advice and help on getting the girl back

[Anonymous]

Hey, thanks for anyone that reads this and attempts to help me. Might be a long read but here goes

So Back in Jan, I asked this girl out who i knew for awhile. We always talked here and there but she told me she was currently trying to get back together with her ex but she would have taken my offer if she was single.
A month pass and she asked me if I wanted to go out sometimes and I said yes, the only issues was she lived 3 hours away. So we ended up texting everyday. She seems into me, we got to know each other alot and I was always honest with her about everything. we had feelings for each other. about a month an a half in, she told me before we started talking she meet someone online but doesnt think its going anywhere. I didnt want to be forceful so i mention i didnt like that but she stated she would rather be with me so we continue talking and made plans to see each other. about a week before she came down, she told me she had started to have feelings for this guy and it turned messy. In the end she told me how much it scared her how she had strong feelings for me but we never meet. Anyways she came down and we cuddle I tried having sex with her but she stopped me.

A few days passes and she told me we should just be friends when she knows I clearly like her. We spend a week of me trying to chase her..She didnt want to loses me as a friend because she really enjoyed talking to me and we had an deep emotional connection and was unable to get this emotional connection from this guy. She felt I wanted to do noting with her that night, which was clearly wrong. Then she said this guy and her started to have emotional connection slowly.

In the end I told her I am gonna give her some distance since this really hurt me, I really like her and she knows that. but at the same time we have been running in circles, she did this three times and in the end she always cont showing feelings for me, its been about two days since I told her I am giving us space but she texted me last night just telling me she hoped i had a good day. I have my answered her.

Any suggestions? my first mistake was I should have had sex with her, second was chasing her.

 

[Light]

What you are doing wrong is that you are not showing her the manly side of you.
What I mean is this:
Girls love chasing after guys who are powerful, sexy, busy, someone who doesn't have time to waste. Someone who knows that females are not a big deal.

You on the other hand, is showing her that she can have your time whenver she shoves you a thoughless text. You are not showing any attractive trait as a powerful man at all. Your time is worthless. "Don't you have anything else going on in your life?" ... is what most people would think, including her.

Deep down she doesn't want to lose you... as a FRIEND. Understand this. The feelings she have for you is not sexual at all. She has already friend zoned you.

You need to give her an option with only 2 choice:
1) Either she stop wasting your time and see you as a lover
or
2) You stop wasting time and move on (it helps to let her know that you too are seeing another girl, whether its true or not)

That is all there is to it.

Once you get the message accross that you are not a push over, and that you are also desired by many other girls, she will start to see you in a different light again. But right now, you are clearly not showing this.

Once you made a decision to move on and you told her so. Stick to it like a real man. Don't answer her text anymore. Let her know you're the real deal, and not just all talk.

 

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I have my talked to her in a few days, what are the chances of her wanting to talk to me ?