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FU  3 girls, failed to be dominant

jackoftades819

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At my college I went to the Student Union hangout again (see my last field report, "3rd day of college orientation") and it didn't go as well as last time. I saw a girl sitting alone in a chair by a pool table so I opened her with "you look like you're deep in thought". I keep the conversation going, but she's not responding to my deep diving and then she mentions she has a boyfriend. It took me a few minutes to figure out that her boyfriend was actually playing pool next to us so I ejected. note: Afterwards the boyfriend was all PDA with her for a good half hour after so I must have been doing something right.

After a while I notice a girl with a nice ass waiting by the Dance Dance Revolution machine so I place myself in a chair near her planning to open indirectly. It took me WAY longer than it should've but I opened with "are you single?". Here's the conversation:
ME: Hey, are you single?
HER: Yes, why are you asking?
ME: Just curious.
HER: Oh. So what do you want?
ME: Just to talk to you. Come here, sit next to me.
HER: No thanks. (She turns back around)
I eject quickly and move to the other side of the room. I knew I screwed up badly and couldn't figure out how I should have recovered.

I see another hot girl but she's playing pool with her friends so I don't open. I play pool and darts for a while with some of the guys there and while I'm playing darts, an Asian girl comes up with her friends and says that I'm pretty good (I was winning). I say thanks and get her name, she's smiling a lot and giggling. They move to the arcade machines and I finish up the game. I reopen the Asian and attempt to move her but she doesn't comply. I deep dive into her choice of major, trying to touch her but she keeps pulling away. She suddenly leaves to go join her friends and I attempt to stop her this time but I'm unable to get a word in.

I figure my main issues were with being dominant. With the first girl, I don't think there was much I could have done. The second one was easily my biggest fuck up, I reacted poorly because I didn't expect her to shut me down so quickly. Same with the third girl except I think I may have missed an escalation window when she approached me or she was just being nice. So I guess I need to figure out how to get over approach anxiety with hotter girls, how to be smoother, and how to get investment so girls will move with me.
 

jackoftades819

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UPDATE: FU: 3 girls, failed to be dominant

Just remembered that during my deep diving with the Asian girl, she reveals to me that she got into her BioMed major because a relative died of cancer and she wants to use her knowledge to help people. I think she made some sort of remark that implied she thought I was a sophomore instead of a freshman. I think this makes for a lot of investment so I'm not sure why she didn't move with me or why she bailed on me.
 
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NarrowJ

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jack,

ME: Hey, are you single?

HER: Yes, why are you asking?
ME: Just curious.
HER: Oh. So what do you want?

ME: Just to talk to you. Come here, sit next to me.
HER: No thanks. (She turns back around)
I eject quickly and move to the other side of the room. I knew I screwed up badly and couldn't figure out how I should have recovered.

Saying "just curious" is the wrong response there, which is why she was all like "Oh. So what do you want?". Tell her why:

- I think you're gorgeous and I'd love to chat and get to know you a little more.
- I love the way you walk- so feminine, yet confident at the same time. So what's your name?
- You just have this positive charisma about you. I felt drawn to you, so I just had to say "hi".
- I like you're style. [compliment something she's wearing]. You from around here? I'm jack...
- Your hair looks amazing, girl... so luscious and flowing.
- There's just something about you that I can't quite put my finger on just yet, so I wanted to find out what that something was...

Compliment her!

Sexy eye contact, strong posture/body language. You'll be good to go. Even if she's not interested, compliments make a girl's day. You'll get to a point where you even enjoy the rejections too. :)


J.J.
 
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