a girl doesn't ask me any personal questions.

[letsdoit]

So, for about a month+ I've been seeing this girl from my extended social circle. I was at first slow to move forward with her, so I thought I almost put her in auto-rejection. So I started the whole dynamic a bit weak. I took her out from there though and now we've been seeing each other around 1 time a week for like a month. Sometimes it's that we've spent literally a few days together, as we've been going to festivals. I've completely backed off though and let her chase now for 2-3 weeks. She has been almost always the one to contact me now. She really seems to enjoy our sex and she likes to talk about herself and about life. I've asked her all kinds of stuff. She calls me cute things, but mostly during or after sex. Often times I've thought why I sometimes feel somewhat powerless or weird around her, and it's that she almost never asks me personal questions. Very rarely. About my family, background, tastes or views on things etc. I ask about her, and she doesn't make an effort to ask me back. Is this 100% fuck buddy relationship then? Although the sex is good, then I'm not actually not interested in only that. I can get sex anywhere. But she doesn't act like this, as we would just be fuck buddies. She likes to cuddle and spend the night, calls me that I'm so dear to her (mostly during sex though). It's a bit contradicting. We're from quite different fields, so I understand it might not super easy for her to grasp my life and I'm in a bit of a weird place right now professionally. Feeling less excited about my directions where I've been heading and looking for new exciting directions. So I've been asking her, as it interest me, and it interest me what kind of person she is. She happily talks about it, but almost never asks me stuff back. Only the current things, but not anything more deep about my background. I've actually got a bit turned off by that lately. So, although we had an amazing "hangover"day after a party few days ago, when we literally had sex the whole night/morning and afternoon. Then I've now kind of turned down her hangout offers for a few days. To create some more space and just figure out how do I feel about this whole thing and her. Could it be she is just a bit self-centered? Still not trusting me? I've never experienced this though, so it's been weird. When a girl acts and does everything else that shows she cares. Cooks me food, likes to take care of me, invites me to places, gives me things. Of course the sex. Gives blowjobs etc. But literally shows almost no interest in me as a person. She has told me several times how dear I am to her etc though. Feeling confused. Should I walk before I get attached?

We haven't talked about anything what we are to each other. It's super early anyway. Even she calling me darling/dear was somewhat weird to me.
I by no means will bring this up. I know by now, that it should be the girl to bring up any topic about relationship, or love or whatever bs Often times some social circle or other people have been asking us though, what we are and if we're a couple. And I haven't really said anything to them. Mumbling something about "that's hard to tell" or something. What should one tell in a situation like that?

There are a few girls I'm interested at the moment but not fucking anyone else at this moment. Is she? Should I?
Last two long term relationships I had, before I went into relationship, I always was fucking at least two girls. Both of the times it was actually hard to choose which one to go with.

 

[pks391]

So, for about a month+ I've been seeing this girl from my extended social circle. I was at first slow to move forward with her, so I thought I almost put her in auto-rejection. So I started the whole dynamic a bit weak. I took her out from there though and now we've been seeing each other around 1 time a week for like a month. Sometimes it's that we've spent literally a few days together, as we've been going to festivals. I've completely backed off though and let her chase now for 2-3 weeks. She has been almost always the one to contact me now. She really seems to enjoy our sex and she likes to talk about herself and about life. I've asked her all kinds of stuff. She calls me cute things, but mostly during or after sex. Often times I've thought why I sometimes feel somewhat powerless or weird around her, and it's that she almost never asks me personal questions. Very rarely. About my family, background, tastes or views on things etc. I ask about her, and she doesn't make an effort to ask me back. Is this 100% fuck buddy relationship then? Although the sex is good, then I'm not actually not interested in only that. I can get sex anywhere. But she doesn't act like this, as we would just be fuck buddies. She likes to cuddle and spend the night, calls me that I'm so dear to her (mostly during sex though). It's a bit contradicting. We're from quite different fields, so I understand it might not super easy for her to grasp my life and I'm in a bit of a weird place right now professionally. Feeling less excited about my directions where I've been heading and looking for new exciting directions. So I've been asking her, as it interest me, and it interest me what kind of person she is. She happily talks about it, but almost never asks me stuff back. Only the current things, but not anything more deep about my background. I've actually got a bit turned off by that lately. So, although we had an amazing "hangover"day after a party few days ago, when we literally had sex the whole night/morning and afternoon. Then I've now kind of turned down her hangout offers for a few days. To create some more space and just figure out how do I feel about this whole thing and her. Could it be she is just a bit self-centered? Still not trusting me? I've never experienced this though, so it's been weird. When a girl acts and does everything else that shows she cares. Cooks me food, likes to take care of me, invites me to places, gives me things. Of course the sex. Gives blowjobs etc. But literally shows almost no interest in me as a person. She has told me several times how dear I am to her etc though. Feeling confused. Should I walk before I get attached?

We haven't talked about anything what we are to each other. It's super early anyway. Even she calling me darling/dear was somewhat weird to me.
I by no means will bring this up. I know by now, that it should be the girl to bring up any topic about relationship, or love or whatever bs Often times some social circle or other people have been asking us though, what we are and if we're a couple. And I haven't really said anything to them. Mumbling something about "that's hard to tell" or something. What should one tell in a situation like that?

There are a few girls I'm interested at the moment but not fucking anyone else at this moment. Is she? Should I?
Last two long term relationships I had, before I went into relationship, I always was fucking at least two girls. Both of the times it was actually hard to choose which one to go with.

Firstly what exactly do you want from her? As in, do you want a fully committed relationship? Or just a fuck buddy?

Next, you need to figure out how she views you and in my opinion, it can only happen if you communicate it, either directly or indirectly to her.

Thirdly, there are certain types of girls who are simply happy not asking too many personal questions and can still like you.... The reason could be anything...... But if its deep diving you want from her you're gonna have to get her to do it by creating a situation where she feels appropriate to open up to you and ask you those deep personal questions. You should try recounting your personal experiences to her post sex and see how she reacts, then dial it up or down appropriately....

 

[ProblemSolving]

Hey letsdoit,

This is actually a good thing. Some women will try to deep dive to help screen you out before sex, where as men do it to help build a connection to help lead to sex. Don't take it personally, she just doesn't care about your past - she's just happy the way you are. By the sounds of it, you're well on your way to having a serious relationship with her, so just keep doing what you're doing. Honestly, you shouldn't feel the need to discuss deep subjects with your girl. In most of my long term relationships, I barely talk about myself - I like it that way and so do they girls.

 

[letsdoit]

Thanks to your feedback!

Firstly what exactly do you want from her? As in, do you want a fully committed relationship? Or just a fuck buddy?

to: pks391
As you can read from my post, I don't just want a fuck buddy. If this would be fuck buddy relationship, I would completely back off and wouldn't have sex 3-4 times a week with the same girl. This would get me attached.
I would like to have a proper relationship. Someone to spent time with, travel with etc. Even if I'll decide at some point that it's not going anywhere then it would be great to be able to decide that myself.

Next, you need to figure out how she views you and in my opinion, it can only happen if you communicate it, either directly or indirectly to her.

I know she likes me and cares for me and calls me darling
I don't want to have THE TALK by no means at this point! That never ends well, even if she means well and is into me at the moment. I'm smarter by now, to completely let women come to me. I know from my last relationship (that ended after two years) how I accidentally did EVERYTHING right, had complete abundance mentality etc. and the girl was totally head over heels in love with me in two months.

to Problemsolving

I don't expect and want her to ask me about my past girls, or relationships or any of that matter. I don't want her to ask about my past even.

But if I wouldn't volunteer, she wouldn't know anything about what do I like even present. Not deep even. She doesn't even know about my favourite things, what clicks with me etc. She hasn't asked me almost anything. It just feels so weird, as she acts otherwise super into me and I haven't used to that, that she literally doesn't ask almost anything about me. Really, she even doesn't know who I am. Only the things I have told her.


As far as I can see, I think we're exclusive now in terms of sex.
Cannot be completely sure though. She is gettin' hit on constantly. Like every time she is out or we're out.
My mindset is a bit off these days as I'm not happy with my career directions and some other situations I'm in at the moment. So, I'm not sure how long I can keep her interested.

 

[ProblemSolving]

She doesn't even know about my favourite things, what clicks with me etc. She hasn't asked me almost anything. It just feels so weird, as she acts otherwise super into me and I haven't used to that, that she literally doesn't ask almost anything about me. Really, she even doesn't know who I am. Only the things I have told her.

Completely normal. She's into you, no need to ask you questions. All your little quirks get revealed over time, so it's not a big deal. You might be a guy that loves to talk about himself and if that's the case then a girl who is more quiet and likes to listen would be a better fit. Personally, I'm a big fan of girls that love to talk about themselves (most do), since it allows me to sit back and relax.

As far as I can see, I think we're exclusive now in terms of sex.

I would bet money on it.

Cannot be completely sure though. She is gettin' hit on constantly. Like every time she is out or we're out.

Completely normal.

My mindset is a bit off these days as I'm not happy with my career directions and some other situations I'm in at the moment. So, I'm not sure how long I can keep her interested.

If you start to feel needy or insecure, go and approach some girls and take a few numbers. It will do wonders for your abundance mentality which is essential for relationship management. Just keep making her chase and you're golden.

 

[JimmyB]

letsdoit, is this girl younger than you? Either way, her not asking about you means she doesn't even care. She likes you a lot and doesn't need to make sure of any personal details to back that up. So that's a really good thing.
I'm wondering how you guys approach asking if you're exclusive or figuring out how she sees the relationship...is it ok to ask and clear the air? Or is it best to just not bring it up until she's ready to?

 

[pks391]

Thanks to your feedback!

Firstly what exactly do you want from her? As in, do you want a fully committed relationship? Or just a fuck buddy?

to: pks391
As you can read from my post, I don't just want a fuck buddy. If this would be fuck buddy relationship, I would completely back off and wouldn't have sex 3-4 times a week with the same girl. This would get me attached.
I would like to have a proper relationship. Someone to spent time with, travel with etc. Even if I'll decide at some point that it's not going anywhere then it would be great to be able to decide that myself.

Next, you need to figure out how she views you and in my opinion, it can only happen if you communicate it, either directly or indirectly to her.

I know she likes me and cares for me and calls me darling
I don't want to have THE TALK by no means at this point! That never ends well, even if she means well and is into me at the moment. I'm smarter by now, to completely let women come to me. I know from my last relationship (that ended after two years) how I accidentally did EVERYTHING right, had complete abundance mentality etc. and the girl was totally head over heels in love with me in two months.

to Problemsolving

I don't expect and want her to ask me about my past girls, or relationships or any of that matter. I don't want her to ask about my past even.

But if I wouldn't volunteer, she wouldn't know anything about what do I like even present. Not deep even. She doesn't even know about my favourite things, what clicks with me etc. She hasn't asked me almost anything. It just feels so weird, as she acts otherwise super into me and I haven't used to that, that she literally doesn't ask almost anything about me. Really, she even doesn't know who I am. Only the things I have told her.


As far as I can see, I think we're exclusive now in terms of sex.
Cannot be completely sure though. She is gettin' hit on constantly. Like every time she is out or we're out.
My mindset is a bit off these days as I'm not happy with my career directions and some other situations I'm in at the moment. So, I'm not sure how long I can keep her interested.

Then she just strikes me as the girl who just likes to keep the relationship without asking too many questions and believe it or not, there are girls like this.

 

[letsdoit]

Fast forward for almost two months...

We've now been seeing each other for almost 3 months. At some point I completely backed away, and let her contact me 100%. We've been hanging out a lot lately. Sometimes even 3-4 days per week. Mostly I've trying to keep it one day per week but we're mostly spending the night. So in case I haven't been away, that week, it's often that we're together 3 nights per week.

She not asking me personal questions, really made me to feel as a one-down in the relationship, as it felt she doesn't really care about me. I didn't like that feeling at all. So I backed off. That made her chase more and actually bring some interest also about what id do. Slowly that one-down feeling faded as she was really persistent to hang out more and more. I've been on guard, not to let it get too intimate but she has done that. She now invites me to all kinds of events and social gatherings, to her performances etc. She says our sex is magical and really, she comes every time. She calls me dear and honey, but mostly only during sex. In two weeks we're supposed to go to a 2 week trip abroad (with friends not just the two of us). etc. She cooks me food, gives me gifts etc. It really seems we're like a couple.

But just last night something happened. We were at her place, we were all drunk and there was someone else there, our mutual friend. He said something to her about her ex, and she became really mad at him cause she thought I heard it. Saying that we haven't discussed anything like that. I didn't actually hear 100% what it was. That got us talking between the two of us later, like what ARE we doing. I never had the intention to bring this up, but since I saw that little fight between her and our friend and so, it kind of grew from here. Luckily or unluckily, I was really drunk, more than her. And so I didn't say much back, but I also don't remember everything she said. I do remember I was a bit hurt but I think luckily I didn't show it. What I do remember, is that she said, she didn't want to bring anything up and didn't want to have the "talk", she really likes how things are going, and why put labels to us and we don't really need to know about each other, and when we hooked up, she was in a place of not wanting a relationship and wanting maybe to go travel or move away and develop herself etc... She was super affectionate while talking this and after it. And trying to be more affectionate when I became thoughtful. We saw each other once more the next day as I was still sleeping off my bad hangover at her place, we had sex and then I left. She has left me a few messages and called me a bunch of times inviting me somewhere which I ignored. I messaged her back after a while, that I was busy and sorry I couldn't talk, being nice.

I don't know what to do. Frankly, from her actions I was thinking it's going other way around and she is falling for me. But I see she is not there. She is there and not there the same time. I think I might not be completely boyfriend material for her, as our fields of life are very different and maybe I'm just not so interesting for her intellectually. That might be a silly thought only. The stupid thing is that I don't really remember all she said, but also don't want to bring this up again and show weakness. I'm almost 100% sure we're exclusive but maybe I should ask that? Because when we're not, I should go to check STDs and also then I should just go and bang other chicks. I like her but I don't want to invest any more of myself, when she might take this as a very temporary thing.

Should I just back off a bit? I could go to another town for a week or so.
Maybe I should back off from that trip as well. Let her go with friends.

I managed to shake off this one-down feeling with her (I guess that came as ur courting-process was not very smooth and because of some things she had said in the beginning of our "relationship"), now it's back and I don't fucking like it. Luckily it took me only a few hours of thinking about things, and it seems I've learned and I will not let myself to ever be put to one-down situation ever again.

From how things were seem to be going, I was thinking we're moving onto LTR territory soon. But should I now lower her status to FB or friends with benefits?
I could go and hook up with other girls but I'd need to be open about it with her (even when we haven't talked about that) as the town we live in and circles we move in are super small.
I do like this girl although I'm seeing some red (or at least yellow) flags and I don't want to put all my eggs into one basket.
I had a really bad breakup two years ago from a two year living together LTR and I don't ever want to repeat it or get emotionally attached too easily

 

[ProblemSolving]

Simply ask her what your friend was talking about in regards to her ex. See what she has to say. Right now, you don't know anything, since you can't recall anything that was said. Don't get mad. Just ask, "Hey, what was our friend talking about your ex about?" You have to get to bottom of this before you take any action.

I don't think you have anything to worry about. Girls won't chase more than one guy at a time, and she's chasing you hard - the way it should be. If I had to guess, she recently ended a serious relationship with her ex, and didn't intend to get into another relationship so quickly, but she met you and changed her mind. Now her ex still contacts her and she probably still talks to him which is what she feels guilty about.

 

[pks391]

Fast forward for almost two months...

We've now been seeing each other for almost 3 months. At some point I completely backed away, and let her contact me 100%. We've been hanging out a lot lately. Sometimes even 3-4 days per week. Mostly I've trying to keep it one day per week but we're mostly spending the night. So in case I haven't been away, that week, it's often that we're together 3 nights per week.

She not asking me personal questions, really made me to feel as a one-down in the relationship, as it felt she doesn't really care about me. I didn't like that feeling at all. So I backed off. That made her chase more and actually bring some interest also about what id do. Slowly that one-down feeling faded as she was really persistent to hang out more and more. I've been on guard, not to let it get too intimate but she has done that. She now invites me to all kinds of events and social gatherings, to her performances etc. She says our sex is magical and really, she comes every time. She calls me dear and honey, but mostly only during sex. In two weeks we're supposed to go to a 2 week trip abroad (with friends not just the two of us). etc. She cooks me food, gives me gifts etc. It really seems we're like a couple.

But just last night something happened. We were at her place, we were all drunk and there was someone else there, our mutual friend. He said something to her about her ex, and she became really mad at him cause she thought I heard it. Saying that we haven't discussed anything like that. I didn't actually hear 100% what it was. That got us talking between the two of us later, like what ARE we doing. I never had the intention to bring this up, but since I saw that little fight between her and our friend and so, it kind of grew from here. Luckily or unluckily, I was really drunk, more than her. And so I didn't say much back, but I also don't remember everything she said. I do remember I was a bit hurt but I think luckily I didn't show it. What I do remember, is that she said, she didn't want to bring anything up and didn't want to have the "talk", she really likes how things are going, and why put labels to us and we don't really need to know about each other, and when we hooked up, she was in a place of not wanting a relationship and wanting maybe to go travel or move away and develop herself etc... She was super affectionate while talking this and after it. And trying to be more affectionate when I became thoughtful. We saw each other once more the next day as I was still sleeping off my bad hangover at her place, we had sex and then I left. She has left me a few messages and called me a bunch of times inviting me somewhere which I ignored. I messaged her back after a while, that I was busy and sorry I couldn't talk, being nice.

I don't know what to do. Frankly, from her actions I was thinking it's going other way around and she is falling for me. But I see she is not there. She is there and not there the same time. I think I might not be completely boyfriend material for her, as our fields of life are very different and maybe I'm just not so interesting for her intellectually. That might be a silly thought only. The stupid thing is that I don't really remember all she said, but also don't want to bring this up again and show weakness. I'm almost 100% sure we're exclusive but maybe I should ask that? Because when we're not, I should go to check STDs and also then I should just go and bang other chicks. I like her but I don't want to invest any more of myself, when she might take this as a very temporary thing.

Should I just back off a bit? I could go to another town for a week or so.
Maybe I should back off from that trip as well. Let her go with friends.

I managed to shake off this one-down feeling with her (I guess that came as ur courting-process was not very smooth and because of some things she had said in the beginning of our "relationship"), now it's back and I don't fucking like it. Luckily it took me only a few hours of thinking about things, and it seems I've learned and I will not let myself to ever be put to one-down situation ever again.

From how things were seem to be going, I was thinking we're moving onto LTR territory soon. But should I now lower her status to FB or friends with benefits?
I could go and hook up with other girls but I'd need to be open about it with her (even when we haven't talked about that) as the town we live in and circles we move in are super small.
I do like this girl although I'm seeing some red (or at least yellow) flags and I don't want to put all my eggs into one basket.
I had a really bad breakup two years ago from a two year living together LTR and I don't ever want to repeat it or get emotionally attached too easily

Well it seems to me that she is comfortable keeping the relationship exactly the way it is now and at the same level for the time being. Whatever you call the relationship now is your relationship......if you wanna take it to the next level, she is not seeming to want that yet. Although, i could be wrong about that.

 

[letsdoit]

Yeah, I think she still communicates with her ex in some level. I didn't really know but I heard now as he had given her some stuff she needed.
We have both briefly mentioned our exes to each other but haven't really discussed anything. So none of us really knows much or almost anything.

It's 2 years since I broke up with my last ex of 2-years. I've had tons of sexual encounters but no relationships since then until this one. Although we haven't called it a relationship, then it sure feels like one now at least in some levels. I don't communicate with my last ex any more. I think it's more than a year at least since she is single too. And I think she also had something of a 2-year relationship or around that. I could be a bit wrong. No idea who dumped who or if it was more of a mutual thing.

I do want to ask why she became so mad at to our friend. It was something he said, and then she thought I heard it and became angry, as she said we haven't talked about any of it and didn't want to me to hear like this. But I don't want to sound needy or anything. I already started to talk about "what are we" subject that night while being super drunk and I shouldn't have done that at all. I had no intention to bring anything like that up, I was just really drunk. I only remember fragments of what I said or what she said. Damn, things were going great.

It's not that I'm 100% sure even I want to have LTR with this girl. I do like her, but she has shown some yellow flags for sure as well. But for sure I know I don't want to get dumped or turn into a one-down ever again.
But I'm not getting any younger, I'm in my mid 30s already. And in case she does see us as a very temporary thing, then it would be great to know somehow, as I don't want to waste my time or put all my eggs into one basket so to speak. I could change my mindset a bit and go and approach other girls, I do have some I fancy and know are interested in me, just as the town is so small, it's hard to do without it being very noticeable in our circles.

Stupid thing is, everyone else already things we're together. Although we clearly officially are not.

 

[pks391]

Yeah, I think she still communicates with her ex in some level. I didn't really know but I heard now as he had given her some stuff she needed.
We have both briefly mentioned our exes to each other but haven't really discussed anything. So none of us really knows much or almost anything.

It's 2 years since I broke up with my last ex of 2-years. I've had tons of sexual encounters but no relationships since then until this one. Although we haven't called it a relationship, then it sure feels like one now at least in some levels. I don't communicate with my last ex any more. I think it's more than a year at least since she is single too. And I think she also had something of a 2-year relationship or around that. I could be a bit wrong. No idea who dumped who or whas it more of a mutual thing.


I do want to ask why she became so mad at to our friend. It was something he said, and then she thought I heard it and became angry, as she said we haven't talked about any of it and didn't want to me to hear like this. But I don't want to sound needy or anything. I already started to talk about "what are we" subject that night while being super drunk and I shouldn't have done that at all. I had no intention to bring anything like that up, I was just really drunk. I only remember fragments of what I said or what she said. Damn, things were going great.

It's not that I'm 100% sure even I want to have LTR with this girl. I do like her, but she has shown some yellow flags for sure as well. But for sure I know I don't want to get dumped or turn into a one-down ever again.
But I'm not getting any younger, I'm in my mid 30s already. And in case she does see us as a very temporary thing, then it would be great to know somehow, as I don't want to waste my time.
I could change my mindset a bit and go and approach other girls, just as the town is so small, it's hard to too without it being very noticeable in our circles.

Stupid thing is, everyone else already things we're together. Although we clearly officially are not.

You really need to define this relationship before doing anything else..... And i think she got mad at her friend maybe because she mightve felt that you wouldn't take the news so well and might ruin what was uptil then a smooth run at whatever relationship you guys were having

 

[letsdoit]

So I should bring up the "what are we doing" talk once again while being sober?
Everything I've learned speaks against it though for a guy to bring it up.
Stupid that it kind of happened and while both of us being drunk, me especially.
I do remember she said something that she didn't think we needed to talk about it, and it was going well in her mind (she was chasing) but she had mentioned in the early stage of our hookup, that she needs her space. And now she reminded me that. And that she didn't think she wanted a relationship at the time, as she maybe wanted to go to travel, go find herself etc. but we sort of happened.

I know I happened to my previous LTR as well in a place she had no intention to stay in our city, but then she invited me to live with her and it did last for 2 years

 

[pks391]

So I should bring up the "what are we doing" talk once again while being sober?
Everything I've learned speaks against it though for a guy to bring it up.
Stupid that it kind of happened and while both of us being drunk, me especially.
I do remember she said something that she didn't think we needed to talk about it, and it was going well in her mind (she was chasing) but she had mentioned in the early stage of our hookup, that she needs her space. And now she reminded me that. And that she didn't think she wanted a relationship at the time, as she maybe wanted to go to travel, go find herself etc. but we sort of happened.

I know I happened to my previous LTR as well in a place she had no intention to stay in our city, but then she invited me to live with her and it did last for 2 years

Well if it were me i would ask her that question as to what are we right now. It just brings clarity and helps buy peace of mind. Although i recommend taking the advice of more senior members here, since I tend to deviate from certain things. Although, being honest and open about things likr this just relieves the unspoken stress and problems. Once its clear for the both of you, it becomes easierr to take the next step forward without any sort of doubts in either your mind or hers. Then you can be the 100% strong man you always used to be. These are my thoughts btw. Again i urge you to ask someone more of an alpha or an omega male for advice. I somehow think my advice can be a bot beta male-ish

 

[Drck]

LOL, you have no idea. Chances are very high that she knows more about you than you can even imagine. IF she truly likes you, she already did her research at the very beginning when she met you. She checked all the websites that have your name on it, she read the likes and replies you posted, she browsed through all your social media friends, she talked to girls and friends that know you...

She tested you, carefully observed your reactions, how you behave as a man, how you behave as a friend. She knows what you like and dislike, she probably checked your phone and so on...

Based on all the info she collected, she created an "image" about you in her mind... she sort of knows how you "feel" about people, how you feel about her and about life in general. She doesn't need any "personal" info from you, she already knows more than enough. She doesn't even want to know more from you because she doesn't want that "image" in her mind to be disturbed...

Girls are smart, girls are not stupid. You just have no idea because you, I and the rest of the guys here are about 500-1000 years behind with our male's brain power, as far as relationships go...