A girl with having a boyfriend

[lothlorien]

Hey guys!

I really need your advice.
Here's my story: There is a girl who has a boyfriend for one and half year. I actually know her from my past. That was like 8-9 years ago and we had some dates and stuff at that time. We've been talking for 6 months again. It had been a friendly thing for 4 months when I realized that I'd get her so I probably was in the "friendzone" but I changed that. I think she doesnt see me as a friend material thing anymore now. As for her relationship, she told me that guy is quite lame (he doesnt have life goals, hes lazy and his behaviour is not that manly), and by the summer she'll have broken up with him. I met her a month ago last time and I know this "move fast" thing that the website suggests. A week ago I invited her to my house for watching a movie and eating something but here's my problem, she told me that she'd surely come over to my place SOMETIME (I told her "in the days"). so what should I do? I know if I ask it again, I chase her that I dont want to or should I?

any advice will be appreciated!

 

[Seppuku]

Hey lothlorien,

Just seeing this now. Hoping it's not too late.

Very often girls are like little birds who will continue to hang on their tree until another tree with greener leaves comes close. Also, it's not what she says, it's how she acts. For this reason you should just completely ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend, and just proceed to seduce her. If she's not really available as she claims, she won't let you. That's how you know for sure.

Your invitation to a movie at home ended up in limbo ("will come sometime"). It could be her testing your manly motivation. Or setting you to chase. Or simply because she's not yet ready to be intimate with you. You just got to try again, in a non chasing manner, from another angle. The most important is to avoid to go mad chasing.

Leave it a little bit of time then re-approach her as if nothing happened (with no reference to your previous invitation), and propose something else. Since she already deflected your invitation to come straight to your place, I would suggest taking her to a coffee shop or bar close to your place. Have face to face time with her, get emotionally connected to her (make her talk), don't forget to establish touch very early on, then after one to two hours of face time, propose to shift to your place under any pretext.

Hope that helps!
Seppuku