LR Aggressive Ear Licker

[foggy]

i met ocean on bumble and we instantly clicked. i liked how flirty she was. But there was just one issue. every time i messaged her about hanging out, she said she was going to be busy. this happened 3-4 times - i kept persisting because i knew she was dtf. but eventually i ended up in a position where i wasn't exactly sure what to do next, because of my mental over-investment in her:

fog: what’s your schedule like this week?
ocean: i work full time so I’m only free evenings and weekend but i think it’d be worth your while to wait till at least friday to schedule me in! I’m technically free next weekend but will probably go out for a friends birthday. just not sure when.
fog: is there any specific reason why its gonna be worth my while to wait until friday at least?
ocean: oh i just have my maintenance wax appointment thursday. *laughing face* and not its not for you or anyone, its honestly a personal preference
fog: thank goodness its not for me or anyone else. i was starting to get worried ;P personally i am impartial to hair and earlier this week works better for me. we should meet tomorrow evening. or tuesday evening
ocean: thats what everyone says but like i said its a personal preference. i like to keep sex as clean as i can. either way, id love to because I’m really in the mood for it but i really cant I’m afraid. my department at work is truly slammed, hence why i worked from home this weekend and we’re trying to clear the backlog
ocean: trust me, ill feel more confident post thursday and ill be able to bring my A game

After stepping away for a bit and reflecting on this conversation, I realized some stuff. I had let the power dynamic slip. She was acting like sex was guaranteed with me, and I wasn't being a challenging guy. I hadn't even qualified her on her personality yet! So i course corrected:

fog: dont be certain about getting in my pants unless u bring ur a+++ game and have a bit of luck on ur side. the last time someone was this flaky towards me they scared me off
ocean: i can say the same for you in terms of getting into my pants! but flaky?? thats a stretch, I’m one of the most not flaky people i know if thats any consolation? besides its not like i keep cancelling on set days, ive merely told you what works for me and what doesnt. if you scare this easily maybe youre not for me *thinking face*
fog: i think its admirable that ur standing up for yourself dont worry I’m not running away cuz i suspect we have a lot in common darling! and u might have one of my weaknesses. but i cant be sure yet
ocean: ive never been one to take things lying down, so dont think i wont get feisty and would i really be wasting both of our time if i didnt have at least one of your weaknesses? *thinking face* what are your other ones? i may check some more boxes
fog: my biggest weakness is a personality *laughing face*
ocean: oh perfect! cuz what i lack in height i make up for with personality and funniness

This test got her chasing a little bit and showed me that she was actually interested in me and not pulling my leg. I felt like I was in a better position than before

Finally, she showed up straight to my house last night. I started kissing her and she was a really aggressive kisser. In between us kissing and me eating her out she says this:

ocean: am i the first girl you've hooked up with in 2019?
fog: youre the first girl ive ever talked to
ocean: lol bullshit you talked such a big game when we were texting

We also banged, but it was not a good time. I really did not like her overall vibe, and we didn't seem to click sexually. She was fucking licking the insides of my ear. I hate being licked by girls.

As she was leaving she said this:

ocean: i like being kept on my toes and u were a whirlwind

 

[BigS]

fog,

great lay man. I am glad to see that you are tapped into the online dating scene. this is such a great avenue for getting quick sex.

fog: dont be certain about getting in my pants unless u bring ur a+++ game and have a bit of luck on ur side. the last time someone was this flaky towards me they scared me off
ocean: i can say the same for you in terms of getting into my pants! but flaky?? thats a stretch, I’m one of the most not flaky people i know if thats any consolation? besides its not like i keep cancelling on set days, ive merely told you what works for me and what doesnt. if you scare this easily maybe youre not for me *thinking face*
fog: i think its admirable that ur standing up for yourself dont worry I’m not running away cuz i suspect we have a lot in common darling! and u might have one of my weaknesses. but i cant be sure yet

I especially like what happened here. You threw out a test for her, she jumped into your frame, and then you got to qualify her based on whether she passed your test or not.

Why do you not think that you vibed sexually with her? After all, Chase advocates that when something doesn't go right you should always consider it being something to do with your game.

Curious to hear your thoughts and read more LR's from you man!

Cheers,

BigS