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Story of cold approach at airport terminal, followed by unexpected instant-date inside airplane.
I'm in the terminal at a Mexican airport and already past security. I look around and I honestly do not see many sets I want to open. Once in a while I see one that looks tantalizing - only to find out a boyfriend is nearby or with her.
I go to my gate unsure if I will open any sets at all, and thinking maybe I'll be content listening to podcasts. There are a few girls at the gate I think about opening but none that drove me to make a move just yet. I go to a station that has lots of outlets for charging phones close to my boarding gate, and plug in and stand next to it (I find this is a good spot sometimes to casually open girls that are also charging their phones).
This is when I see her. The woman looks vaguely Latina but with white skin. She walks to the gate, looks at it, then turns around and heads over to a row of chairs to ruffle through her bag looking for something. I like this girl immediately but I wait to access the situation before opening (boyfriend or other obstacle coming?)
She comes over a few minutes later to charge her phone next to where I am standing. This is when I decide to open - in Spanish since I thought there was a very good chance she was Mexican. I ask her if she is Mexican. She responds, in Spanish, but with an american accent (to my surprise), telling me she is. It's likely this was just a knee-jerk reaction on her part since just a few minutes later in conversation she tells me she actually isn't Mexican but that her father is from El Salvador.
Overall she responds well, and hooks within the first minute or two by asking me about my trip, my work, etc. I do my usual "are you a beer girl or wine girl" close and go for the number, which she agrees to give me. We chit chat some more before they call my group and I go into the plane, saying goodbye to her.
I think it's over and I can relax now. But lo and behold - the girl walks up to my row, looks at me and the seat next to me, and says "hey I'm actually sitting there".
I respond:
"whoa, that's surprising"
Her -
"Yeah, it is. What are the chances?"
She takes her seat, and again repeats "this is so crazy".
I'm thinking this is going to test my game since now I have a 3 and a half hour flight to be sitting next to this girl. Nothing I couldnt handle though.
We talk on and off during the flight. The first 15-20 min during take-off was some great deep-diving about her family, work, and life. Then there is a lull in conversation before I open her again maybe 30-60 min later.
Crucially, at one point I intentionally let the conversation die, hoping she will pick up the slack and re-engage me with a question - she does! Another point in the conversation that I took as high interest - she asks the stewardess for some headphones to watch a movie (since she had none, and the ones I tried to give her from my bag did not work). She gets the headphones but then gets distracted talking to me that she doesn't end up watching the movie for a good 30-45 min. Towards the middle of the flight we have another long deep-diving session about her work, family, life history. She is talking well over 50% of the time about herself as is the gold standard for this kind of interaction.
I do try to spike things up when she talks to me about how busy she is at work:
I like this response since she is pretty much bringing this person up as information for me but disqualifying him in the same sentence
After this mid-flight session the conversation dies again, and I end up dozing off for a time. Towards the end of the flight we just have a few comments to each other before the plane lands. When it does and I stand up as people start to get off the plane, I feel a nice sense of rapport with her - she looks to me and shares things she is thinking, such as "I miss my friends so much" and "hmm, I think that couple were on my flight TO Mexico as well"
When we finally part, she goes to shake my hand, but instead I pull her in close, give her the cheek kiss and say "I'll talk to you soon okay". she says "sounds good".
Sadly, this girl has not responded to any of my texts so it looks like its a dud. I'm surprised but not surprised - this is just how the game is sometimes. Women do not behave in ways we expect often. I'm just not sure where I went wrong here.
I'll call her up next week and see if she answers. Chances seems low this will go anywhere.
I'm in the terminal at a Mexican airport and already past security. I look around and I honestly do not see many sets I want to open. Once in a while I see one that looks tantalizing - only to find out a boyfriend is nearby or with her.
I go to my gate unsure if I will open any sets at all, and thinking maybe I'll be content listening to podcasts. There are a few girls at the gate I think about opening but none that drove me to make a move just yet. I go to a station that has lots of outlets for charging phones close to my boarding gate, and plug in and stand next to it (I find this is a good spot sometimes to casually open girls that are also charging their phones).
This is when I see her. The woman looks vaguely Latina but with white skin. She walks to the gate, looks at it, then turns around and heads over to a row of chairs to ruffle through her bag looking for something. I like this girl immediately but I wait to access the situation before opening (boyfriend or other obstacle coming?)
She comes over a few minutes later to charge her phone next to where I am standing. This is when I decide to open - in Spanish since I thought there was a very good chance she was Mexican. I ask her if she is Mexican. She responds, in Spanish, but with an american accent (to my surprise), telling me she is. It's likely this was just a knee-jerk reaction on her part since just a few minutes later in conversation she tells me she actually isn't Mexican but that her father is from El Salvador.
Overall she responds well, and hooks within the first minute or two by asking me about my trip, my work, etc. I do my usual "are you a beer girl or wine girl" close and go for the number, which she agrees to give me. We chit chat some more before they call my group and I go into the plane, saying goodbye to her.
I think it's over and I can relax now. But lo and behold - the girl walks up to my row, looks at me and the seat next to me, and says "hey I'm actually sitting there".
I respond:
"whoa, that's surprising"
Her -
"Yeah, it is. What are the chances?"
She takes her seat, and again repeats "this is so crazy".
I'm thinking this is going to test my game since now I have a 3 and a half hour flight to be sitting next to this girl. Nothing I couldnt handle though.
We talk on and off during the flight. The first 15-20 min during take-off was some great deep-diving about her family, work, and life. Then there is a lull in conversation before I open her again maybe 30-60 min later.
Crucially, at one point I intentionally let the conversation die, hoping she will pick up the slack and re-engage me with a question - she does! Another point in the conversation that I took as high interest - she asks the stewardess for some headphones to watch a movie (since she had none, and the ones I tried to give her from my bag did not work). She gets the headphones but then gets distracted talking to me that she doesn't end up watching the movie for a good 30-45 min. Towards the middle of the flight we have another long deep-diving session about her work, family, life history. She is talking well over 50% of the time about herself as is the gold standard for this kind of interaction.
I do try to spike things up when she talks to me about how busy she is at work:
I like this response since she is pretty much bringing this person up as information for me but disqualifying him in the same sentence
After this mid-flight session the conversation dies again, and I end up dozing off for a time. Towards the end of the flight we just have a few comments to each other before the plane lands. When it does and I stand up as people start to get off the plane, I feel a nice sense of rapport with her - she looks to me and shares things she is thinking, such as "I miss my friends so much" and "hmm, I think that couple were on my flight TO Mexico as well"
When we finally part, she goes to shake my hand, but instead I pull her in close, give her the cheek kiss and say "I'll talk to you soon okay". she says "sounds good".
Sadly, this girl has not responded to any of my texts so it looks like its a dud. I'm surprised but not surprised - this is just how the game is sometimes. Women do not behave in ways we expect often. I'm just not sure where I went wrong here.
I'll call her up next week and see if she answers. Chances seems low this will go anywhere.
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