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So I went to Target after class and really wanted to open at least one girl today. So I'm going through the isles and this black haired, pretty proportioned woman passes me by with sparkling green eyes. Okay I suck at describing how women look but she was like a 30 year old hottie without a ring on her finger. Boom baby! Except for one thing, I didn't open her as we passed. Argh! A mix between approach anxiety and approach lethargy (breaking past the inertia to start a convo).
Btw if you want to skip to the worlds best pickup line scroll to the bottom. Though I will say you might just miss out on something!
So I walk my ass over and at least pick something up from the shelves so it looks like I didn't just come to chat up women in Target. My ego's feeding me all this crap "you don't feel good your nuts if you think you can have good conversational skills right now", "what kind of convo could you possibly have with a woman that age in Target buying laundry detergent", "if you do open her it'll be awkward and you won't know what to say right afterwards leaving you both looking stupid".
So the ego trick, or knowledge, I picked up from listening to a guy named Johnny Soporno. Btw have any of you guys heard of this guy? He's apparently pretty active in the PU scene although he doesn't agree with PUA or anything mainstream PUA endorses. I picked up a lot of really insightful mindsets and wisdom from listening to this guy talk for an hour. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5shi5cBamMc Even if you don't like anything Sasha Daygame does or talks about I highly recommend giving this guy a chance. Sasha doesn't even talk at all during the podcast.
Basically the drift of this is as follows: Picture your ego as a grumpy old man sitting in a chair on the porch of your house that always yells at you to belittles you when you go try something new. Basically a jealous, non encouraging, pessimistic old man that doesn't like change. You've probably had a friend or family member like such at one point in your life. You go outside (of your theoretical/metaphoric house) of your house and the old man yells "You stupid dumbcoff what are you doing going outside, you being as uncoordinated as you are you're going to get killed going outside. Just go back in the house and sit your happy ass down before you get hurt."
Now here you can do one of three things you can listen to what the old man in the chair has to say (even though he's just jealous your going outside and doesn't want you to try and succeed to get better in life, with his excuse being "I'm looking out for you best interest") and think "Shit the old mans probably right whats the use?". Or you can argue with him and banter back and forth ultimately going nowhere since he was looking for attention anyway (aka getting stuck in your head).
Lastly you can just listen to him, look at him and say "thank you for your input I know you're trying to look out for me", and then go do whatever it is you we're going to do anyway. Of course when you ignore him and come back with success he won't say a damn word to you and will go sulk off since he can't say "I told ya so!"
Maybe that doesn't make sense to you but I never thought of the ego in my head giving me excuses to not do something and view it as a person that I couldn't help but overhear but didn't have to listen to. I don't have to listen to the garbage my ego try's to tell me. Fucking amazing!
Anyway back to the approach. I'm thinking about the girl I just passed and how much I like older women, and I just quit listening to my ego, regain my composure and see what happens. I get close to her and she looks up and share eyecontact with a slight smile.
Here's where The worlds best pickup line comes into play. Btw I also learned this from the aforementioned Johnny Soporno.
Me: "Hi, my names Robert. What's your name?" said with ultimate curiosity like a 5 year old child at the office asking the random lady next to him how old she is.
Her: Looks up and a huge smile crosses her face like she's so happy I had the balls to say hi. "Oh hi! I'm Tara"
Me: "So we passed a minute ago and I noticed I was very attracted to you... and you kept popping up in my mind so I figured I come over and see if I liked you"
Convo continues and life's good.
Over and out,
-Rob
Btw if you want to skip to the worlds best pickup line scroll to the bottom. Though I will say you might just miss out on something!
So I walk my ass over and at least pick something up from the shelves so it looks like I didn't just come to chat up women in Target. My ego's feeding me all this crap "you don't feel good your nuts if you think you can have good conversational skills right now", "what kind of convo could you possibly have with a woman that age in Target buying laundry detergent", "if you do open her it'll be awkward and you won't know what to say right afterwards leaving you both looking stupid".
So the ego trick, or knowledge, I picked up from listening to a guy named Johnny Soporno. Btw have any of you guys heard of this guy? He's apparently pretty active in the PU scene although he doesn't agree with PUA or anything mainstream PUA endorses. I picked up a lot of really insightful mindsets and wisdom from listening to this guy talk for an hour. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5shi5cBamMc Even if you don't like anything Sasha Daygame does or talks about I highly recommend giving this guy a chance. Sasha doesn't even talk at all during the podcast.
Basically the drift of this is as follows: Picture your ego as a grumpy old man sitting in a chair on the porch of your house that always yells at you to belittles you when you go try something new. Basically a jealous, non encouraging, pessimistic old man that doesn't like change. You've probably had a friend or family member like such at one point in your life. You go outside (of your theoretical/metaphoric house) of your house and the old man yells "You stupid dumbcoff what are you doing going outside, you being as uncoordinated as you are you're going to get killed going outside. Just go back in the house and sit your happy ass down before you get hurt."
Now here you can do one of three things you can listen to what the old man in the chair has to say (even though he's just jealous your going outside and doesn't want you to try and succeed to get better in life, with his excuse being "I'm looking out for you best interest") and think "Shit the old mans probably right whats the use?". Or you can argue with him and banter back and forth ultimately going nowhere since he was looking for attention anyway (aka getting stuck in your head).
Lastly you can just listen to him, look at him and say "thank you for your input I know you're trying to look out for me", and then go do whatever it is you we're going to do anyway. Of course when you ignore him and come back with success he won't say a damn word to you and will go sulk off since he can't say "I told ya so!"
Maybe that doesn't make sense to you but I never thought of the ego in my head giving me excuses to not do something and view it as a person that I couldn't help but overhear but didn't have to listen to. I don't have to listen to the garbage my ego try's to tell me. Fucking amazing!
Anyway back to the approach. I'm thinking about the girl I just passed and how much I like older women, and I just quit listening to my ego, regain my composure and see what happens. I get close to her and she looks up and share eyecontact with a slight smile.
Here's where The worlds best pickup line comes into play. Btw I also learned this from the aforementioned Johnny Soporno.
Me: "Hi, my names Robert. What's your name?" said with ultimate curiosity like a 5 year old child at the office asking the random lady next to him how old she is.
Her: Looks up and a huge smile crosses her face like she's so happy I had the balls to say hi. "Oh hi! I'm Tara"
Me: "So we passed a minute ago and I noticed I was very attracted to you... and you kept popping up in my mind so I figured I come over and see if I liked you"
Convo continues and life's good.
Over and out,
-Rob
