Alone: But not by choice

[andrewzx]

In an ordinary situation when you and a girl are alone, in private, its safe to assume that she is there because she is interested in you. So you follow the various game plans of escalation that can be found throughout this site.
Now, and this has happened to me a lot, what changes when you and a girl are alone in private but its not solely by choice. Meaning you cant automatically assume shes interested in escalation as you could in the former situation.
How do you play this?

 

[Richard]

Provide a little more information. What variables are "not solely by choice?"

 

[Marty]

I think I get it... like you're directed to work together in a conference room, or you're in a waiting room and you're the only two patients, by coincidence, something like that?

This is my dream situation in many ways as I am fanatical about protecting a girl's reputation (will actually wait for third parties to move away before conducting a street approach, for example) so it'd allow me to say things I wouldn't in front of others... I see it as an opportunity to open. If it's someone you already know socially, that's trickier as I prefer to keep them at a distance except when I actually plan to act (e.g.a date).

Sorry if I have misunderstood the context.

 

[andrewzx]

One example would be visiting a friends house to pick up some things, and his sister being there with you alone. Or the reverse, your own sisters female friends are at your house at times where its only the two of you. These kind of situations where it is not intentionally meant to be "private time," but there is chemistry where if it were on a date, escalation would be normal. Ill try to further clarify if need be. Haha

 

[Richard]

Gotcha, in situations like this, you already have familiarity, so I find it best to engage in conversation ( conversation is pleasure for me, and stop awkward silence for most). So, I wouldn't open directly, I'd instead open without any intention except chatting, follow the flow of conversation, drop "sexual ambiguous frames" when you can to see where her heads at, and pay attention to her body language throughout the conversation. You'd be surprised at how her BL changes as you talk more and more, but let me reiterate: "Don't open with any specific intention!"