I came up with this after a failed date. Could be useful to others. Feel free to build on this or correct me.
Success in seduction depends on two things:
But what’s more important is consistently doing the right things — actions that build attraction, compliance, and arousal.
I think of seduction like a progress bar in a game or a jar being filled.
Every move that increases:
...adds to this bar.
So, when I'm with a girl, my focus should be on taking action, not just avoiding mistakes.
Why?
Because:
I can now:
Success in seduction depends on two things:
- Doing the right things
- Avoiding the wrong things
But what’s more important is consistently doing the right things — actions that build attraction, compliance, and arousal.
The “Seduction Bar” Analogy
I think of seduction like a progress bar in a game or a jar being filled.
Every move that increases:
- Similarty/Attraction/Comfort
- Compliance
- Arousal
...adds to this bar.
So, when I'm with a girl, my focus should be on taking action, not just avoiding mistakes.
Why?
Because:
- Even if I make a few mistakes (do things I shouldn’t do),
but if I'm also doing enough of the right things, the bar still fills up. - But if I do nothing (inaction), the bar stays empty — and I fail.
Key Mistake to Avoid:
- Missing the escalation window
Using This Framework
I can now:
- Analyze your successful seductions – identify what actions filled the bar.
- Study failed seductions – see if you:
- Missed items which fill the bar, or
- Made too many critical mistakes which depleted the bar or missed the escalation window.