FR Advice Needed About the Hot Hygienist- My Ultimate Dream

[CzechChase6]

So my goal in life is to is to become a dentist, thus I was shadowing a dentist one day and so it just happens that he has a hot hygienist come to work that day. Let's say that plays just a slight bit into my fantasy... Anyways let's call the hot hygienist Kat. The dental assistant there we shall call Lilly. Lilly is very nice, but not my type and she is 31 with a child, yet Kat is the same age and smoking hot with no kid. Lilly mentions to me, while she prepares a room right next to the one Kat, that both of them are single with a kid (which I already knew previous talking to her) except Kat who does not have a child, but a dog. I found it a bit odd that she had mentioned that in such a manner literally right next to her so she could hear; I still made note of this though.

I carry on my day and don't get much time to talk to Kat, yet made slight conversation to her around 10 o'clock. We didn't talk later until roughly noon when she was going to leave and was lunch time. Her and I sat and then talked about the school she attended versus the one I did and why she was battling between which schools to go to plus other subjects about football and dentistry. I made eye contact with her pretty much the 90-95% of the conversation and noticed her eyes in a way very slightly moved around and twitched (I don't know if this means anything, just a note though). We continued our conversation for quite some time where she started to engage in it much more and didn't seem so cold. I then made the move to grab my things and make my way out of the office to go grab my lunch in my car. She followed my lead and we both walked out because she was leaving. We walked towards our cars and continued to talk where I occasionally made eye contact with her but she rarely if at all did instead looked down or straight ahead. We reached a point where I stopped to go to my car and her and I talked a bit longer where I made sure to face her feet forward as she did with me and smile occasionally. This now went on for a minute and I decided to take no time in between...and yes I can't believe I'm saying this, but I said

"Well it was really nice meeting you Kat!"

I then shook her hand and she smiled ear to ear and said the same thing and we went our separate ways.

Side note: I noticed she had a thin body, was tan, bright white teeth and carried a blender bottle. To me these were all signs of bodybuilding to which I love and do so myself. I failed to mention this to her as I only realized it 10 minutes after she left.

Gentlemen, I want to know if I can get some helpful advice here or have someone analyze the situation for me to see what I did correct/incorrect and if she had any interest at all or if I should have asked her to lunch/for a drink?

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Re: Advice Needed About the Hot Hygienist - My Ultimate Dream

So Lilly is nice...and I think she was shit-talking Kat.

Lilly has a kid and Kat has a dog.

Unless they're really close friends and Lilly is going to bat for Kat (lol rhyming), that was a dig at Kat. Girls are fiercely competitive. She probably can tell you're not too interested in her but is still interested in you. If she can't seduce you, best thing she can do is lower another girl's value (she doesn't have a kid since no one wanted to knock her up). Of course, Kat could just be super ambitious and hasn't found a guy she would let knock her up....or they were all pussies and couldn't put a bun in the oven. Would have to know her relationship history.

When you were walking, did you notice her staring at you when you were looking ahead? If so, the rest of her behavior could just be nervousness. Was she breaking eye contact AFTER looking at you or just straight up not looking at you?

"Well it was really nice meeting you Kat!"
I then shook her hand and she smiled ear to ear and said the same thing and we went our separate ways.

Personally, I would have hugged her, if I noticed that she was nervous excited the whole time. And then asked her out.

But if it was coldness, then you want to be a bit more cool. Maybe a light squeeze on the arm and a "I'll see you soon" with a cheeky smile.

Are you going to see her soon?

You gotta consider logistics. If this is the last time you're going to see her, asking her out and failing won't really cost you too much (a simple coffee suggestion is casual enough). If you will see her again, and she wasn't ripe, well then wait for it to heat up. The reason a handshake might not work, is if you're too formal about it (or nervous), it could plant you firm in the friendzone.

And yeah, you should compliment her at some point. Your intentions were clear with your eye contact, you gotta back it up with words, too. Not asking her out can make her nervous, since she can TELL you like her, but you're not doing anything about it (makes you low value). Of course, if you just run a smoldering slowburn type game, this can work just fine (and if you know you'll see her again).

Logistics and intentions are key here. Consider these and you'll see the interaction more clearly. Plan, think ahead.

And also more details the small nuances like her looking at you when you're looking forward can mean the difference between coldness and shyness.

Hector

 

[Fuck This]

Re: Advice Needed About the Hot Hygienist - My Ultimate Dream

I'm going to suggest that you never leave a situation with a woman you might not get a chance to see again without knowing where you two stand as to your interest in one another.

Now if you two are going to be working together soon, then you can continue to play it cool, but at some point you are going to have to express some interest.

I've had luck saying:
"So, I really would love to hear more about your (dog, cat, grandmother's strudel recipe, etc...) How do we do that? " as I hand her my phone. If she holds eye contact during this she is hooked..

Or if you wanted to go for the insta-date, state where you are going and that she should join you.
"Hey I always hit Tommy Chong's House of Noodles when I'm on this side of town. You should come." 50% of the time she will demur to not seem to eager, give her time to offer an alternative time. Regardless of the excuse, get her phone number to make arrangements.