FR A Panoply of learning experience

[thedude]

Hello gents!

I just got back from my trip to Roma and it was a hell of a time. The weather is beautiful. Not too hot or too cold meanwhile Berlin is cold as fuck right now.
Anyway I met a lot of people and girls but only got a random makeout from my trip. Though I believe there is a lot to learn from experiences and I think you guys can help me in that regard.

Brazilian girl Laura

I was walking back to the hostel after a good afternoon of sight seeing all around the city. On my way I spot this cute girl with short hair, nose ring, petite and as I would learn Brazilian too.
Anyway I stop for a moment, look down the street in her direction while waiting for her to pass and notice her smile and look at me as she walks by. I run up behind to the side of her, she immediately takes of her earbuds and I say…

Me: Hey! I just gotta say that you are really cute!
Her: Thank you!

We hit it off pretty much immediately and talk about a whole bunch of topics. I learn that she speaks Spanish, Italian, Portuguese and her English though lacking on speaking is quite good. I ask her if she wants to get some coffee and she agrees. We spend the next 4-80 minutes talking over coffee where I learn…she smokes, has tried lots of drugs and we relate to one another on this and other stuff. Some things that I should mention or what I think are tests she threw at me

For example,

Her: Where are your friends(something along those lines(are you/why are you alone)
Me: I wanted to travel alone this time, It is much easier to meet new and awesome people

Another test that I was not sure how to respond to was when she asked about me approaching her in broad daylight

Her: Do you always do this/are so friendly(you know what I mean)

She mentioned this again on my way back(after moment of silence that went on for too long…) and both times I failed to address in a way I am satisfied with and in a way may have cost me the lay.

Would anyone be able to help with this particular shit test?

The big question however is when we left from the coffee place and after I got her facebook information for what I intentioned was to meet later….(maybe stupid)

A point to note, I believe she lied to me about where she lived when we first met. I think I asked her about it or whatever and she pointed to some place and I made a remark. Anyway we get to where she actually lives and we are standing outside it. The main station where my hostel is near was in eye sight. It is at this point that I think I fucked up. Instead of trying to get into her apartment right then I make plans with her to meet her later……

We say our goodbyes where she enthusiastically says that we are going to drink and smoke and other drugs and say goodbye. I feel like at this point I should of tried to get myself into her apartment somehow. Something tells me now that was what I should have done.

Later when I contact her on FB no response… Any thoughts gentlemen?

Naughty teacher girl

This next girl was just smoking hot. She was blonde, dark eyes and a killer body. She had these dark frame glasses that made gave her the above name
I mention this to this cool Canadian dude I met and the following convo follows

Me: Hey dude, doesn’t that blonde girl over there look like a naughty school teacher?
Canada: Ya man, I want to go tell that.
Me: Dude! I was thinking the same exact thing
Canada: Go do it my dude, I’ll watch

So that is exactly what I do and she likes it a lot. This could of gone well if it hadn’t been for a couple of things…
1. I complimented her to soon afterwards, it was just too much
2. I hit on her friend earlier and failed so she was not going to help plus the guy friend was not exactly friendly to me either. If I had spoken Spanish I would have been in haha
3. Just general lapses in game, not my best that’s for sure…..

Israeli girl

I met this girl earlier during my stay. We had a short convo in the lounge and I thought she was uninterested

However I would meet her later outside the hostel bar and ended up taking a walk with her. We make out on the walk and she says things like “you’re better than the last guy”… ah ok..

She is in too damn control the entire time, I let her lead me once and it is over. She is my senior by five years and I think was in a relationship but was conflicted on what she wanted what she wanted.

If you guys have any advice, especially on the Brazilian girl I would be much appreciated. Thanks for the read!

-CJ

 

[sneaky_charm]

Another test that I was not sure how to respond to was when she asked about me approaching her in broad daylight

Her: Do you always do this/are so friendly(you know what I mean)

She mentioned this again on my way back(after moment of silence that went on for too long…) and both times I failed to address in a way I am satisfied with and in a way may have cost me the lay.

Would anyone be able to help with this particular shit test?

Well, that's a tricky one to respond if you have never thought about a response before. Typically, you should be able to get away with agreeing while maintaining strong eye contact. For example, use a teasing line like:

Yes, every single time I see a hot girl!

or, you can pretend to misunderstand her question as referring to whatever you are doing at the moment:

Hold my coffee cup like this? Yes, I do that a lot!

and then immediately change the topic; most girls won't ask you again!

 

[Whizzy]

With regards to the Brazilian girl, when she asks about your friends first time mention that you travel alone for the thrill of the adventure. Usually this will peak her interest and keep her trying to find out more about you. When she asks you again "do you always do this?" you have several cool options. "Do what?" and then display a mischievous grin or just play dumb, both options for the facial expression work. This opens the door for some great flirting if played off right. Also...yeah next time don't meet up later, seal the deal then and there amigo. Normally try to assume that there will not be a later and move quickly when possible

With regards to the Israeli girl, when she say "you're better than the last guy" just laugh it off and tease her back with something like, "well you are better than the last girl...so far..."
I can't say anything about her leading as there really isn't any context given as to how that might be improved, but just remember that you are a man...and a leading man damn it!
If you think that she was in a relationship but she didn't specifically tell you...then just proceed and assume that she isn't in one as it seems you were overthinking things and that got in the way a tad.

 

[thedude]

Thanks to both of you for the replies.

These are definitely good things to say and I will be sure to implement them

Cheers,

-CJ