FR+ All I did was take a walk

[Smiling_Stray]

Technically this could be a F++ but I won't put that since this was pretty much life just falling into place.

I was walking back from the store in my town and passed by two girls with their dog and a case of beer sitting on their lawn. The dog comes up to me and they said it was friendly, I pet it a bit and they offered me some beer. I'm not really a beer drinker but they were cute so I took it and asked if I could sit with them. A little while goes by and we're all just kinda getting to know each other. I wasn't sure who I was more interested in or if I could somehow pull both of them so I kept an open mind.

I later learned who's place I was at and she (the woman who lived there) offered to show me some of her neighbors turtles (they where outdoor turtles in their backyard along their fence), we had been eyeing each other a bit. I went with her, considered kissing her here but wasn't sure how to go about it. There was some "accidental" physical touch. I noticed one of her tattoos and was about to say something but she had to go use the bathroom. A bit more time goes by and we drink a bit more. It comes time that it's almost time for her and her friend to go, since they had party plans at a bar. I had my own things to do later on too, so I couldn't go with them.

I asked the woman who lived at the house if I could use her restroom, she says "yeah!" pretty quickly and shows me the way in, even go as far as to walk me up the steps and to stop with me outside the bathroom that was only just down the hall from her bedroom (bed literally in view). I stop for a bit and talk to her about her tattoo, holding her arm it was on gently in my hand before looking her in the eyes, pausing, and going for a kiss. For a minute it looks like she's going to make it into a hug instead but at the last minute she comes around and we make out a bit.

At least until she pushes me back and says she'll meet me downstairs and to give her my number. So I go use the bathroom and meet her downstairs, and give her my number. Her friend is also there and just getting ready to go. The woman who lives there walks me out and I thought about kissing her then but opted against it. Guess I'm not really much of a kiss goodbye kind of guy. Is that really something that matters anyway?

Anyway, I never really heard from her again. In retrospect, I should've asked for her number too.

 

[Chase]

@Smiling_Stray,

Nice job going for it.

You know with these quick, impromptu pickups, something that can help a lot is screening the girl fast on a couple weighty-ish things and qualifying right away. That way it doesn't feel to her like, "He will just do this with any girl," but rather, "This is a magical connection so of course it happens fast."

It's a bit tough here because you didn't get the girl isolated until you were in her place, and they were both about to leave and you were. So no chance to screen/qualify. You can still go for the quick lay and just hope she's ultra-horny... but even still you need some seduction.

For a minute it looks like she's going to make it into a hug instead but at the last minute she comes around and we make out a bit.

At least until she pushes me back and says she'll meet me downstairs and to give her my number.

The problem here was her ending the kiss instead of you. You needed to end this first and then screen/qualify her + use some barriers since you didn't get a chance to do so earlier. Like:

[making out]​

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YOU: [end the make-out] You're a good kisser. [wry smile] But maybe I'm too wild for you.​

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HER: I think I can handle you. [kisses you]​

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YOU: [end the make-out] I wouldn't want to overstay my welcome.​

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HER: [kisses you again]​

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YOU: [end the make-out] Hmm, all right. Is there somewhere we can go in here for like 5 minutes of privacy?​

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HER: [takes you by the hand] Yeah, this way.​

Even if she balks at the screen and doesn't qualify herself, "You might be a bit too wild! Anyway, I should get going," you've still got more to work with here. Then you just tell her, "Well let's stay in touch. Maybe you can introduce me to one of your wilder friends," and now your excuse to meet up with her is a social one (at which point you'll either seduce her friend... or she'll get jealous and possessive of you and you proceed with the same girl).

Whoever ends the kiss gets to dictate what comes next, be that a screen, barrier, etc.

She ended it first, and shut the whole thing down, asking for your number. Then left with the feeling that she was in control and you were just sort of there, so there's not much attraction for a re-meet.

Next time, end the kiss first yourself, and see if you can't frame her into getting together with you!

Chase