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Hello all,
I just moved away from my family and am settling in SLO, California. I'm enjoying all, but I have a new peoblem (old one, but amplified as I'm alone): I'm not finding it easy to just "let go" and enjoy myself! This doesn't prevent me from approaching, for example, but it definitely makes it less enjoyable.
I'm writing this now because I don't feel that way now, and I'm loving it. The way I feel now is less inhibited, more inclined to be fun and/ or creative, and more likely to share positivity. I would say it is pretty similar to being high in social momentum. The way I got it is, I spent an hour or so reading a nice post by Thijs on simple-pickup, and his word choice is funny it really elevated my mood. Suddenly, i look at things I could've told girls this past week, or texts i could've sent that would've been much better (and not fake, they're still characteristic of me, but hidden much of the time). I texted a girl who told me she came back from a visit to her boyfrirnd in Australia, and instead of acting like I'm not bothered by this new fact, i really wasnt bothered and successfully pushed a joke about meeting kangaroos in australia.
One recommendation i can make is to stop worrying about sleeping with too many girls: although I really hadn't thought about it until this point, I really do feel happy if i could see myself sleeping with so many hot girls. While that's positive, i doubt it really has a lasting fulfilling effect, and it probably causes this sadened state of mind. I think this is what caused me to get into pickup to start with, and I'm sure many younger guys are the same. So from now on, don't fall in the trap of making this your subconscious goal (this refers to you too, Kalyan!). just focus on approaching, trying this and that new thing, etc.
That being said, I know that tomorrow morning I very probably will not have this mindset as I have not internalized it. but I do hope to work in the direction of doing so. So what suggestions / articles do you have on being in such a good state more regularly?
I just moved away from my family and am settling in SLO, California. I'm enjoying all, but I have a new peoblem (old one, but amplified as I'm alone): I'm not finding it easy to just "let go" and enjoy myself! This doesn't prevent me from approaching, for example, but it definitely makes it less enjoyable.
I'm writing this now because I don't feel that way now, and I'm loving it. The way I feel now is less inhibited, more inclined to be fun and/ or creative, and more likely to share positivity. I would say it is pretty similar to being high in social momentum. The way I got it is, I spent an hour or so reading a nice post by Thijs on simple-pickup, and his word choice is funny it really elevated my mood. Suddenly, i look at things I could've told girls this past week, or texts i could've sent that would've been much better (and not fake, they're still characteristic of me, but hidden much of the time). I texted a girl who told me she came back from a visit to her boyfrirnd in Australia, and instead of acting like I'm not bothered by this new fact, i really wasnt bothered and successfully pushed a joke about meeting kangaroos in australia.
One recommendation i can make is to stop worrying about sleeping with too many girls: although I really hadn't thought about it until this point, I really do feel happy if i could see myself sleeping with so many hot girls. While that's positive, i doubt it really has a lasting fulfilling effect, and it probably causes this sadened state of mind. I think this is what caused me to get into pickup to start with, and I'm sure many younger guys are the same. So from now on, don't fall in the trap of making this your subconscious goal (this refers to you too, Kalyan!). just focus on approaching, trying this and that new thing, etc.
That being said, I know that tomorrow morning I very probably will not have this mindset as I have not internalized it. but I do hope to work in the direction of doing so. So what suggestions / articles do you have on being in such a good state more regularly?
