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Passive Value
Came across the feed this morning.
This glow up, everything is as it should be.
This is a glow up, that despite being done right, the kid fumbles the ending.
It's obvious that both guys are young, not in shape, and decided to muscle up.
Being in shape is a huge demonstration of high value.
And neither guy is particularly "jacked".
But the 2nd guy can't let go of his "goober" personality.
All of his hard work in the gym (and in the kitchen) is undone because he can't stop acting like a doofus, he can't stop presenting himself to the world as unserious.
Active Value
The Joker - An argument can be made for either guy being effective in the dating game - sometimes/often times that "goober" energy can work to his advantage in that it makes him outgoing and personable, BUT getting laughs is not getting lays. Jokes relieve tension, they don't build tension. And, in my view, building up tension (sexual or otherwise) is essential to getting a girl to cooperate and share your vision. Some guys can and do laugh their way into the bedroom, but in my view, they're hooking up with chicks DESPITE their humor, not BECAUSE of their humor. (and arguably different girls need different things at different times)
Mr. Serious - The more serious guy, might be just as goofy IRL, but decided to present himself like he's ready to get down. He's able to project that "masculine" aura.
The problem for him, is that despite his aura/his vibe/his looks, he won't really stand out in a typical night game venue.
There are LOTS of guys out there that are in relative good health and fitness, can dress for their body type, and have good grooming. They might only be 20% of the club, but that's like 40-80 guys that are "in the running". It's rare that a cat that has his look together is the ONLY guy that's doing that. (In terms of competition, a lot of guys look the part, few walk the walk.)
So even though both guys look fit, who has the real advantage?
We can't really tell based on pics (though serious guy did include his GF).
I'll tell you - it's the guy that approaches.
We're having a discussion in the other thread about personality/behavior and approaches.
Should you be more calm, chill, and laid back (because that's the natural you) or should you be more "fun"/energetic etc. (even though that's not the real you)
You can do both, but you need to approach and stay consistent with whatever it is you're doing - as opposed to whatever your personality is.
You personality, your preference for "energy" displays - IS NOT YOUR GAME.
The "fun" guy can obviously get emotions out of the girl, by "just being himself" That's obvious.
But a chill dude can still get emotions bubbling up from a girl.
And that's the task you "chill" guys need to start really thinking about.
How do I really engage a chick's emotions if I'm not going to resort to humor?
Came across the feed this morning.
This glow up, everything is as it should be.
This is a glow up, that despite being done right, the kid fumbles the ending.
It's obvious that both guys are young, not in shape, and decided to muscle up.
Being in shape is a huge demonstration of high value.
And neither guy is particularly "jacked".
But the 2nd guy can't let go of his "goober" personality.
All of his hard work in the gym (and in the kitchen) is undone because he can't stop acting like a doofus, he can't stop presenting himself to the world as unserious.
Active Value
The Joker - An argument can be made for either guy being effective in the dating game - sometimes/often times that "goober" energy can work to his advantage in that it makes him outgoing and personable, BUT getting laughs is not getting lays. Jokes relieve tension, they don't build tension. And, in my view, building up tension (sexual or otherwise) is essential to getting a girl to cooperate and share your vision. Some guys can and do laugh their way into the bedroom, but in my view, they're hooking up with chicks DESPITE their humor, not BECAUSE of their humor. (and arguably different girls need different things at different times)
Mr. Serious - The more serious guy, might be just as goofy IRL, but decided to present himself like he's ready to get down. He's able to project that "masculine" aura.
The problem for him, is that despite his aura/his vibe/his looks, he won't really stand out in a typical night game venue.
There are LOTS of guys out there that are in relative good health and fitness, can dress for their body type, and have good grooming. They might only be 20% of the club, but that's like 40-80 guys that are "in the running". It's rare that a cat that has his look together is the ONLY guy that's doing that. (In terms of competition, a lot of guys look the part, few walk the walk.)
So even though both guys look fit, who has the real advantage?
We can't really tell based on pics (though serious guy did include his GF).
I'll tell you - it's the guy that approaches.
We're having a discussion in the other thread about personality/behavior and approaches.
Should you be more calm, chill, and laid back (because that's the natural you) or should you be more "fun"/energetic etc. (even though that's not the real you)
You can do both, but you need to approach and stay consistent with whatever it is you're doing - as opposed to whatever your personality is.
You personality, your preference for "energy" displays - IS NOT YOUR GAME.
The "fun" guy can obviously get emotions out of the girl, by "just being himself" That's obvious.
But a chill dude can still get emotions bubbling up from a girl.
And that's the task you "chill" guys need to start really thinking about.
How do I really engage a chick's emotions if I'm not going to resort to humor?
