Abundance mentality: is it necessary to have girls in your life?

[kristian]

People in the community preach about always having options, as in always meeting girls in order to maintain abundance mentality.

While this might be true it actually also cripples you because you then need to always approach and interact with a bunch of women to keep that mentality.

But what if you can achieve that feeling without outside circumstances, feeling great and "enough" comes from the inside, right? Do some of you feel abundance, even when there's no girls around? Or else well be chasing tails forever, won't we?

I would love to hear your take on this.

 

[Richard]

Yeah, there are two kinds of "abundance" you can have - physical and mental.

Physical abundance is having physical access to new women, all the time. High social traffic cities like Chicago, New York, California have physical abundance because there are a plethora of women around you all the time.

Mental abundance is understanding that you can approach (reliably) and get laid or meet new women if you need to - this is the mentality I have because I don't have physical abundance unless I take the train downtown. So, with my girlfriends/girls I'm involved with - I'm still able to maintain my leadership, etc. because I know I can go out and approach if this girl starts to fuck up but, admittedly, it is a bit tougher to maintain without either a) physical abundance accompanying it or b) solid experience to fall back on.

As it stands, I've done enough field work that I can confidently go back to approaching if I need to SO I don't have to spend a lot of my time constantly meeting new women which frees up my time to engage in my hobbies, etc. Very few men are actually approaching as non-stop as you're assuming they might have to in order to have abundance because it's a time sink that could be spent doing something more productive.

Plus, once you've reached abundance it's relatively easy to maintain because you're socializing in your daily life. Again, most men don't make time to actively go out with the intention of picking up new women after achieving abundance. It takes no extra time or effort on my part to flirt with the cute cashier that's handling my money for 45 seconds, ya know?

 

[kristian]

Wow, an eye-opener.

By what you said I see my game transitioning from 1. talking to many women (understanding the patterns) 2. to talking to fewer women and having even better results, 3. to having results at will - no matter how many approaches or women available. I am still in between 1 and 2 and my aim is to be 3.

Having abundance mentality is something you can work yourself into. Once you're there you can maintain it without difficulties.

It clears up a lot of self-doubts. Thank you!