A story, might be a indicator of interest or nothing?

[[GC]Jay]

What's up GC Community,

There was this girl back in school, who's locally bit famous in Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Whenever she post photos or anything - she gets 200+ likes for that. She is not a model, she's just an ordinary girl who just happened to have plenty of followers, and friends. Those are local friends in our area and some students in my College who's been a fan of her for some reason that I don't understand.

If I were to rate her - she's a 7, she doesn't have big boobs, or ass, and I bet she is still a virgin or maybe confident in front of strangers because of her popularity. Some students in school seems to know her, sometimes they mentioned her name. Some guys greet her, some guys stares at her like she is something. There was this guy who said "she is my idol" and I just think to myself "wtf?" and I also heard that she is not on a relationship and what I read on her Facebook is "I'm currently waiting for my Prince". Oh, she's a second year and both senior and freshmen guys almost seems to know her.

Whenever we pass by each other - she will make this hard eye contact and I do the same everytime. Two days ago, I was in the Library and I was there sitting there doing my assignments, then without notice that girl along with her gay classmate were at my back writing something but before that - they weren't there.

I decided to go out of the library (she noticed me), then came back after 1 and a half hour...she's still there alone now, I saw her from the outside through the glass door so I didn't go inside instead I standby outside the library near the stairs. I was facing the mini park while I have turned my back at the library's glass door.

After a while for about a minute and a half and suddenly without notice - she's at my back. But she wasn't facing at me, and she is talking someone on the phone. Then 5 seconds after seeing her...I go inside the library and seated from the same spot right where I left off earlier.

After about 2 minutes, she came back inside the library - this time she seats with her back just across my desk. I didn't do anything, after 10 minutes I decided to go to the librarian's office to get my research paper then go out the library with her noticing me again then never come back.

Don't know what will happen after that, it looks like she is chasing me or maybe I'm just paranoid. This could be a playful event or maybe nothing at all.

Want to know what this is all about from you guys perspective.

 

[Drck]

She wanted you to notice her. By strong looks you were showing that you are confident and dominant, by getting close to you several times she was testing whether that is the case. She knows that confident and dominant guy is fast and takes an advantage of opportunity, and she was simply creating the opportunity to make it easier to act.

She is very friendly, she's got lots of followers... be very careful. It might be a coincidence what you are describing, but in general, what she is doing to you she is also doing to other guys. There is a crowd of guys following her, and the reason - most likely - is that every single one of them thinks he's got a good chance with her. These guys are competing with each other for her attention.

Assuming that you want her, you don't want to be a part of that crowd. You don't want to follow her, you don't want to compete with those guys. All of those guys are slow, and they are in her friend zone. You don't want to be slow, you want to be fast, and you want to remove yourself from her friend zone immediately as she will try to push you there with her sweetness. Most likely, in her eyes, you are already there without even knowing it. It is like being guilty and having to prove that you are innocent - you have to prove to her that you are not in her friend zone.

You don't want to be guessing whether you have a chance like the other guys. You want to know: Invite her out, just you and her. If she is interested she will go, if not she is just a tease and she will flake, make excuses. Nevertheless, you invite her and then invite her again.

She has a very strong frame, everybody "follows her". Everybody follows what she suggests. She suggests that the guy has a chance with her, and the guy follows that suggestion. She suggests that the guy should be her friend, on FB or otherwise, and the guy jumps at it, becomes her friend. She suggests that she likes something on FB, and 200+ followers like it too. She suggests that when she is friendly and flirty with a guy that he has a chance with her, and the guy believes it - while she is openly advertizing that she is looking for a Prince.

You need to beat that frame, you want her to "follow you". You need to be the one who leads and makes decisions, and it is not ok to compromise with her. Unlike all these followers, you need to know exactly what you want. You want to nail her as soon as possible, and there is no compromise, no stepping back and no waiting till she is ready. She needs to know that she will either go with you for a date or she will be dumped on the spot, forgotten, looked through fingers. She needs to feel that you are willing to walk away from her anytime you want. Imagine, she would be dumped by you in front of all these guys, friends and great followers. Can you even imagine? That just can't happen, she just can't be dumped by any guy, she is too great to be dumped!

And she needs to know that you could care less about all those great feelings her friends have for her. At the same time you should remain cool and exciting guy, aloof to her great feelings and sweetness as she will vibe with you very easily, the same way she vibes with tens of other guys...

Got balls to be the Prince that she is craving for...?

 

[[GC]Jay]

@Drck

Informative post my friend, I will do my approach soon as I see her.

 

[[GC]Jay]

Ok, I haven't done the approach because I haven't seen her for a while. However, last Wednesday I stayed in the library again I sit up front where no one is sitting except me then there was this a bit tomboyish girl that staring at me then I just ignore her for a while, I was playing games in my phone and for a few minutes she go to her gay friend - another 15 minutes or so she approached me and ask me "are you connected" what she mean is am I connected to the Libraries WiFi and I said "I don't" with a little smile then back to what I was doing - she seats near me with her gay friend, noticing from my right side of my eye - I can see her keep checking me out for some reason so I just ignore it. After 30 minutes or so I walked out of that library knowing those two were friends of that popular girl I was talking about in my previous post in this thread.

Don't know why those people keep bothering or they make an effort to catch my attention. So what's up with all this time?

 

[Drck]

You can try to analyze that and you will never find out why anyway. You just don't know, you are not allowed to know.

Or, you can always ASSUME ATTRACTION. And you will be 90% right...

 

[[GC]Jay]

I now realize what I done wrong.

She created an escalation window as an opportunity for me but I didn't grab it. Now she thinks that I'm not attainable, that was a long time ago. Last month when we pass by on each other she make this hard eye contact again but I just ignore her and another mistake.

How can I recover from this?

 

[Drck]

Yes. Action is needed, talk to her.

You gave her strong eye contact multiple times, so you created an impression that you are more dominant. You setup a dominant frame, she perceived you as dominant/attractive/sexy guy, and she gave you the opportunity to approach her (approach invitation, window, or whatever you want to call it)

Usually a girl expect from dominant guy to approach her, especially when she gives him the opportunity. That is simply what dominant/sexy/attractive guys do, they accept the opportunity to meet the girl, they push "things" with her forward.

If you don't accept the window she draws conclusions: (1) He is not interested, (2) He is taken, (3) He is just faking the domination, (4) He is a weirdo. She may give you more windows but if you keep ignoring her she will simply have no choice than conclude that you are not interested in her... If you are not interested in her don't keep practicing strong eye contact on her, it can be easily interpreted as weird.

She probably talk to her friends about you and they wanted to check you out. Or, you worked on fundamentals and they see something on you. Either way, you should assume attraction (as above). When they are checking you out or even come to you and try talking to you, that is all good.

You should also work on your belief system. You should believe that you are attractive and that all girls want you, and that they are very interested in you. That way it is much easier,

It should be like this: (1) You generate attraction (dominant looks, fundamentals, assuming attraction...). (2) She is interested so she gives you approach invitation (e.g. comes closer to you and gives you the opportunity to approach you). (3) You act, even if it is just conversation. (4) If there is no good vibes, no big deal, it was a good talk, you can walk away, she can be a friend. If there are good vibes, continue > try to setup a date, get her phone number, invite her some place, ..

 

[[GC]Jay]

@Drck

Yeah, there was this friends (1 gay, 1 tomboy'ish) of hers...this happened 3 or 4 months ago. I was in the library, sitting there all by myself. Then this two friends of hers were sitting on the fifth table in front of me, then a minute after they come towards me and this tomboy'ish girl ask me in direct:

Tomboy: Are you connected to the internet?
Me: No.
Tomboy: Oh, ok.

Then the two of them sits in my left side of the table. I was not talking, I was there busy with my phone reading Chase's articles, while this tomboy keeps checking me out and I saw her in my peripheral vision. After 30 minutes, I left the library and that was it. Both of them will be graduating this semester and probably not gonna be seeing them. Too late for me I guess.

As for that girl, she's travelling Asia which I saw on her Facebook and I know she be enrolling this second semester and a second chance to redeem myself.