3 simple questions about general approach to take about things. Answer please?

[sneaky_charm]

Hi all!

Well, so I have 3 questions:

1. I met this girl after cold approaching, and she was totally into me on the date. Then, after about 3 days or so of meeting her, I saw her with 3 guy friends in a park. I think she saw me too. However, since she was out with other people, I didn't approach her thinking doing that won't be socially savvy thing to do. Do you guys approach if a girl you know is with other people and you happen to see her?

2. So I texted that night something about seeing her, but she denied seeing me. Although I'm pretty sure she blushed after seeing me in the park. So is it best to not bring up the topic at all if I see a girl somewhere else? I also saw this hairdresser who was in the park, and when I asked after a week or two when I went for haircut whether she was in the park with friends, she denied too. So is it best if I NEVER say that I saw you somewhere, even if I'm 100% sure they saw me too?

3. Texted the first girl today to meetup, and when I suggested place and asked when she was free, she said 'i'll let you know' (FUCK, I'M JUST WETTING MY FEET, AND THAT FUCKING LINE IS CHASING ME ALREADY!) After a while of thinking, I texted her something like "let's not meet this week....see you after I return from xxx ", two which she replied "okayyy.... " I did that because I thought she won't get back to me with time. Was that a good move, or a bad move?

- Kevin

 

[Thedoctor]

Re: 3 simple questions about general approach to take about things. Answer pleas

Kevin,

1. I met this girl after cold approaching, and she was totally into me on the date. Then, after about 3 days or so of meeting her, I saw her with 3 guy friends in a park. I think she saw me too. However, since she was out with other people, I didn't approach her thinking doing that won't be socially savvy thing to do. Do you guys approach if a girl you know is with other people and you happen to see her?

If she is by herself, I probably would under most circumstances. If she is with other people, however, I'd just smile and acknowledge her if she noticed me and carry on with what I was doing. You don't want to meet any of her friends until before you've slept with her, or you'll be slotted in the Boyfriend category.

2. So I texted that night something about seeing her, but she denied seeing me. Although I'm pretty sure she blushed after seeing me in the park. So is it best to not bring up the topic at all if I see a girl somewhere else? I also saw this hairdresser who was in the park, and when I asked after a week or two when I went for haircut whether she was in the park with friends, she denied too. So is it best if I NEVER say that I saw you somewhere, even if I'm 100% sure they saw me too?

Nope, if she saw you, she'll bring it up. By not bringing it up, you don't make it a big deal. Plus, there's always a chance she didn't see you, even if you are sure she looked right at you.

3. Texted the first girl today to meetup, and when I suggested place and asked when she was free, she said 'i'll let you know' (FUCK, I'M JUST WETTING MY FEET, AND THAT FUCKING LINE IS CHASING ME ALREADY!) After a while of thinking, I texted her something like "let's not meet this week....see you after I return from xxx ", two which she replied "okayyy.... " I did that because I thought she won't get back to me with time. Was that a good move, or a bad move?

You should have waited for her reply, usually give it at least a few days. It's amazing how effective radio silence is. Typically, if I don't get a response after a text, I don't send another.

-John

 

[sneaky_charm]

Re: 3 simple questions about general approach to take about things. Answer pleas

Nope, if she saw you, she'll bring it up.

Will keep that in mind next time.

It's amazing how effective radio silence is.

I have yet to experience it, but then again, I've never had a situation where I gave radio silence! My emotions run wild suddenly, and I end up sending some gibberish!

- Kevin