Advice on hooking up, any help appreciated!

[Vibes34]

So I met this girl a couple of years back online, we got chatting and got on really well. Met up and banged. Only happened like 4/5 times cos we live quite far away from eachother but we always had fun when we met up and chatted and texted a lot.

Anyway she got a boyfriend so didn't speak much for a quite a while, I was a bit rude to her when they first got together, so had to apologise, but we still kept in touch a bit over text. Anyway she split up with her boyf recently and we started texting again and she seemed like she might be up for hooking up again, said she'd bang me again etc. But then she told me the other day she was linking some shirt off moron off tinder, suspect they probably banged. So I got a bit pissed off and haven't spoken since.

Thing is I would really like to do her again. But i'm thinking maybe it's not worth pursuing and will probably just piss me off. Any advice?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Vibes34,

I don't think it's really your fault at this point. It is just that maybe it is really an inconvenience for her, and also she found a new fuckbuddy in a sense. But hey, you can probably text her to tell you if she will be in your area sometime, to meet up.

At least that is something.

Zac

 

[Vibes34]

Thanks for the reply, much appreciated.

Thing is I get quite rattled in these situations, like she texted me about this guy and I basically got super super pissed, told her she was dickhead and the guy was a dickhead and haven't texted since. I get bad anxiety though so my reactions are often blown out of proportion. Been out the game a long time , in part due to my anxiety despite the fact i'm super social and known as a bit of a joker. Just looking to get the ball rolling again really and try not to get too emotional about it all.

Quite fearful of the repercussions of meeting women often and don't have any options really so I can see i'm placing too much importance on it, but at the same time I did always enjoy her company and did want to meet up again and bang. Was a bit of a pride thing too as I felt that i was not on the greatest form when we linked up in the past and know I am much more fun to be around and fun to get down with normally.

Despite my neuroses, I know she does like me but I get quite complacent and forget sometimes you still have to make an effort even if you are well comfortable with someone and basically like friends, despite there still being sexual element. Also I can be quite negative at times and I know this doesn't present the best side of my character. I guess I don't have any real reason to get pissed, if I had a solid option on tinder or elsewhere and wasn't so full of fear i'd take it too. I guess I was just angry that she chose to meet up with some selfie moron rather than someone like me that shes always got on well and had a laugh with and knows is a decent/funny guy.

Not sure what happened with the guy, she hasn't been in touch so probably not too concerned about what i'm up to, but just thinking if I do text and get involved again, she'll just tell me shes banging this guy and i'll probably get pissed off again.