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I wanted to party on Saturday, June 10, 2017.
I started walking on California blvd, and sure enough i was nervous; what else did i expect? I reframed my feeling, saying to myself that this is just excitement, and it is expected anyway. I was feeling good about the night.
I just came up with a nice line to use in california blvd at night walking: open asking if they are going to party. i thought a bit more, and i see no reason i cannot use it during the day for daytime parties... or any other time! You can easily open anyone and calibrate their excitement at meeting you, then tell them about how you’re looking for whatever you're looking for, then see if they will provide it. You can penetrate social circles this way, get into parties, ect..
open anyone and everyone! i just opened a guy to ask for parties, was a good start to socializing. i kindda have a flawed mental model that i shouldn't talk to ppl cuz they somehow would remember me and hate me for the rest of my life if i do, but its very illogical (they wont even remember you, if they do, they dont care)
I ended up opening: 3 guys, 5 guys, 3 girls, 2 girls, who were all lukewarm. I then opened 3 guys who were excited to meet me, then a girl who i kissed. Sadly by now i had ordered my uber, so i had to leave her and go downtown.
Downtown, i went to a bar where it is easy to socialize. No problem integrating and talking to strangers, i had a lot of momentum. I lef the first bar to go to the second one, which is a loud venue. The first 10-15 minutes went well honestly. I did amass a few rejections, but overall enjoyed it. Another 15 minutes, and my mood started going down slowly but surely. I opened a girl who i moved, but was silent: i think i should’ve just escalated further but i didnt think of doing that.
I moved to the second venue where I saw miss SelfClose with a guy (who turned out to be her ex, and she went on to date him again, less than a week after the lay.. ruthless, these women). Overall, the experience had a bad drag to it, and i never truly recovered my momentum, even during night when i was walking around: i skipped opportunities left and right.
Lessons/ new tools to try out:
conserve energy. A few ways to do that: open nonverbally, with high fives and hugs. Hip bumps never worked for me/ situate yourself in the middle of the bar and look out for approach invitations. This is better than violating people's’ privacies and trying to force an opening. Also, while at it, open people who come into your vicinity./ open with other non verbals, such as catching eye contact and drawing a smile on your face, or winking… then ask for immediate investment by motioning her over. Strong eye contact is important in this setting. Focus on eye contact, posture, sexiness.
As done here, talk to many people: this includes girls, girls, groups, bouncers… expect first few interactions not to go super well, and that's fine.
I started walking on California blvd, and sure enough i was nervous; what else did i expect? I reframed my feeling, saying to myself that this is just excitement, and it is expected anyway. I was feeling good about the night.
I just came up with a nice line to use in california blvd at night walking: open asking if they are going to party. i thought a bit more, and i see no reason i cannot use it during the day for daytime parties... or any other time! You can easily open anyone and calibrate their excitement at meeting you, then tell them about how you’re looking for whatever you're looking for, then see if they will provide it. You can penetrate social circles this way, get into parties, ect..
open anyone and everyone! i just opened a guy to ask for parties, was a good start to socializing. i kindda have a flawed mental model that i shouldn't talk to ppl cuz they somehow would remember me and hate me for the rest of my life if i do, but its very illogical (they wont even remember you, if they do, they dont care)
I ended up opening: 3 guys, 5 guys, 3 girls, 2 girls, who were all lukewarm. I then opened 3 guys who were excited to meet me, then a girl who i kissed. Sadly by now i had ordered my uber, so i had to leave her and go downtown.
Downtown, i went to a bar where it is easy to socialize. No problem integrating and talking to strangers, i had a lot of momentum. I lef the first bar to go to the second one, which is a loud venue. The first 10-15 minutes went well honestly. I did amass a few rejections, but overall enjoyed it. Another 15 minutes, and my mood started going down slowly but surely. I opened a girl who i moved, but was silent: i think i should’ve just escalated further but i didnt think of doing that.
I moved to the second venue where I saw miss SelfClose with a guy (who turned out to be her ex, and she went on to date him again, less than a week after the lay.. ruthless, these women). Overall, the experience had a bad drag to it, and i never truly recovered my momentum, even during night when i was walking around: i skipped opportunities left and right.
Lessons/ new tools to try out:
conserve energy. A few ways to do that: open nonverbally, with high fives and hugs. Hip bumps never worked for me/ situate yourself in the middle of the bar and look out for approach invitations. This is better than violating people's’ privacies and trying to force an opening. Also, while at it, open people who come into your vicinity./ open with other non verbals, such as catching eye contact and drawing a smile on your face, or winking… then ask for immediate investment by motioning her over. Strong eye contact is important in this setting. Focus on eye contact, posture, sexiness.
As done here, talk to many people: this includes girls, girls, groups, bouncers… expect first few interactions not to go super well, and that's fine.
