. You know it, she knows it

HB: can you cook?
+ She is just continuing the conversation to be nice

F: hey you so naughty, give me you hand, minus one point
NOTE GOOD!!

HB: because you have to think

F: whats over there (point) can I bite you

F: yeah, i can cook, mainly i can cook Chinese food

F: steamed sea bass in soy sauce, I normally do stir fry vegetables with garlic, the other dish I do is chicken with ginger sauce

HB; have you tried the western of British dishes?

F: Yes, I can do pasta. I don't normal cook pasta anymore, after i eaten, I feel sleepy

HB: yes, there so much carbs

F: I love it and do have it sometimes, every time I eat too much. I take a nap

F: I guess if i make a little bit and don't eat too much, like a very small portion

HB: any British food

NOTE: she is qualifying me lol. I guess she wants to practice and on me, to find the right man for her, in the future. I'm her guinea pig, like how we are practising cold approach. She wants to hone in her skills to get better at finding honest signals with men.

F: I love Roast dinner but I don't cook it. I like to eat it. i just feels it takes a long time to cook a Sunday roast.

F: do you like roast dinner

HB: you mean cook

F: you don't know how to cook though, your useless. No no I'm kidding

HB: I'm useless
NOTE: see, she not falling into my frame. She wants to disqualify herself because she has no interest. Useless also is not a word that should be used. It's too strong and disrespectful to girls. Girls do not like this at all.

+ i guess if she is into you and then you say "no no I'm kidding" and hug her " Im sorry, I love you really " that might work.

F: so we have to look after you, you're the little one

HB: yes hehe

F: you are the hobbit

HB: I choose my bf really well

F: If you where my gf, I will get you to eat vegetables and fruit, go away go away, I'm not cooking.
NOTE: GOOD boundaries. It's good you at not falling into her frame.

HB: haha

+ I point at a picture of a fruit that looks like a cute animal

F: would you be able to eat that, if it was done like that? You probably go no, it's so cute. i love him

HB: blah

F: no

HB haha

HB: I tell the truth, if i don't like something, i say i don't like it

F: so your a fussy girl, i don't like this, this is rubbish

HB: haha

F: you one of the spoilt women that go, like that. (move my arms around)

F: this what we are going to do, I'm going to get my camera out and you will do a Vietnamese rap song

HB: haha

F: in the not so distant future, everyone will be useless and they will have an AI, that could do everything for them

HB: would you use AI

F: absolutely, I will create an AI of myself, a smarter version of myself, which learns quicker. this AI will tell me what to do and I will do it.

F: you might be laughing but it's true

F: why are you so thin, your very skinny

HB: I eat like

F: apples, you just eat apples everyday

HB: I eat carrots

F: don't get too much because one of the reasons why I say your hands are orange, your nose is a bit orange

HB: shocked but laughing

F: because that happened to me, I drank carrot juice. Every morning I had carrot juice. My mum was going, how come you look orange. i stopped it and my skin turned back to normal.

HB: spoke to mum this morning about me drink carrot juice lol

F: do you know there is orange people, walking around in the world in central London, they just drank too much carrot juice

F: they can't reverse it, but the only way they can reverse it, is to drink apple juice

F: I really like this, who got this for you

NOTE: I point at her neck less. I want to play around with it but she backed away. Good job for trying!!!

F: I like the way you say, nooo

HB: haha why you copy my accent

F:because I like you, you're very cute you know

HB: I look cute haha

F: yeah, your my type, I think you do, you look very cute. You kind of my type, kind of

HB: thank you haha

F: you don't want to be cute, you want to be pretty

NOTE: you got to stop nodding your head up and down. This destroys sexual tension with girls.

HB: some guys try to be nice but I do not know there personality. ( she tells a story of guys being nice to her but wanting something)

+ I tried to explain the psychology of male behaviour which was a mistake. I should just play dumb. If girls do that, just play dumb. Listen to her but don't give advice out.

NOTE: I felt she wanted to keep the conversation going because of my self amusement. She likes it and finds it interesting and different to other guys. Too bad I didn't turn on her sexual side. I do like the way I control my self amusement frame and it's quite fun.

minutes 135.15
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