Hey everybody,
First LR I'm writing up. Not my first lay, but I'm proud to write about this one because imo it's the first time I actively pursued a girl and got her. Every other time I wasn't the initiator so this feels like a true success. First date sex really is the only way to do it.
Meet:
I went out alone last week to a nightly tango class at a very well known tango place where mostly foreigners come in to get a few quick lessons. They split you into groups based on skill level and force people to switch partners so everybody gets some practice. Cool thing about tango is that its a close embrace dance where the man leads and the woman follows. It's very sexual in a controlled way that makes it very easy to get a read on the new girls you dance with. Some girls get overwhelmed and bow out, others have a very nervous shaky grip, and this girl was warm and solid.
# Close
We dance a bit, split, pair up again, and the classes end so we get caught in a full-floor dance where we get crowded out and I take her to the borders so we can catch a breather and talk. I've got to know her a bit by now and feel a great vibe so I tell her that now that the class is over we should go get a bite, as she told me earlier she was hungry. I ask her if she's missing her jacket and she remembers that she has to see her friend so she excuses herself. I hang back and wait a minute, figure its a loss and go to the bar to get a glass of water. I catch her on the way out of the club with her friend so I suggest sharing a cab where I win over her friend. We walk around a bit and as I'm asking for her plans her friend jumps in to remind us that she needs a date, so I grab her # and bid them a good night.
Texting
Text game was very minimalist and I think that's the best way to do it. We had a problem with international #s so she texted me her facebook and we went off that. Got her set for a lunch date today and that was that. Her text answers were always affirmative: yes, sure, yeah, ok, very straightforward. I messaged her this morning asking how she is today and realized that's completely unnecessary - she actually ignored that message until I followed up with a logistics message where she replied almost instantly. There really is no room for fluff when texting girls.
Date
Met at a popular intersection, small talk walked over to this rustic tapas restaurant a block from my apartment. Waitress was overly pleasant and it was clear she knew whats up - great service, very submissive, some cute sly grins - definitely gonna tag that next. Beautiful girl. I had no game plan in mind, everything I did and said was off the top of my head and felt very natural, I was certainly just being myself. We laughed a lot as we went into childhood memories, our studies, plans for the day, future plans, and adaptation to this new city we've moved to. Really no gimmicks, we even talked about teletubbies and how if she had a tv on her belly guys would love her, and how half of them would just stare at her tits. We got into cats vs dogs, which was another great opportunity for a pussy joke. She then mentioned how her teacher had her write about love and open relationships, so I knew from there what her motives were.
Pull and Close
During the lunch I brought up making some mate so that we can relax and she can show me what she learned in tango and got a good response, so there really was no need to cajole her into coming home with me. We just split the bill and walked over to my place. I prepared the mate, put on some music, drank it, then danced a bit. And by dance I mean I just led her to my bed, where I tripped us into it and commented on what bad dancers we are. She said that she just can't dance with me because I'm "rubbish", so I told her that she's right and maybe we should do something else. "Like what??"...sexy grin..."oh, I don't know"... but I'm sure you all do.
Takeaways
No resistance whatsoever, didn't need to construe any kind of elaborate chase frames or sexual framing, just laughed a lot as I got to know her and took things where they need to be. I credit this to tango - the kind of embrace you make with a woman and the way you lead her is just a perfect way to get the whole "You had me at hello" sensation. It's not about fancy footwork at all, you just need to carry your healthy strong posture into tango stance and lead well while making her feel warm and comfortable. I also felt that by moving her on top of me as I escalated it became clear that she wanted me, and it did a good job of eliminating any last second reconsideration.
Only thing I want to explore is the whole humor thing. People recommend not to be funny as you come across as a bit of an entertainer but it just comes naturally to me and it feels good to laugh so idk how to act on that. Maybe it's about laughing in a feel-good sexual way, because that certainly worked for me today. And by laugh I mean she's giggling, but it happens even as we escalate if I want it to and it does lead to no-LMR sex. She was happy to stay around after, and we fucked some more even though she was gonna be late to her next activity. This is all me speaking straight out of my mind, but I think the right kind of humor is golden.
- TR
First LR I'm writing up. Not my first lay, but I'm proud to write about this one because imo it's the first time I actively pursued a girl and got her. Every other time I wasn't the initiator so this feels like a true success. First date sex really is the only way to do it.
Meet:
I went out alone last week to a nightly tango class at a very well known tango place where mostly foreigners come in to get a few quick lessons. They split you into groups based on skill level and force people to switch partners so everybody gets some practice. Cool thing about tango is that its a close embrace dance where the man leads and the woman follows. It's very sexual in a controlled way that makes it very easy to get a read on the new girls you dance with. Some girls get overwhelmed and bow out, others have a very nervous shaky grip, and this girl was warm and solid.
# Close
We dance a bit, split, pair up again, and the classes end so we get caught in a full-floor dance where we get crowded out and I take her to the borders so we can catch a breather and talk. I've got to know her a bit by now and feel a great vibe so I tell her that now that the class is over we should go get a bite, as she told me earlier she was hungry. I ask her if she's missing her jacket and she remembers that she has to see her friend so she excuses herself. I hang back and wait a minute, figure its a loss and go to the bar to get a glass of water. I catch her on the way out of the club with her friend so I suggest sharing a cab where I win over her friend. We walk around a bit and as I'm asking for her plans her friend jumps in to remind us that she needs a date, so I grab her # and bid them a good night.
Texting
Text game was very minimalist and I think that's the best way to do it. We had a problem with international #s so she texted me her facebook and we went off that. Got her set for a lunch date today and that was that. Her text answers were always affirmative: yes, sure, yeah, ok, very straightforward. I messaged her this morning asking how she is today and realized that's completely unnecessary - she actually ignored that message until I followed up with a logistics message where she replied almost instantly. There really is no room for fluff when texting girls.
Date
Met at a popular intersection, small talk walked over to this rustic tapas restaurant a block from my apartment. Waitress was overly pleasant and it was clear she knew whats up - great service, very submissive, some cute sly grins - definitely gonna tag that next. Beautiful girl. I had no game plan in mind, everything I did and said was off the top of my head and felt very natural, I was certainly just being myself. We laughed a lot as we went into childhood memories, our studies, plans for the day, future plans, and adaptation to this new city we've moved to. Really no gimmicks, we even talked about teletubbies and how if she had a tv on her belly guys would love her, and how half of them would just stare at her tits. We got into cats vs dogs, which was another great opportunity for a pussy joke. She then mentioned how her teacher had her write about love and open relationships, so I knew from there what her motives were.
Pull and Close
During the lunch I brought up making some mate so that we can relax and she can show me what she learned in tango and got a good response, so there really was no need to cajole her into coming home with me. We just split the bill and walked over to my place. I prepared the mate, put on some music, drank it, then danced a bit. And by dance I mean I just led her to my bed, where I tripped us into it and commented on what bad dancers we are. She said that she just can't dance with me because I'm "rubbish", so I told her that she's right and maybe we should do something else. "Like what??"...sexy grin..."oh, I don't know"... but I'm sure you all do.
Takeaways
No resistance whatsoever, didn't need to construe any kind of elaborate chase frames or sexual framing, just laughed a lot as I got to know her and took things where they need to be. I credit this to tango - the kind of embrace you make with a woman and the way you lead her is just a perfect way to get the whole "You had me at hello" sensation. It's not about fancy footwork at all, you just need to carry your healthy strong posture into tango stance and lead well while making her feel warm and comfortable. I also felt that by moving her on top of me as I escalated it became clear that she wanted me, and it did a good job of eliminating any last second reconsideration.
Only thing I want to explore is the whole humor thing. People recommend not to be funny as you come across as a bit of an entertainer but it just comes naturally to me and it feels good to laugh so idk how to act on that. Maybe it's about laughing in a feel-good sexual way, because that certainly worked for me today. And by laugh I mean she's giggling, but it happens even as we escalate if I want it to and it does lead to no-LMR sex. She was happy to stay around after, and we fucked some more even though she was gonna be late to her next activity. This is all me speaking straight out of my mind, but I think the right kind of humor is golden.
- TR
