I'll begin by setting the stage:
I'm in a fraternity at a college. Our house is adjacent to one of the "top house" sororities. I hate to validate social constructs but they're top house for good reason--the chicks are fun, and hot AF. My fraternity is probably in the 75 percentile of the 30 fraternities on campus. That means that we don't have a lot of preselection in their eyes, but I've personally flirted with several of them and they were into it. Unfortunately we don't have any parties or exchanges with our neighbors and my goal is to change this.
We have a bunch of windows facing a bunch of their windows across a gap that is probably 15-20 feet wide. The other day, one of their windows had the message "DTF?" spelled in sticky notes on it. We in turn put up the message "Bang my line", and she responded with "HMU".
This exchange has inspired me to attempt a "good neighbor" campaign with the sorority including funny/interesting/witty messages being sent back in forth. The end goal would be actually establishing contact with enough of them that they feel comfortable coming over to our house regularly.
I have a bunch of questions that I'll list below but they all summarize to one overarching one: how do we (a group of ~70 guys) build relations with them (a house of probably ~90 girls)?
- Is posting messages the wrong thing to do? I figure that the anonymity might build excitement and cause them to invest in us but I simultaneously worry that we'll invest too much or look like jokers. I'd obviously like to minimize this if at all possible.
- If we were to send messages, what kind of content should they contain? It's really hard for me to translate the kind of communication that Girls Chase talks about in text messaging and in-person conversations to these pixelated and low-bandwidth messages that we are restricted to in this situation.
- Should we explore alternative forms of communication? In a brainstorming session, a friend suggested using a long pole to pass notes back and forth but I worry about the over-investment / breach of privacy that they might feel from this kind of over-extension.
I hope this can be seen as enough of a challenge that a lot of people feel inspired to offer suggestions, but I'll take what I can get. Thank you all in advance!
I'm in a fraternity at a college. Our house is adjacent to one of the "top house" sororities. I hate to validate social constructs but they're top house for good reason--the chicks are fun, and hot AF. My fraternity is probably in the 75 percentile of the 30 fraternities on campus. That means that we don't have a lot of preselection in their eyes, but I've personally flirted with several of them and they were into it. Unfortunately we don't have any parties or exchanges with our neighbors and my goal is to change this.
We have a bunch of windows facing a bunch of their windows across a gap that is probably 15-20 feet wide. The other day, one of their windows had the message "DTF?" spelled in sticky notes on it. We in turn put up the message "Bang my line", and she responded with "HMU".
This exchange has inspired me to attempt a "good neighbor" campaign with the sorority including funny/interesting/witty messages being sent back in forth. The end goal would be actually establishing contact with enough of them that they feel comfortable coming over to our house regularly.
I have a bunch of questions that I'll list below but they all summarize to one overarching one: how do we (a group of ~70 guys) build relations with them (a house of probably ~90 girls)?
- Is posting messages the wrong thing to do? I figure that the anonymity might build excitement and cause them to invest in us but I simultaneously worry that we'll invest too much or look like jokers. I'd obviously like to minimize this if at all possible.
- If we were to send messages, what kind of content should they contain? It's really hard for me to translate the kind of communication that Girls Chase talks about in text messaging and in-person conversations to these pixelated and low-bandwidth messages that we are restricted to in this situation.
- Should we explore alternative forms of communication? In a brainstorming session, a friend suggested using a long pole to pass notes back and forth but I worry about the over-investment / breach of privacy that they might feel from this kind of over-extension.
I hope this can be seen as enough of a challenge that a lot of people feel inspired to offer suggestions, but I'll take what I can get. Thank you all in advance!
