5 Signs You’re a Slave to Your Emotions

[andrewzx]

Hey guys,

I've found an article that really hits home with how I feel, 5 Signs You’re a Slave to Your Emotions.


Now, I have followed Chases' and others advice on what to do when you Can't Stop Thinking About Her? And I understand how an “Abundance Mentality” plays an important role in the process of becoming truly in control of your emotions toward women.

But, how do you deal with the pain, the kind of pain where your brain is literally pumping stress hormones throughout your body. The pain you can literally feel in your heart. These feelings are obviously far to extreme for the conditions that I, and most of us, endure. (meaning we are feeling overly shitty over not a big deal)

At least for me personally, this is greatly deceasing the quality of my life and makes everything feel so bleak and rather dismal. How have you guys dealt with this before?

TLDR:
Please provide insights on how to become the master of your own emotions. And while gaining control of your emotions how to endure the pain that comes with being a servant to your emotions.

 

[Knightrain]

I have dealt with these sorts of feelings before, gone through periods of time when I was depressed, constantly ruminating about negative things, and I only got like 5 hours a sleep a night. I've been managing to climb out of these unpleasant emotions, 2 steps forward and one step back usually, for a while now I've been feeling much better and happier and I'm more "in control" of my emotions than ever before. Recently, I'm constantly being told that I smile a lot and have a big smile ..... I'll see if I can help

First, I'd say that you should internalize in your mind that permanent happiness and general contentedness doesn't come from material things (including girls). Rich and famous people are sometimes depressed, drug addicted, suicidal ... while according to brain scans, Buddhist Monks (who have few material objects and are often celibate) are some of the happiest people around.

As far as the mind goes, there are no external solutions to internal problems.

Also internalizing this quote helped me a lot: "You see the world not as it is, but as you are"

Mastering your emotions:

-Read Ricardus's "The success factor", he goes over a lot about controlling emotions, very useful. And obviously "Master your feelings" by the Chase is required reading. Meditation was helpful for getting myself to a neutral state of mind, so I could then introduce positive thoughts and the emotions that go along with them. I think theres a few other articles on Girlshchase about controlling your emotions. If you want more, go get some psychology books that are made for this (Barnes and Noble has like 5 books about this stuff).

-Self knowledge: Understanding where these thoughts come from is important, knowing what thoughts cause your emotions is important. You can't change what you don't know.

-Practice, controlling emotions is very hard at first, it felt impossible for a while.

Basically, you stop the cycle of negative thoughts that cause these unwanted emotions, and replace them with thoughts that help you achieve your desired emotions.


How to endure emotional pain while recovering:

-Just endure it, use your pain as fuel for change. I don't know what else you can do.


I can't tell from your post exactly what feelings you're having, and why you think you're having them. These details are very important for more specific help...

Are you the one having pain "you can literally feel in your heart"?
What exact thoughts trigger these emotions (there's always a thought)?

Answering these question would help.


Disclaimer: A lot of this is my own BS opinion and experience, I am not a nueroscientst, psychologist, biologist, therapist or high school graduate.