Almost smashed, texting after, am I missing something?

[Don Giovanni]

Wrote a FR+ 2 weeks ago about this girl I friendzoned myself with then made out with her at her birthday party. Almost smashed but the owner of the flat where we were in kicked us out from the bedroom.

Here's the texting the day after:

DG: hey
DG: how did the hangover recovery go
HB: hey hey
HB: Actually not so bad, yesterday I was suprisingly good
HB: Today just really tired
HB: And u?
DG: me too suprisingly
DG: then i remembered the agressive english girl
DG: got wonderwall stuck in my head again haha

there was this drunk girl who wanted to fight a group of 3 guys because they were singing along her boyfriend busking wonderwall, i found it hillarious

HB: Who is it?
HB: Why agressive??
DG: come on you were there
DG: when we walked past the metro
HB: Aaaaaaaah yes!!!!
HB: Almost forgot
HB: I though you were talking about a friend
HB: Omg that was intense :O
DG:
DG: anyways we should get a drink soon
HB: maybe (angel emoji)
HB: haha
DG: you're funny aren't you haha
HB: I'm very much
DG: when would be a good time for you
DG: maybe a beer, maybe we dance on tables... (I can see now how it starts feeling like I'm chasing her here)
HB: Good question
HB: I'm busy all the evenings of this week
HB: And next week I'll be in Serbia
DG: cool
DG: feel free to text me if anything changes
DG: (reply to Serbia) business or pleasure?
HB: business of pleasure (unfortunate way of putting it haha her English is not the best, she meant a workshop)

Ok, here I thought we could continue right away, but now she says she can't for 2 weeks. I retreat for this time and write her again yesterday. I was expecting her to text me during this time, so I was a bit dissapointed.

DG: hey
DG: how did the business of pleasure go
DG: and guess where i was
HB: It went ok, a bit intense
HB: You were in Serbia?
DG: intense can also be good
DG: sent a pic of big ben I took from the street, maybe not obvious enough

I was expecting a more animated response from her, something in the lines of ''wtf what were you doing there'' or at least ''where is that?'' if she couldn't figure out the picture, but instead I'm just seen so far. I know I should've closed the deal on her birthday party but that is past, I did my best.

I don't know if I'm missing attainability or am I coming off as needy? Should I be warmer or colder towards her now? I like this girl a bit too much - I will get her. I'm turning to you guys to help me see which piece of the puzzle am I missing. Just doesn't seem right to close her now.

 

[Skills]

She just got back Ping and at high point her then soft close her with, " we should celabrate your coming back from serbia with a bottle of wine" or whatever drink you know she likes

 

[Skills]

Wrote a FR+ 2 weeks ago about this girl I friendzoned myself with then made out with her at her birthday party. Almost smashed but the owner of the flat where we were in kicked us out from the bedroom.

Here's the texting the day after:

DG: hey
DG: how did the hangover recovery go
HB: hey hey
HB: Actually not so bad, yesterday I was suprisingly good
HB: Today just really tired
HB: And u?
DG: me too suprisingly
DG: then i remembered the agressive english girl
DG: got wonderwall stuck in my head again haha

there was this drunk girl who wanted to fight a group of 3 guys because they were singing along her boyfriend busking wonderwall, i found it hillarious

HB: Who is it?
HB: Why agressive??
DG: come on you were there
DG: when we walked past the metro
HB: Aaaaaaaah yes!!!!
HB: Almost forgot
HB: I though you were talking about a friend
HB: Omg that was intense :O
DG:
DG: anyways we should get a drink soon
HB: maybe (angel emoji)
HB: haha
DG: you're funny aren't you haha
HB: I'm very much
DG: when would be a good time for you
DG: maybe a beer, maybe we dance on tables... (I can see now how it starts feeling like I'm chasing her here)
HB: Good question
HB: I'm busy all the evenings of this week
HB: And next week I'll be in Serbia
DG: cool
DG: feel free to text me if anything changes
DG: (reply to Serbia) business or pleasure?
HB: business of pleasure (unfortunate way of putting it haha her English is not the best, she meant a workshop)

Ok, here I thought we could continue right away, but now she says she can't for 2 weeks. I retreat for this time and write her again yesterday. I was expecting her to text me during this time, so I was a bit dissapointed.

DG: hey
DG: how did the business of pleasure go
DG: and guess where i was
HB: It went ok, a bit intense
HB: You were in Serbia?
DG: intense can also be good
DG: sent a pic of big ben I took from the street, maybe not obvious enough

I was expecting a more animated response from her, something in the lines of ''wtf what were you doing there'' or at least ''where is that?'' if she couldn't figure out the picture, but instead I'm just seen so far. I know I should've closed the deal on her birthday party but that is past, I did my best.

I don't know if I'm missing attainability or am I coming off as needy? Should I be warmer or colder towards her now? I like this girl a bit too much - I will get her. I'm turning to you guys to help me see which piece of the puzzle am I missing. Just doesn't seem right to close her now.

Is normal to feel this anxiety or lack of control with the special girls you like and at times get angry inside when they dont give you anything.... you were not needy at all, good texting.... is frustrating but i have felt like this with every onitis, gottem them and flip it... it just seem a little bit of momentum was lost after the break/trip you can even bring that up...

 

[Don Giovanni]

Is normal to feel this anxiety or lack of control with the special girls you like and at times get angry inside when they dont give you anything.... you were not needy at all, good texting.... is frustrating but i have felt like this with every onitis, gottem them and flip it... it just seem a little bit of momentum was lost after the break/trip you can even bring that up...

Exactly, you get me 100%.

I’ll ping her in 2 days with “its london, serbia” or “good morning” then go from there. Appreciate the texting compliment, it’s your guide that I’m following.

It’s funny with this girl because there is still the “friend” frame now competing with the “lover” frame. The best call in my opinion is to be both… a friend who she’s also having sex with. Lighthearted “it just happened” vibes. I’ll get her.