A revelation about a girl being disrespectful and a question

[andersen09]

Continuation of
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=17394

So today, I ran into the girl that was being extremely rude Tuesday.
And today I can still tell she was still in a bad mood but flirty with me.

Me: Someone's been in a bad mood the whole week.
Her: I know.
Me: I can't be around that.
Her: Ugh, my best friend just stopped talking to me out of nowhere the other day. He blocked me and won't respond to my text messages.
(But it's funny cause she was being friendly to everyone in class BUT me Tuesday)
Me: Cool, you'll be fine, you're a grown girl. (Switch topic)
Me: (I start drawing on her stomach as she's laying down) Guess what I'm writing
Her: Mm.. I can't even figure it out.
Me: You're horrible at this.
Her: :/
Her: (She takes a picture of me on snapchat) You look so weird on pictures.
Me: I didn't know I had a paparazzi
Me: (Here her hand was lingering around my hand where I had it by her stomach)
Me: (I grab her hand and she kind of held my hand fingers crossing)
Me: (Moment of silence and looking at her hand holding my hand)
Me: You like me don't you?
Her: Yes. (Without even flinching)
Me: Too bad, you're too young for me.
Her: >:[ (She bites my finger)
Her: EW, your fingers so salty
Me: You know what else is salty?
Her: (She almost smiles)
Me: My pinkie.
Her: (She sucks on it)
Me: (I get thrown off inside but don't show it as I didn't expect her to suck on it)
Me: You have such a dirty mind. You were thinking something perverted weren't you?
Her: Maybe
Me: You're too young to be thinking like that.
Her: I can think about whatever I want.

My Uber arrives but she leaves.

Her: Bye Asian!
Me: (Now this actually got me irked)
Me: I'm not gonna tell you again, don't ever call me by my race.
Her: Okay... but you called me hispanic girl the other day?
Me: (I had no idea lol)
Me: It's cause I forgot your name. I won't call you that
Her: (She gets really offended)
Her: You're a bitch!
Me: You must fall for bitches.
Her: (Just kind of smiles cause she doesn't know what to say)
Me: You're a bad influence, I'm leaving.
Her: Yeah weirdo! Stop being around me.
Me: (Walking to my ride)
Her: Bye weirdo!


So Jake was right (User who commented on my post before). She was lingering in auto-rejection from last week. But for some reason, she came out of auto-rejection today.

The first part of the day, she was being very aloof with me, but also staring at me.

I realized it was exactly what Jake was talking about. She felt like she showed me so blatantly that she liked me, but I had no interest in any romantic outcome with her.
Even though she's cute, she's not what I'd go for but wouldn't mind being friends with.
And because of that she took every chance she had to try and disrespect me and "tool" me to save her ego.
I'm thinking because she got a chance to do that Tuesday, (Which caught me off guard) she kind of felt better about herself or something and came back around.

So when a girl is being extremely rude and disrespectful, it's due to auto-rejection. But comes back around after all the hissing and fussing, and they're almost like it never happened again.
I've had so many of these instances looking back.

Girl A - Really playful -> Disrespects me via (Treating me like a kid, racial stereotypes, trying to embarrass me socially) -> Few weeks later, she initiates again and back to friendly.
And this kind of becomes a cycle because these are the same girls that I have no intention of sleeping with.

So now I have two questions

A. When a girl is in auto-rejection and openly disrespecting/humiliating you because of their "EGO", how should you handle it within a social circle environments?

It's not a random girl whom I can just next. But at the same time, it's not a girl I would take to bed and would constantly see.
So if she treats me so rude while going through her stage of auto-rejection, it might impact my reputation socially, especially with women who I AM interested in seeing. (If you guys know what I mean)

B. Is it possible to be friends with a girl who's attracted to you without her going into auto-rejection?

Thanks guys.

 

[Mike&Ikes]

In response to your first question there’s this great article explaining how to handle challenges and come on top everytime.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/what-do-when-girls-act-superior-rude-and-aloof
https://www.girlschase.com/content/5-ways-answer-challenge-social-situations

Basically just flirt back if she’s acting superior, but if she’s actually challenging you, you really have 5 ways to answer it:
Ignore it
Dismiss it
Reject it
Question it
Meta it

I know those are vague but read the second article for clarification.
But the most important thing is to not get worked up or upset over her rudeness.

-Micah

 

[Smurf]

Glad my advice helped ya' a bit!

Look at what girls do when they put guys into the friend zone and reverse engineer it. What keeps the guy strung along in his eyes? He thinks there's a chance he can still "get" her, regardless if the chance is actually there or not. It doesn't have to be obvious either, just a seed planted.

The thing is, flirting doesn't have to go anywhere. It can keep things light and fun without having to commit to any sort of actual action.

Just keep yourself as the prize that's just out of reach, give them incentive from time to time, to keep them around, because you never know when you'll need the social proof or have them in a strategic position.

People don't really talk about how important placing people in the right positions is in social settings. Be constantly thinking how you can maneuver people somewhere. If you lean towards selfishness, think how you can help others first, then yourself. If you find yourself as someone who is more selfless, aim to get your own goals met and then look to see how the other can gain.

Never underestimate someone's usefulness just because they're unattractive.

Jake.

 

[andersen09]

Glad my advice helped ya' a bit!

Look at what girls do when they put guys into the friend zone and reverse engineer it. What keeps the guy strung along in his eyes? He thinks there's a chance he can still "get" her, regardless if the chance is actually there or not. It doesn't have to be obvious either, just a seed planted.

The thing is, flirting doesn't have to go anywhere. It can keep things light and fun without having to commit to any sort of actual action.

Just keep yourself as the prize that's just out of reach, give them incentive from time to time, to keep them around, because you never know when you'll need the social proof or have them in a strategic position.

People don't really talk about how important placing people in the right positions is in social settings. Be constantly thinking how you can maneuver people somewhere. If you lean towards selfishness, think how you can help others first, then yourself. If you find yourself as someone who is more selfless, aim to get your own goals met and then look to see how the other can gain.

Never underestimate someone's usefulness just because they're unattractive.

Jake.

Very solid points Jake.