Am I being Cheated On?

[stranger2life]

Alright guys, so here is all the background info:

I've been with my girl for 2 and a half years and she's been very sweet since we first met. Over time there have been tons of subtle signs. I did ask her about things many times, but of course she would deny anything is going on. Also she always has perfect alibis for where she is during certain times. It always seems to check out, and I never have found a single shred of evidence on anything.

My mind has been seriously preoccupied and stressed for a while because I was going through massive changes in my life. I thought she understood this and was being sweet and loyal to me.

So lately here are the biggest signs of all:

She was always fairly slim, but within the past few months she lost weight and she has become really really thin. Unattractively thin, to the point where I worry about her health. I constantly ask her about it and tell her I'm worried, but she keeps dismissing it saying that she likes this body type and nothings wrong.

Next, massive wardrobe changes. Like tons of new clothes, lingerie, make-up, accessories, the works. She says she just wears them to work, because we hardly go out since we only get 1 day off together and we are both working other days. She doesn't even show as much interest in going out with me as much, except for occasional shopping trips, but nothing that's considered a real date. She never really shows off her new lingerie to me, but she says she hasn't worn everything yet, and only wears certain things to work because she likes them.

Also, she used to come home around 10-10:30 PM, but for 2 months she's been coming home at 11 or 11:30 because she had to "close the accounts". (She works at a restaurant)

Just last week, she dyed her hair to a bright greenish, blueish. She said she has been wanting blue hair since a few months ago, but I never even suggested she should do such a thing. She just randomly said it out of the blue one day, and she finally got the chance to do it last week.

I have never caught her talking or texting other dudes on the phone, but it's hard to tell because she's from Thailand, and she has friends, and co-workers that she speaks Thai with.

I do realize, I have probably been making her feel neglected because I have been so focused on my new online business. So it's either her trying to get my attention, or she's been stepping out on me.

She's still been very sweet to me, but it might all just be an act. I don't have any real evidence pointing to anything going on, because everything always seems to check out. I just can't shake this nagging feeling though. There's this strong feeling that something's wrong and I can't figure it out.

Any guys have experience with professional liars and cheaters? Any advice or words of wisdom? Maybe I'm just being a paranoid little bitch.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Hi Stranger,

There are a couple of red flags that reveal your relationship is in less than ideal shape.

I did ask her about things many times, but of course she would deny anything is going on.

It always seems to check out, and I never have found a single shred of evidence on anything.

Relax, you're acting incredible needy and weak here - behavior that can and WILL cause her to look for someone stronger.

My mind has been seriously preoccupied and stressed for a while because I was going through massive changes in my life.

Very understandable. Starting your own online business is tough and it's especially hard to maintain a healthy relationship dynamic when you live with the girl AND you work from home. I assume this girl lives with you and you're working from home? I need to know the answer to this question to give advice on what to do.

She doesn't even show as much interest in going out with me as much, except for occasional shopping trips, but nothing that's considered a real date.

This is a big red flag. He attraction for you is waning most likely due to your needy behavior and too much security in the relationship. After all, while she's at work talking and flirting with guys, you're safe at home typing away on a computer with no other girls to worry about. A very big security imbalance at play here which is why you're the one acting super needy and she isn't.

If you want to know how healthy your relationship is look at these key areas: How much does she initiate contact with you via text/calls? How excited is she to go on dates with you? How often and how passionate is the sex? This will tell you exactly where you stand in the relationship.

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[jhonsmith]

you need to know what happen in your relationship then you can able to do it

 

[stranger2life]

This is a big red flag. He attraction for you is waning most likely due to your needy behavior and too much security in the relationship. After all, while she's at work talking and flirting with guys, you're safe at home typing away on a computer with no other girls to worry about. A very big security imbalance at play here which is why you're the one acting super needy and she isn't.

If you want to know how healthy your relationship is look at these key areas: How much does she initiate contact with you via text/calls? How excited is she to go on dates with you? How often and how passionate is the sex? This will tell you exactly where you stand in the relationship.

Well, I do also have a full time job so I'm not home all day. But you are right, I have been acting too needy and insecure. She never contacts me on her breaks like she used to. She very rarely texts or calls, but because we live together we see each other every single night. She still shows some excitement over going on dates, but sometimes she isn't interested in going anywhere or only wants a quick outing to eat or shop then go home. Sex isn't lacking passion, but definitely room for more spice in the bedroom. We do it usually once a week, mainly because I'm too tired from work otherwise we would have sex more often. She does initiate sex at times, whereas before she never ever did. So maybe that's a step up?

Maybe I'm just overthinking things since I've read stories of cheaters, signs and confessions from women on all the things they did. I'll check out that article, thanks!

 

[ProblemSolving]

With those details sorted out, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Women cheat because the guy is too needy and weak, or completely neglectful, or he's already cheating on her. You got a little needy there for a second, but as long as she's excited about going out with you and having sex with you, you're in good shape.

If you're only having sex once a week, which is understandable given your work schedule, I'd try to make it as intense as possible. Make sure she cums and make sure she feels your physical strength.

Also, living together can create a pretty boring routine for the both of you. I'd advise doing some new experiences once a month with your girl to spice things up. Go on a hike where neither of you have been before. Take her on a road trip. Anything new to break up the monotony of going to work, coming home, making dinner, talking about your day with the your girl, etc. You should both be experiencing new things together creating new memories.

The changes that you're currently seeing in your girl could be the result of her just wanting to add some spice to her boring daily routine.

Maybe I'm just overthinking things since I've read stories of cheaters, signs and confessions from women on all the things they did. I'll check out that article, thanks!

Yeah man, women don't cheat on men they love and respect. Most guys have no clue on how to run their relationships which is why you hear so much about cheating on the internet.

 

[stranger2life]

With those details sorted out, I don't think you have anything to worry about. Women cheat because the guy is too needy and weak, or completely neglectful, or he's already cheating on her. You got a little needy there for a second, but as long as she's excited about going out with you and having sex with you, you're in good shape.

If you're only having sex once a week, which is understandable given your work schedule, I'd try to make it as intense as possible. Make sure she cums and make sure she feels your physical strength.

Also, living together can create a pretty boring routine for the both of you. I'd advise doing some new experiences once a month with your girl to spice things up. Go on a hike where neither of you have been before. Take her on a road trip. Anything new to break up the monotony of going to work, coming home, making dinner, talking about your day with the your girl, etc. You should both be experiencing new things together creating new memories.

The changes that you're currently seeing in your girl could be the result of her just wanting to add some spice to her boring daily routine.

Maybe I'm just overthinking things since I've read stories of cheaters, signs and confessions from women on all the things they did. I'll check out that article, thanks!

Yeah man, women don't cheat on men they love and respect. Most guys have no clue on how to run their relationships which is why you hear so much about cheating on the internet.

Awesome, thanks for the advice! Yea it makes sense, maybe she was getting bored with the relationship and was acting out based on that. She does still enjoy having sex with me and I don't make her cum every time, but I try to as much as possible. I'll start adding in some new monthly activities to keep things interesting for her.