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A Mild FU: Feedback please.

CarterCarver

Space Monkey
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Hey guys,

So this weekend I had a conference for this youth program I'm involved with (I am 17). At said conference, 3400 people from all over California got together and we talked about government, issues, etc. The reason why I'm in this program, aside from the educational benefit, is the girls. There are so many girls and you never see many of them again, so if you screw up it's even less of a deal than if you regularly do, and if you make a connection, there is a good chance you will meet up for some sexy time.

SKIP TO "THE MAIN EVENT" FOR THE ACTUAL FU

Anyways, I ran for a rather prestigious position (I did well and am moving on to the final round), and as a result, I had to speak in front of the entire program. That means, that the 1700 odd girls all knew me, my face, and my voice. Needless to say, I had an unfair advantage over the other horny teenagers. The only thing that sucks about the program, is if you are caught even holding a girl's hand, you are kicked out of the program with no refund, but this hasn't stopped me in the past from doing naughty things with pretty girls ... ;). So Because I was running for a position, I had to campaign, which involved running around talking to random people and trying to get them to vote for me.

Lunch is a perfect time to do this. I went in, got my food, and looked for my friends to sit with, but alas, I could not see them. So i yelled out "Julia" to this girl that I very vaguely knew (I once took a picture with her and grabbed her leg for it) and said "Let's eat lunch together and then campaign".

We sat down at a table with some of her friends and ate (nasty ass meatballs that she told me tasted like catfood to her) and I started working my magic. I don't really remember what I said, I believe it was mainly about how she had insisted on taking a picture with me and begged me to grab her leg. She giggled and said "Hey, you grabbed my leg!" but I kept going on about how desperate she was for a male touch near her vagina.

Eventually, we finished eating and hit the campaign trail. She had some kettle corn with her and offered to hand it out on my behalf.

Long story short, I got a lot of investment from her (commanded her to do things, obliged to do things she asked but then if they were boring told her that it was boring and I was leaving, she always followed). But somewhere along the ways, she started mocking me in front of other people, purposefully mispronouncing my name and the like. I know it doesn't sound like much, but the way she did it had a really sour tone. I shrugged it off and kept trying to forward the interaction.

THE MAIN EVENT

30 minutes later or so, we were sitting under a streetlamp on the corner of two streets and talking. I have found that trading sexual stories really gets girls intrigued about me, especially when I share the story of how I lost my virginity (at my age, many girls are still virgins so this is somewhat of a novelty). With Julia, we only told first kiss stories because she started telling me how she hooks up with a bunch of guys but has never moved past kissing. I was shocked because she gives off a very experienced vibe. I asked her why (by choice or circumstance or what) and we talked about that for a while.

I wove in comments like "Some guys like making girls feel good without wanting anything in return" and "You can have an emotional connection with someone and really like them, but not be dating or exclusive" to which she responded with "are you saying you condone polygamy". "Yes, especially at our age".

Finally, I brought up how I don't drive (this is due to some health issues; I'm still wondering whether or not to tell girls the issues because I feel like it makes me look weak). She wanted to know why so I told her I'd tell her when she bought me dinner. She kept saying how she didn't wanna drive down and I kept insisting. Finally, I got bored and got up and went behind a big ass pillar where no one could see us (the entire program was behind the pillar) and said "Hey no one can see me over here. Come here" in a sexual voice. She knew exactly what I wanted, but resisted. "Hey I found a cool penny over here you gotta come see". That didn't work either! Finally, I walked back over and took her things and put them behind the pillar and said "Hey you should come get your stuff so we can go to our next session".

"I'm just gonna wait over here until you change your mind CarterCarver"

I got bored and went over, plus I had to be in a special room in like 5 minutes and absolutely couldn't be late. She had given me her number earlier, but when I texted it it showed up as a text, not an iMessage (even though she had an iPhone) and she didn't respond. I feel like she may have incorrectly entered her own number, or purposely given me a fake. But the latter wouldn't make sense because she was really opening up and telling me things that she said no one knew. However, she also wouldn't return eye contact, and I kept calling her out on this, but it didn't really have an effect.

We walked across the street and I went left because "It's faster" while she went right because she had already committed and neither of us wanted to be strong armed by the other (I could feel that in the air). I yelled "Okay bye Julia" and she yelled "Bye" and that was the last time I saw/spoke/communicated with her in any way, shape, or form.

Okay, so I'm confused. I have no idea why she didn't want to hook up, or why she acted so cold towards the end. Any comments are appreciated.
 

ray_zorse

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When you ask for compliance you have to stick to it, here you switched course several times and ended up caving to her frame (that she would wait and you would change your mind). Your idea about plausible deniability was good but too late. Now she seems to have blocked your iMessages. Shit happens, move on. Next time try to isolate more effectively, the pillar wouldn't have countered her feelings of exposure especially as it sounds like professional acquaintances might have been around (sorry I didn't read the whole report).
Ray
 

Bboy100

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Imo, you might've been overestimating how interested in you she was as more than a friend. It sounds like she might've enjoyed your company but never have been sexually available in the first place. Another possibility is that sex is a REALLY big deal to her (she is supposedly a virgin after all!). So you probably would have had to ease her into it. This means being in an actual private bed where she feels comfortable and safe. The pillar you were talking about doesn't sound like it fits that criteria.

Additionally, saying the "Hey, I found a penny" and the "I got your stuff, come get them" lines AFTER you already directly asked her to come just comes off as manipulative. Makes it look like you're trying to trick/force her into coming back there with you. This was probably kind of creepy, maybe even scary to her.

In any case, I doubt there's anything you could've done to get this girl. I'd just NEXT her and move on.
 
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CarterCarver

Space Monkey
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Okay so I need to work on logistics and comfort, and maybe being a bit more subtle. Thanks for the advice. THIS BITCH HAS BEEN NEXTED!
 
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