A difficult one

[holahola]

Hello to everybody. I just wanted to have your opinion on this one.
I met a girl in a club and started to talk to her and so forth and by the end of the night I escalated to kissing and dry humping. The situation was very hot and almost to the point to take her to the restrooms, but suddenly her friend came over and literally took her out of my hands and away from the club. The girl was married and was from another city, visiting her friend. I did not even manage to get her number. The day after, it was really stinging. I managed to find her via some social network and contacted her via a short but meaningful text, and about 15 days later she did simply "friended" me, but with no message. But now I got her email.
Now, it happens that I often visit for work the city were this girl lives, and I would reeeeally like to finish what I started. How do you think should I approach her? I am mainly concerned about how much of a sexual tones I should put in my message to avoid scaring her off. What do you reckon?
Thanks
Antonio

 

[Clout]

Hey holahola,

Congrats on the pull & dry hump. I would suggest to not escalate anywhere that doesn't allow you to finish the deed privately, the transition can cause heavier resistance while logic has time to creep into her mind. In regards to the friend, if you escalate a girl in front of her friends (unless they are supper liberal and not jealous what-so-ever) as they will think their friend has no idea what she is doing and they must "save" her from the evil man.

She friended you so she can't think you were too much of a mistake, I would simply message her 4'ish days before you go there "Hey (Name), I am visiting your native land for a few days, fancy showing me around...maps are over-rated (Your Name)". I wouldn't; make it long/try to convince her/justify anything.

Don't try and replace her hubby, just show her you can be her lover without anyone else finding out.