A few questions after the first night out

[Sphinx]

Hey guys I'm new to the forums and hopefully be posting semi-regularly to improve myself in most aspects of becoming better with women and a better version of myself in general. I'm a college age guy and in general a pretty chill guy. I've been lurking and reading on girls chase for a couple of months now but i've decided to actually put 100 percent effort into this to see some results and stop waiting for some magical impetus to be bestowed upon me. So with that I'd like your advice on what I should look into to help improve my situation. I should apologize in advance, writing isn't my strong suit but i'll try to keep it on point and concise.

Last night I was invited to two parties and I made it my goal to talk to a few new girls that night with the only mandatory goal of actually sustaining the conversation. For the most part I used situational openers just to get talking since of what I've read It doesn't really matter how you begin talking its just that you do. So as I talk to the ladies I try to use screening be asking if they like traveling or trying new things like foreign languages. I'm getting smiles and positive reactions and I would use physical contact like fist bumps and hive fives which I know is awkward and lame but all I know thus far. After a while of talking they there would be some interruption and then a pause which i don't know how to recover from and after an awkward pause they would leave while saying it was nice to meet you. Looking back upon this it seems to me I'm not getting enough investment from them and that the conversation was boring. Most of the interactions lasted about 20 min so I also feel that i wasted too much time in just talking and should have gone for a number and then continued about the party. Is this the correct way of thinking or what should i do in cases like those? As a final question how sexual should one get in a conversation thats going well with a new person? With my friends I have no problems making innuendo's when they work with the situation but as soon as I start talking to someone new for some reason I can't think of anything. What do you guys do for that?

Sorry if this came across as confusing but I hope my message still makes it through. How do you guys work on your conversation skills? Is it more interactions or finding more topics to talk about?

 

[Mr.Rob]

Dude you sound like you're doing awesome! The main thing as a beginner is just getting used to having conversations with strange women until it becomes more natural and something you're comfortable with.

Most of the interactions lasted about 20 min so I also feel that i wasted too much time in just talking and should have gone for a number and then continued about the party. Is this the correct way of thinking or what should i do in cases like those?

20 minute conversations are fantastic man! That's awesome you're able to talk that long. Where I live their is an almost weirdly large community of pickup newbies that go approach 20 girls a night and have twenty 30 second conversations before getting blown out.

They don't get the experience of holding a conversation and learning to "vibe" with people.

Yeah you can definitely start going for the number to get experience doing so but for the most part getting numbers at night aren't going to lead to much fruition unless the girl is actually very interested in you or you have some other form of friendship value to offer (a cool party or something).

However if you want to practice asking for numbers and getting used to that I say go for it since it'll be something you need to learn soon anyway. Just remember you can get a number from a girl and then keep talking to her afterward. A lot of guys think once you get a number you need to exit the interaction.

As a final question how sexual should one get in a conversation thats going well with a new person?

With my friends I have no problems making innuendo's when they work with the situation but as soon as I start talking to someone new for some reason I can't think of anything. What do you guys do for that?

You can get super sexual if you want. However as a beginner this isn't something I would worry about focusing too much on unless it just comes out naturally for you. Instead you want to be focusing on approaching a lot of girls, having engaging conversations and reaching the hook point (where women are actively engaged/interested and not merely being friendly towards you), moving locations with the girl (google GC move girls), and getting numbers/dates from numbers.

Once you get all that down you can start adding the "frosting on the cake" and start having more sexual conversations which is more advanced.

Good luck friend,

-Rob