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Well guys, yesterday was my 4th and final night out in a row and it was a good one. I am going to have a break and my next night out will probably be in the club requiring the hiring of an Airbnb as I am getting fed up of walking up and down the high street for game. Also, I am finding street approaches seem to lack the context of venue approaches and thus the probability is oh so low.
My usual street approach is a variation on "Hi girls, looking amazing, how is your night going?"
This doesn't usually hook the set and a lot of sets don't usually stop for this even from a frontal approach.
I would say it was pretty quiet in my small approaching city out last night.
Venue 1
I went to a venue known as a "games bar" where they served their clients alcohol and also had these games for people to play. It seems someone is getting married, there is a bride and people wearing those things that go diagonally with "bridesmaids" written on them or whatever.
This puts me in my head as there are a lot of them there and it makes me feel like I have gatecrashed a private event without realising, however it does seem that it is open to the public as well. I see a group of young people who look like they are separate, which confirms it is open to the public.
I see a hot girl who is part of a group of people not involved in the wedding and trying asking "hey, is this someone's wedding tonight or what" I try once and get ignored. I try again and get ignored. I'm pretty sure, she is deliberately ignoring me. Not wanting to attract the security, I decide to try talking to a group of blokes, just to warm up. They also either can't hear me or ignore me. One tries to offer his ear to hear me and I try talking into it but he can't hear. So I hang around a bit more but this venue is not really on an "approaching vibe" and I do feel self conscious being on my own.
So after using the bathroom I decide to head back out to the high street and get some proper street approaches in. I get a couple in and walk up and down the high street a few times before I got into a chat with a "big issue" magazine seller. He started talking about approaching girls, giving tips and advice from his perspective. So, we stuck a deal. I bought him a beer and he would show me his game. To be fair, he got us solidly into 2 sets. One set of 3 girls and one guy on the street and one pair of 2 girls inside a venue.
The 3 set on the street was a hot brunette who was drunk and loud, the problem with girls like this is that I have no idea how to interact with them. They were tying to get us to sing along to a song, and as you know, I do not do that kind of thing. They were with this weird little young presumably Spanish guy who they seemed to have met that night. The big issue selling guy was good in this interaction, but I had no idea.
So there was no matching vibe with that set and as such I did not try to close the set as it was clear I felt awkward. The little brunette was my type. A real sticking point is dealing with loud over excited drunk girls. I have no idea what to do. In the end, I actually wanted to get away from them and continue with our objective of going to the venue. Should I have asked for her number? I couldn't see her giving it, we had barely spoken.
The venue
The venue is a small place down a side street where most of the revellers tend to congregate on the street outside due to the small size of the indoor area. This is good for me as I find outdoors less cloustrophobic than indoors.
He also tried another set inside the venue but they were a set I had approached on the street and got a blowout so I warned him off them because I didn't want them to make a fuss about us to the security and the venue is generally known as a "safe" venue as I haven't had any run ins with the security there.
So I open another pair standing against the wall. It seems that this set were not too drunk. The two girls were quite chavy but it was still good. A somewhat fat one was the one talking to me and she was quite close, it was nice. She was a 6/10, more than doable and had a large chest. I could feel tinglings in my groin area as she was speaking quite close to my face which is always a good sign that they are atleast somewhat attracted.
Now, he was carrying the interaction for sure. But, at one point, one girl was talking to him and the bigger girl was talking to me. This was when I experienced groinal tinglings. The large chested chavy girl was talking close to my face and I liked it.
In the end, he blew the set, by suggesting he was leaving and asking them to "look after" me. They said "we have to go" and went to sit down on benches. I don't blame him, I know he was trying to get them to stay with me, but I have no idea what to do with girls at a venue other than some small talk, followed by an attempted number close and then try to repeat that process with another set. So what would I have done if they agreed to "look after me" anyway. How would I have escalated that to a lay? The big chested chavy girl was actually from the small town adjacent to the one where I live.
He and I went inside and he got talking to another guy which he knew from another occasion, at which point I took my leave. I like the freedom of pounding the high street, I find venues cloustrophobic and restrictive. More than 1 approach per venue feels like I am pushing my luck unless it is a club where approaching can be hidden more easily. But even then, as my experience a few months ago shows, you have to be careful even in the club.
And, bear in mind, this guy was a skinny alcoholic 50 year old who was quite stinky, no offense to him. But he was getting results. The girls seemed to enjoy his openers. His philosophy when talking to girls was "as soon as you think, it's over". He also had a benefit from being drunk, he had a pocket bottle of vodka to help get him through his shift of selling magazines on the street.
I actually think I have already spoken to him in daygame, as he seemed vaguely familiar. I do try to give the homeless/big issue sellers some time of day as well, when I am out on daygame.
After the interactions with my newfound wing, I am back pounding the high street. I have about an hour before I have to catch the last bus at 2315 and that means I can get a couple of street approaches in.
A notable street approach was when a 3 set was coming towards me in the old high street part. It was completely deserted, apart from a tourist couple who I don't think were too impressed with the city or British nightlife in general.
As the 3 set were coming towards me, I open with "Girls...HI" as I planted my feet directly in front of the group.
The group paid attention, but did not stop, despite me getting directly in front of them.
I tried to make conversation by asking "how's you're night going" as they were walking away. They said "good thanks" so I ask a last ditch "do you want to hang out later" to which they said "No, thanks" in that sarcastic chavy way they often do.
They were very hot and I didn't expect much success. But I was happy for 2 reasons.
1. It was a dark, deserted high street and I usually wouldn't approach due to the self limiting belief that it would be "too creepy".
2. They were classically hot chavs and I know the chances of a result with them are slim. Despite this, it was a strong approach. I really liked my voice tonality and how I paused before saying "Hi" as I planted my feet in front of the set.
After this set, I walked past the weatherspoon's where I was challenged by skin heads a couple of years ago.
A group of lads jostling boisterously with each other bumped into the tourist couple. I think the guy was annoyed as he shoved one of them away. The lads were too drunk to react. I do not think the suspected Spanish tourist liked their general behaviour and I do not blame him. I hate the British so called "nightlife" culture, I really do. But it's where the sexy girls are.
I am normally too scared to approach outside this venue, but I saw too girls sitting outside as I was walking by and just did a quick "hit and run" and opened with "Hi, you girls look great" to which they said "no thanks". The whole approach was over in about 5 seconds and I leave before security can take notice. I look back and the security guard doesn't go over to check in with them, which is a good sign they might have forgotten me. Or atleast the approach was not too obvious.
After this, my bus is due, so I go back to the main square and do a weak "not directly Infront" approach on a couple of girls going into McDonald's (hey, what can I say, in this city, the "main course" is a helping of chavs with a side of more chavs) where they don't stop for me but I say I think they look "really really really good" as a jokey exaggeration. They say "thanks" as they disappear into the barriers designed to funnel people into the entrance and keep revellers from causing trouble.
Well, that is a sum of the night out. I would say out of the 4 weekends in a row, this one was the best. The big issue magazine seller was clearly a highlight of the night. He was actually good but how much of it was due to alcohol? The reason I don't drink alcohol is 1. For training, I need all the Test I can get due to bodybuilding and martial arts. 2. Because I don't want to rely on alcohol to get into state.
It does seem that reactions are better when you are with a wing. The 2 set in the venue with the big chested chavy girl was a highlight and a memory to savour. The overly excited little brunette in the 3 set was also fun. But a hassle to chat to.
I am glad to have pushed myself to go out 4 weekends in a row but I can safely say I do not enjoy it. It is inefficient and such ridiculously low probability to even get a phone number. The best I can hope for is an interaction that lasts more than 1 minute. Forget about a lay, I am lucky if I can experience groinal tinglings. Groinal tinglings are the closest I think I am ever going to get to a lay.
I do think club game needs revisiting as I suppose part of the "social proof," of club game is that you have been allowed into the venue and are not just some random weird guy harassing girls on the high street.
However, to do so, I will need a hotel (approx £80 per night) or Airbnb (approx £60 per night) to stay late enough to hit the club. And then to have a chance of a lay it has to be near enough to bring the venue to bring the girl back and lay her.
And, I do want a break from my small approaching city. I can feel, it is time for change. I want anonymity, where I am not paranoid that girls or security guards have seen me walking up and down and think I'm weird for it. Dare I say "London is calling"....
Maybe my next field report will be from the big, bad city! Stay tuned...
My usual street approach is a variation on "Hi girls, looking amazing, how is your night going?"
This doesn't usually hook the set and a lot of sets don't usually stop for this even from a frontal approach.
I would say it was pretty quiet in my small approaching city out last night.
Venue 1
I went to a venue known as a "games bar" where they served their clients alcohol and also had these games for people to play. It seems someone is getting married, there is a bride and people wearing those things that go diagonally with "bridesmaids" written on them or whatever.
This puts me in my head as there are a lot of them there and it makes me feel like I have gatecrashed a private event without realising, however it does seem that it is open to the public as well. I see a group of young people who look like they are separate, which confirms it is open to the public.
I see a hot girl who is part of a group of people not involved in the wedding and trying asking "hey, is this someone's wedding tonight or what" I try once and get ignored. I try again and get ignored. I'm pretty sure, she is deliberately ignoring me. Not wanting to attract the security, I decide to try talking to a group of blokes, just to warm up. They also either can't hear me or ignore me. One tries to offer his ear to hear me and I try talking into it but he can't hear. So I hang around a bit more but this venue is not really on an "approaching vibe" and I do feel self conscious being on my own.
So after using the bathroom I decide to head back out to the high street and get some proper street approaches in. I get a couple in and walk up and down the high street a few times before I got into a chat with a "big issue" magazine seller. He started talking about approaching girls, giving tips and advice from his perspective. So, we stuck a deal. I bought him a beer and he would show me his game. To be fair, he got us solidly into 2 sets. One set of 3 girls and one guy on the street and one pair of 2 girls inside a venue.
The 3 set on the street was a hot brunette who was drunk and loud, the problem with girls like this is that I have no idea how to interact with them. They were tying to get us to sing along to a song, and as you know, I do not do that kind of thing. They were with this weird little young presumably Spanish guy who they seemed to have met that night. The big issue selling guy was good in this interaction, but I had no idea.
So there was no matching vibe with that set and as such I did not try to close the set as it was clear I felt awkward. The little brunette was my type. A real sticking point is dealing with loud over excited drunk girls. I have no idea what to do. In the end, I actually wanted to get away from them and continue with our objective of going to the venue. Should I have asked for her number? I couldn't see her giving it, we had barely spoken.
The venue
The venue is a small place down a side street where most of the revellers tend to congregate on the street outside due to the small size of the indoor area. This is good for me as I find outdoors less cloustrophobic than indoors.
He also tried another set inside the venue but they were a set I had approached on the street and got a blowout so I warned him off them because I didn't want them to make a fuss about us to the security and the venue is generally known as a "safe" venue as I haven't had any run ins with the security there.
So I open another pair standing against the wall. It seems that this set were not too drunk. The two girls were quite chavy but it was still good. A somewhat fat one was the one talking to me and she was quite close, it was nice. She was a 6/10, more than doable and had a large chest. I could feel tinglings in my groin area as she was speaking quite close to my face which is always a good sign that they are atleast somewhat attracted.
Now, he was carrying the interaction for sure. But, at one point, one girl was talking to him and the bigger girl was talking to me. This was when I experienced groinal tinglings. The large chested chavy girl was talking close to my face and I liked it.
In the end, he blew the set, by suggesting he was leaving and asking them to "look after" me. They said "we have to go" and went to sit down on benches. I don't blame him, I know he was trying to get them to stay with me, but I have no idea what to do with girls at a venue other than some small talk, followed by an attempted number close and then try to repeat that process with another set. So what would I have done if they agreed to "look after me" anyway. How would I have escalated that to a lay? The big chested chavy girl was actually from the small town adjacent to the one where I live.
He and I went inside and he got talking to another guy which he knew from another occasion, at which point I took my leave. I like the freedom of pounding the high street, I find venues cloustrophobic and restrictive. More than 1 approach per venue feels like I am pushing my luck unless it is a club where approaching can be hidden more easily. But even then, as my experience a few months ago shows, you have to be careful even in the club.
And, bear in mind, this guy was a skinny alcoholic 50 year old who was quite stinky, no offense to him. But he was getting results. The girls seemed to enjoy his openers. His philosophy when talking to girls was "as soon as you think, it's over". He also had a benefit from being drunk, he had a pocket bottle of vodka to help get him through his shift of selling magazines on the street.
I actually think I have already spoken to him in daygame, as he seemed vaguely familiar. I do try to give the homeless/big issue sellers some time of day as well, when I am out on daygame.
After the interactions with my newfound wing, I am back pounding the high street. I have about an hour before I have to catch the last bus at 2315 and that means I can get a couple of street approaches in.
A notable street approach was when a 3 set was coming towards me in the old high street part. It was completely deserted, apart from a tourist couple who I don't think were too impressed with the city or British nightlife in general.
As the 3 set were coming towards me, I open with "Girls...HI" as I planted my feet directly in front of the group.
The group paid attention, but did not stop, despite me getting directly in front of them.
I tried to make conversation by asking "how's you're night going" as they were walking away. They said "good thanks" so I ask a last ditch "do you want to hang out later" to which they said "No, thanks" in that sarcastic chavy way they often do.
They were very hot and I didn't expect much success. But I was happy for 2 reasons.
1. It was a dark, deserted high street and I usually wouldn't approach due to the self limiting belief that it would be "too creepy".
2. They were classically hot chavs and I know the chances of a result with them are slim. Despite this, it was a strong approach. I really liked my voice tonality and how I paused before saying "Hi" as I planted my feet in front of the set.
After this set, I walked past the weatherspoon's where I was challenged by skin heads a couple of years ago.
A group of lads jostling boisterously with each other bumped into the tourist couple. I think the guy was annoyed as he shoved one of them away. The lads were too drunk to react. I do not think the suspected Spanish tourist liked their general behaviour and I do not blame him. I hate the British so called "nightlife" culture, I really do. But it's where the sexy girls are.
I am normally too scared to approach outside this venue, but I saw too girls sitting outside as I was walking by and just did a quick "hit and run" and opened with "Hi, you girls look great" to which they said "no thanks". The whole approach was over in about 5 seconds and I leave before security can take notice. I look back and the security guard doesn't go over to check in with them, which is a good sign they might have forgotten me. Or atleast the approach was not too obvious.
After this, my bus is due, so I go back to the main square and do a weak "not directly Infront" approach on a couple of girls going into McDonald's (hey, what can I say, in this city, the "main course" is a helping of chavs with a side of more chavs) where they don't stop for me but I say I think they look "really really really good" as a jokey exaggeration. They say "thanks" as they disappear into the barriers designed to funnel people into the entrance and keep revellers from causing trouble.
Well, that is a sum of the night out. I would say out of the 4 weekends in a row, this one was the best. The big issue magazine seller was clearly a highlight of the night. He was actually good but how much of it was due to alcohol? The reason I don't drink alcohol is 1. For training, I need all the Test I can get due to bodybuilding and martial arts. 2. Because I don't want to rely on alcohol to get into state.
It does seem that reactions are better when you are with a wing. The 2 set in the venue with the big chested chavy girl was a highlight and a memory to savour. The overly excited little brunette in the 3 set was also fun. But a hassle to chat to.
I am glad to have pushed myself to go out 4 weekends in a row but I can safely say I do not enjoy it. It is inefficient and such ridiculously low probability to even get a phone number. The best I can hope for is an interaction that lasts more than 1 minute. Forget about a lay, I am lucky if I can experience groinal tinglings. Groinal tinglings are the closest I think I am ever going to get to a lay.
I do think club game needs revisiting as I suppose part of the "social proof," of club game is that you have been allowed into the venue and are not just some random weird guy harassing girls on the high street.
However, to do so, I will need a hotel (approx £80 per night) or Airbnb (approx £60 per night) to stay late enough to hit the club. And then to have a chance of a lay it has to be near enough to bring the venue to bring the girl back and lay her.
And, I do want a break from my small approaching city. I can feel, it is time for change. I want anonymity, where I am not paranoid that girls or security guards have seen me walking up and down and think I'm weird for it. Dare I say "London is calling"....
Maybe my next field report will be from the big, bad city! Stay tuned...
