NarrowJ said:
She doesn't know how to articulate x and y and z. She'll either give you a hard "no!" or other than that you're free to keep leading.
Yep, NJ hit the nail on the head. With the few women that I have dated with language barriers, this is what happens. The main thing is to not let this get you down. Keep persisting -- well, obviously, don't keep persisting into rape. But, do a quick, spontaneous kiss and pull back. If she says "no," just realize that she's not able to fully articulate the reasons, so it may not actually mean "no" but instead mean "not right now, maybe later." Tone of voice is key!
Tone of voice is also key for you. I've had women tell me that my voice is so sexy, yet they couldn't understand most of what I said. Remember bedroom, deep, slow voice.
Because of the direct no's, you want to avoid obvious no questions more so than other girls. I've also gotten into problems getting caught into a no-ladder because of this -- which is just a downward spiral.
Another thing is that you may run into an area where you can't fully express yourself or she can't fully express herself. Instead of trying to persist on that topic (one of the few times I will say not to persist), change to a different topic. If you're on a really good topic, you can thread off on a sub-topic.
bowling, amusement parks, or movies
These may be okay if you have a 2nd place to transition her too. I'd say that an amusement-park-like place may be the best -- like a fair with little games you can do together. I've had okay experiences with bowling and movies, but they're always just "okay."
Actually, a museum or botanical gardens is actually not that bad. When conversation runs out, you just look at the "pretty" things. Then while looking at them, you think of some conversation. Also, while you walk around the place, you lead her with your hand on her lower back. You can lean in close and whisper in her ear, "Look at that!" The implied restriction of being silent helps with this in museums.
Therefore, I suggest a museum, the botanical gardens, or even billiards pool if really worried about language barriers (you can play a game while still getting more intimate/closer than bowling and more possible conversation). Here is a date that I've done before, and it went well, just substitute "botanical gardens" with wherever you would be going.
- Bring a spanish-english book and a bag to hold food.
- Go to a local grocery store and buy some finger food together (think picnic); I usually buy wine here, but you can get sparkling grape juice instead
. Conversation can be about if she cooks, what food she likes, favorite non-spanish food, etc. You help each other pick out food and "accidentally" touch her hand a few times and lead her with hand on lower back.
- Go to botanical gardens, park car a far ways out (private), and walk around looking at the beautiful flowers, etc. If you can't think of conversation, just go to some more plants. Use the book when necessary.
- Find a spot to eat after a while and sit there in the grass and eat.
- At the end of eating is where you want to make your moves. Either you can playfully eat dessert together or just put your arm around her and eventually get the kiss in.
- You can try to get sex here. It depends on how good the date has been and how much she wants you. With the language barrier, you may not be able to, and you definitely won't be able to if it's crowded that day.
- Move to the car (hopefully in a private area). Turn some music on and sit in the back seat with her. If you've already kissed in the gardens, you can hopefully start making out with her here. You can have dessert here instead if you want.
If you can, try to plan out the entire conversation before the night. This way you can go ahead and look up all of the words. This is a lot of effort though, and I don't suggest this unless you have a full day to kill...
Best of luck.
