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- Jan 2, 2015
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I met PianoGirl at a big happy hour party singles event at a bar downtown. She was really exotic looking and a bit nerdy, so just my type. 
I remember teasing her with "your trouble", and getting some banter going with this theme. I even moved her (albeit a bit akwardly), and got her number while deep diving (she is a concert pianist), so I had a feeling things would go well with her. She did this despite apparently being there with a dude on what looked like a "date" of sorts.
The texting back and forth was golden, and went exactly the way zphinx and tool describe it in their post. I got her out on my first simple date (a beer and wine bar 5 minutes from my house), and all of her texts were reciprocating my winks and smiles.
So I get home from work to get ready meet her (our date was on a thu), and high winds have taken the power out at my house. Undeterred, I called the wine bar to find out they still have power. I then went and got some LED candles to put around my gas fireplace, and pulled out my battery powered speaker so I could use it to play music from my phone and dance with her in case I managed to pull her to my place.
I was hungry so I decided to go to the wine bar early for some food (we were meeting for drinks). There were all sorts of people there (due to the power being out many places) and for the hell of it I number closed this older blonde who turned out to be married. I'm still talking to the blonde when PianoGirl shows up late due to the power outage traffic (I'm sure the prequalification didn't hurt.).
We talk and deep dive a bit, and we cross over into sexual topics and repartee. All the while I've got my hand on her leg at the bar. I recall disqualifying myself as a bf by explaining that my last relationship was more than 10 years, so I'm not looking to commit at the moment. She seems really attracted to me, so in spite of the power outage I go for the pull, asking her if she wants to go have some chocolate and learn my favorite new dance. With some persisting on my part, she agrees to go, but says "just no sex, yet".
We get to my house and the power is still out, so I lead her to the bathroom with a flashlight and get the fireplace, LED candles, and music going to set the mood. We start dancing when she gets out, and I go for the kiss quickly, and we start making out. I manage to get to 2nd base quickly with chases nipple move (pull the shirt down), and she is really into it, moaning like crazy. This is the first time I hit her LMR when I try to get my hand down her pants. We talk and make out for hours after that, and after trying every LMR busting trick I know (wall slam, put her hands on me) I end up giving her an orgasm feeling her up through her pants. Even after holding my dick in her hand she won't take her clothes off (looking back a bj would have been a good idea at this point. *sigh*). Eventually she decides to leave, so I walk her out to her car and kiss her goodnight.
A couple days later I got a text from her saying she couldn't hang out with me, as she felt that I was just like several guys she had dated who only wanted sex once and lied about it. I made it clear I wanted more than sex once, just not a commitment, so I was not like these guys. This at least got her texting again to the point of maybe hanging out. I asked her over for an easy date (cook a meal), but got lots of flakiness, so I have left the ball clearly in her court. I am not expecting her to get in touch again (she clearly has other men in her life), but learned quite a bit.
Key takaways:
1) She had really big LMR to 1st date sex, and her trust issues make me wonder if going for an easy date 2nd date to create more anticipation and comfort would have been more effective that the 1st date pull attempt.
2) Once I had her home, rewarding her LMR with an orgasm and my blue balls obviously diminished my value bigtime. Push-pull and tons of arousal without satiation seem like they could have potentially busted through.
3) Seems like asking for a bj would have been a good idea, as getting one would have at least made the night feel like an equal exchange sexually.
I welcome all feedback,
SalsaChops
I remember teasing her with "your trouble", and getting some banter going with this theme. I even moved her (albeit a bit akwardly), and got her number while deep diving (she is a concert pianist), so I had a feeling things would go well with her. She did this despite apparently being there with a dude on what looked like a "date" of sorts.The texting back and forth was golden, and went exactly the way zphinx and tool describe it in their post. I got her out on my first simple date (a beer and wine bar 5 minutes from my house), and all of her texts were reciprocating my winks and smiles.
So I get home from work to get ready meet her (our date was on a thu), and high winds have taken the power out at my house. Undeterred, I called the wine bar to find out they still have power. I then went and got some LED candles to put around my gas fireplace, and pulled out my battery powered speaker so I could use it to play music from my phone and dance with her in case I managed to pull her to my place.
I was hungry so I decided to go to the wine bar early for some food (we were meeting for drinks). There were all sorts of people there (due to the power being out many places) and for the hell of it I number closed this older blonde who turned out to be married. I'm still talking to the blonde when PianoGirl shows up late due to the power outage traffic (I'm sure the prequalification didn't hurt.
).We talk and deep dive a bit, and we cross over into sexual topics and repartee. All the while I've got my hand on her leg at the bar. I recall disqualifying myself as a bf by explaining that my last relationship was more than 10 years, so I'm not looking to commit at the moment. She seems really attracted to me, so in spite of the power outage I go for the pull, asking her if she wants to go have some chocolate and learn my favorite new dance. With some persisting on my part, she agrees to go, but says "just no sex, yet".
We get to my house and the power is still out, so I lead her to the bathroom with a flashlight and get the fireplace, LED candles, and music going to set the mood. We start dancing when she gets out, and I go for the kiss quickly, and we start making out. I manage to get to 2nd base quickly with chases nipple move (pull the shirt down), and she is really into it, moaning like crazy. This is the first time I hit her LMR when I try to get my hand down her pants. We talk and make out for hours after that, and after trying every LMR busting trick I know (wall slam, put her hands on me) I end up giving her an orgasm feeling her up through her pants. Even after holding my dick in her hand she won't take her clothes off (looking back a bj would have been a good idea at this point. *sigh*). Eventually she decides to leave, so I walk her out to her car and kiss her goodnight.
A couple days later I got a text from her saying she couldn't hang out with me, as she felt that I was just like several guys she had dated who only wanted sex once and lied about it. I made it clear I wanted more than sex once, just not a commitment, so I was not like these guys. This at least got her texting again to the point of maybe hanging out. I asked her over for an easy date (cook a meal), but got lots of flakiness, so I have left the ball clearly in her court. I am not expecting her to get in touch again (she clearly has other men in her life), but learned quite a bit.
Key takaways:
1) She had really big LMR to 1st date sex, and her trust issues make me wonder if going for an easy date 2nd date to create more anticipation and comfort would have been more effective that the 1st date pull attempt.
2) Once I had her home, rewarding her LMR with an orgasm and my blue balls obviously diminished my value bigtime. Push-pull and tons of arousal without satiation seem like they could have potentially busted through.
3) Seems like asking for a bj would have been a good idea, as getting one would have at least made the night feel like an equal exchange sexually.
I welcome all feedback,
SalsaChops
