So I know chase made a post about not locking down a party girl long term, I 100% agree. My problem however is it seems like any black girl I find even remotely attractive parties at least a little and if they don't they wish they could. I'm an African American male who prefers black women and this aspect kills me considering I don't enjoy parties myself. Any advice?
Are u trying to have a girlfriend? If all the black girls you're attracted to party, then just don't have a girlfriend and date around. If you have a girlfriend that likes to party, just know that you can't be invested too much because she's gonna always be out at parties. Maybe get a girl off campus?
Don't have one now, but whenever i did even the girls that would claim they are homebodies or dont party actually did. I guess i just want to be able to better understand where the hell to find these black women since thats my preference. are you black dude?Sub-Zero said:
Yeah, I'm black. I had a chick who never went out a lot (like 3 times since I've known her), but the thing is I was the only one she ever did anything with, she just happened to not have friends that wanted to party like that or hang out, that situation just happened, I met her at my old job.
You will never know if a girl wants to, or does party a lot until you spend a lot of time with them, because like you said, some claimed they did not go out, but they did, or wanted to. It also depends on age too, if she's college age or in college, she will be most likely partying. I have no idea on how you can tell quickly if they like to party, but I would look for nerdy, quiet girls who like to read books and stay in all of the time. Chase has said that day game girls usuallly aren't the partying type. Just ask them if they like to party or if they ever partied hard back in the day, use your best judgement, have no expectations and hope for the best.
So screen girls who don't have a lot of friends, or friends that don't go out like that. If she doesn't have friends to go out with, she most likely won't go out. Make sure they don't do drugs or drink, girls that don't party usually don't like those things.
But you have to spend time with them to find out their true character, don't rush into a relationship. I have had many girls who I thought were homebodies that really loved to club, but told me they didn't!
I can't give you locationson where to find homebodies tho because I mostly have done social circle game. I need to start finding some more girls like that too!
You will never know if a girl wants to, or does party a lot until you spend a lot of time with them, because like you said, some claimed they did not go out, but they did, or wanted to. It also depends on age too, if she's college age or in college, she will be most likely partying. I have no idea on how you can tell quickly if they like to party, but I would look for nerdy, quiet girls who like to read books and stay in all of the time. Chase has said that day game girls usuallly aren't the partying type. Just ask them if they like to party or if they ever partied hard back in the day, use your best judgement, have no expectations and hope for the best.
So screen girls who don't have a lot of friends, or friends that don't go out like that. If she doesn't have friends to go out with, she most likely won't go out. Make sure they don't do drugs or drink, girls that don't party usually don't like those things.
But you have to spend time with them to find out their true character, don't rush into a relationship. I have had many girls who I thought were homebodies that really loved to club, but told me they didn't!
I can't give you locationson where to find homebodies tho because I mostly have done social circle game. I need to start finding some more girls like that too!
see the going out i dont mind like i like one on one dates, group setting things are cool like maybe a kick back but ive tried the party scene it isnt my thing and bruh dancing, going out to the club and all that shit is so ingrained in our culture that any time i find a chick who doesnt do it im like whats wrong with her haha. Exactly as you said my ex didnt go out and i thought she was a homebody but the moment she got some friends who liked to party that was all she did. i'm just tryna date around, have sex, and figure out how exactly to screen for em cuz man its rare and i feel like its not as rare for other ethnicities. I have nothing against black women who love to party i just wish the ones who didnt were more readily available.Sub-Zero said:
I mean if you just wanna fuck em, then you good, unless you don't want those types of girls at all. And yeah idk how you would screen for most of them, but you probably should get a career driven women then, they have no time for parties, but I believe that they have high testosterone and you probably won't get her to settle down, but hey, they won't be partying all the time.
I think the best method is to find a nice cute, quiet girl and just to never trust 100% that way you will never be let down. It sucks, but that's the only way to be sane because if your lil princess is at the club saying she doesn't go to the club, you won't be hurt in these streets. Never trust 100%!
Imma give you a lil list that should help.
Make sure they're not ratchet!
They talk with proper English, no Ebonics, and she doesn't talk like a dude at all.
Talks with a very sweet voice.
Is very sweet and girly.
I would say no tattoos, but it seems girls always have a tat hidden somewhere, you'll have to take dem panties off if you wanna find out
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No drugs, no weed, does not drink.
Has nerdy hobbies, doesn't care about keeping up with the Jones's.
But be warned, I have met many girls with all of thee above and they still love to club, but it won't be as bad as the opposite.
That's all I can think of, but no matter what never trust or love 100% because you will be blinded. It's fucked up, but you gotta always have the upper hand my brother!
You in high school, college? If so, then you just gotta know she tryna have fun.
I think the best method is to find a nice cute, quiet girl and just to never trust 100% that way you will never be let down. It sucks, but that's the only way to be sane because if your lil princess is at the club saying she doesn't go to the club, you won't be hurt in these streets. Never trust 100%!
Imma give you a lil list that should help.
Make sure they're not ratchet!
They talk with proper English, no Ebonics, and she doesn't talk like a dude at all.
Talks with a very sweet voice.
Is very sweet and girly.
I would say no tattoos, but it seems girls always have a tat hidden somewhere, you'll have to take dem panties off if you wanna find out
.No drugs, no weed, does not drink.
Has nerdy hobbies, doesn't care about keeping up with the Jones's.
But be warned, I have met many girls with all of thee above and they still love to club, but it won't be as bad as the opposite.
That's all I can think of, but no matter what never trust or love 100% because you will be blinded. It's fucked up, but you gotta always have the upper hand my brother!
You in high school, college? If so, then you just gotta know she tryna have fun.
Haha bruh everything you listed is exactly what I preorder. And yeah I am that's why I'm not crucifying girls who party it's maural at my age. I just like thinking long term like for now it's whatever but I've always been a relationship type guy. I remember asking my Asian friend if he notices the same thing with Asian girls he dates and he said no. I've talked to dated white girls who didn't go out like that either. I feel like drinking drugs and all that is a lot more acceptable nowadays like half the girls I messed with smoked weed I damn near gave up on looking for girls who don't. But yeah, I agree after college is when i can really think about the type of girl to settle down with.Sub-Zero said:I mean if you just wanna fuck em, then you good, unless you don't want those types of girls at all. And yeah idk how you would screen for most of them, but you probably should get a career driven women then, they have no time for parties, but I believe that they have high testosterone and you probably won't get her to settle down, but hey, they won't be partying all the time.
I think the best method is to find a nice cute, quiet girl and just to never trust 100% that way you will never be let down. It sucks, but that's the only way to be sane because if your lil princess is at the club saying she doesn't go to the club, you won't be hurt in these streets. Never trust 100%!
Imma give you a lil list that should help.
Make sure they're not ratchet!
They talk with proper English, no Ebonics, and she doesn't talk like a dude at all.
Talks with a very sweet voice.
Is very sweet and girly.
I would say no tattoos, but it seems girls always have a tat hidden somewhere, you'll have to take dem panties off if you wanna find out
No drugs, no weed, does not drink.
Has nerdy hobbies, doesn't care about keeping up with the Jones's.
But be warned, I have met many girls with all of thee above and they still love to club, but it won't be as bad as the opposite.
That's all I can think of, but no matter what never trust or love 100% because you will be blinded. It's fucked up, but you gotta always have the upper hand my brother!
You in high school, college? If so, then you just gotta know she tryna have fun.