Accents

[Bboy100]

Hey guys,

Anyone have any experience using different types of accents with women? I learned both Bulgarian and English at a very young age. I not only know both languages, but I can also switch between American and Bulgarian accents very easily. So i'm curious, how would girls respond if I used my Bulgarian accent in America? For those of you who don't know, a Bulgarian accent sounds the same as a Russian one.

 

[Estate]

Hey man,

I'm Irish and live in the U.S. My accent is still very much there... and you often hear how "in demand" Irish/English accents are.

Anyway, it makes a difference but also not really. It can help in having some girls open you, not all, but some.
It can help to differenciate yourself in the early stages as you're "not like all other guys" if you actually have something different to say to her... not just the accent.

But I feel like that buys you like 5 minutes, max. In the end, game is game. Having an accent can sort of give you an easy way to circumvent AA if you have it since you can let girls open you or you can use the "I'm new in town" approach to begin talking to her about anything. But you still need game after the opening if it's going to go anywhere.

Accents also depend on the women. For example, where I am, women if Irish, English and Italian descent seem to love it.
Women of Asian descent are indifferent and Eastern European women just hate it. So pick your targets.

Also it depends on the "type" of women you're after. Younger and more party girls will be into you more. You're seen as different or exotic somehow and they'll be willing to have a new notch on their belt for a "type" of guy they've never been with.
Older or more mature or driven women will not see it this way often. Infact is *could* work against you as being from somewhere else makes them feel your position is unstable... you might up and leave any minute and they will not get attached to you.

All in all... it works in some ways and not in others.

I find it's usually GUYS who may more attention to my accent when I go out... they're always with the comments "Oh you must get all the action with a accent"... whereas with real quality women, it makes no difference, they may pay initial attention but if you're not up to their standards in other ways, you'll be out of luck.

It might be fun to try out for a night. I wouldn't rely on it as you're only strategy to get laid is all I'm saying.

 

[ray_zorse]

Like Estate I have some mixed feelings about accent. Partly that I do not have exactly the right accent for where I live, so I'm often not accepted as Australian, even though I am 100% Aussie maayyte! This is terribly frustrating. Usually people thibk I am British or German, which is not a bad thing, but I do not like to lie so it is hard to really capitalize.

However, with voice classes my situation has improved a lot, and I think my Aussie accent comes through more clearly when I breathe and enunciate correctly. But ironically we use stuff like "Four score and seven years ago..." in the voice classes and I discovered I can do a passable American accent if I concentrate. I will be speaking American if I come to US for PU because Aussie accent just sounds strange to American ears. No disrespect but America can be a little inward-looking.

Given that when I'm in Tokyo I try to speak Tokyo-ben and when I'm in Osaka I try to speak Osaka-ben, and that I try to pronounce non-English syllables such as "fu" correctly (sounds like English "fu" but teeth are not involved, only lips, also in Osaka there is less blowing of air through the lips and more glottalization, so it becomes more like "hu")... I see no reason to treat English differently, even though I'm a native speaker. For some reason, it feels fake in English, whereas it does not feel fake in Japanese, but I'm trying to disregard that and become comfortable with adjusting my speech to suit surroundings.

IMO people will be more comfortable with you if you mirror their body language, accent etc. Also you will probably not do it perfectly, so will retain some hint of mystery. Some accents are considered "desirable" though, so it could be an advantage having a posh English accent in US or even an Osakan accent/phrasing in Tokyo, depending on the image you want to portray, but that's just case-by-case IMO.

For Bboy100 I suggest Chase's advice of just inserting a tiny hint of foreignness to make yourself more interesting and gey her wondering, but without overdoing it. I don't really need to follow this advice since I naturally sound foreign and have to work at trying to be "one of us"... so I'm curious to know how it goes.

Ray

 

[Estate]

Yeah and just to follow up.

In general. Don't fake an accent. If you naturally can have or speak in another accent or language then great. Give it a shot.

But at some point it's impossible to keep up or sound natural. In case of the Irish accent I actually have caught a bunch of guys in Boston doing it since they do feel girls like it.

But there's a big difference between a real accent and the "oh my lady diddly dee" accent people fake in movies. I would think the same of eastern European or Russian accents. It's easy to spot a natural vs someone faking it.

 

[Zoro]

Just a quick side question,

Often if I'm speaking to a person with an accent I'll start to have a little bit on accent myself! Anyone else experience this?

 

[Bboy100]

Sorry for the long reply time! Don't have much internet access outside my smartphone where I'm at. lol.

For Bboy100 I suggest Chase's advice of just inserting a tiny hint of foreignness to make yourself more interesting and gey her wondering, but without overdoing it.

Yeah, I remember him writing that in his book. But I don't really know what he means. Cause I've heard his voice, and its very deep+masculine, but as far as his actual accent goes, he sounds like a sterotypical white guy. I honestly can't detect any type of accent in Chase's voice at all.

I will be speaking American if I come to US for PU because Aussie accent just sounds strange to American ears. No disrespect but America can be a little inward-looking.

Depends on where you are. If you go to a state in the South, yeah, you're probably right. People might not like it. But if you go to a more liberal state, your accent could work to your advantage.

Ex. I live in a college town full of hippies. And my exchange student friends said getting laid was a LOT easier for them in the U.S. (which is what got me thinkin about experimenting with accents to begin with!)

Don't fake an accent. If you naturally can have or speak in another accent or language then great. Give it a shot.

Yep, mine is 100% authentic. I don't need to fake it.
Still though, you do have a point. I feel like this is a form of dishonesty. Tbh, I wouldn't have a problem with this If its some girl who I'm never gonna see again, But if its someone who I might want to stay in touch with, I feel like an ongoing lie might be a bad idea.