Am I correct in being suspicious?

[youngbuck]

This concerns me and my monogamous girlfriend.

Here’s the timeline of events

- 8:30pm or so she sends me some nudes she had just taken out of the shower and captioned it thinking of you. Good sign.
- I reply about 45 minutes later complimenting her and saying something along the lines of that being sweet.
- She replies an hour later with “lol ok”. Red flag because she usually replies within 10 minutes and obviously the aloofness of the message.
- I call her out for that being such a drastic shift of energy on part.
- She leaves my message on read for twenty minutes then replies that being a DD sucks and that she’s bored and lonely.
- I reply that sucks and told her to try to have fun.
- She replies “ok” and follows up with saying her phone is going to die and asks if she can call me when she gets home.
- I reply if I’m up I’ll answer. Message didn’t deliver.
- She calls me an hour later and her mood wasn’t off but she was upset that her drunk friend immediately made out with a guy once they got there. She says they were hooking up but nobody was supposed to know and her friend told her she was going to leave with the guy last minute. GF said she upset about this because then she could’ve just left.

So she sent me those nudes before she left for the party then ignored me while she was at it and was cold when she did reply but did want to call me afterwards.

A few days later somehow that night got naturally brought up in the conversation and when I asked her about the sudden mood change she didn’t give a very good answer.

She sort of hesitated and said it was because she transferred to a public setting then claimed to forget where that was then remembered it was a party. That’s a part that I 100% know she’s lying because of the way she answered and I could tell she was pretending to forget she was at a party


Basically, what do you think the random mood change was about? I honestly don’t think she cheated but my gut feeling does say that she is hiding something. Or I’m being a paranoid wacko. I can’t tell.

Other than this little blip everything else is great. She initiates contact over 90% of the time, the sex is great and frequent, she gives gifts and plans dates etc.


Thoughts? Should I even bring it up again? If I shoud how do I do so?

Thank you.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Youngbuck dude! Trust ya gut here something isn't right. If ya know she's lying cause she's caught herself out ya right being suspicious! Girls pretend to forget if it's convenient, it's a tactic that ya will possibly use yaself.

I was out with my girlfriend at the time when an ex lover phoned me, she'd have possibly seen the name on the screen and asked me who was calling. My answer was "i dunno, it wasn't important. If it was they'd call back". It was convenient for me to forget otherwise she'd ask who louise was. This wasn't unusual to my behaviour, I don't mention ex lovers, don't talk about them and not stuck on my phone and will happily ignore it.

Ya missed ya chance to press here if ya wanted to, this had to be addressed there an then. When it's naturally in conversation ya can press without being needy and just curious. It comes across as considerate yet ya screening for information and any inconsistencies. Ya need to leave it for now or ya will be insecure and it'll all blow up.

Monitor her behaviour and see if there's a blip or a change. Stay the same and see if she initiates contact.

As for the mood change itself there are various reasons and all not bad. At clubs there's a lot of distractions, it's not a great environment and therefore her behaviour on her phone can be affected. Has her friend fallen? Are they in the girl's room? Are they being chatted up? Do they like the attention? Even something innocent doesn't sound great. "Oh I was just talking to a guy at the bar"... yeah... hence a mood change and trying to cover up.

Hope this helps dude!