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I don't know if this was the article you read, but if not it might help.
Emotions are just hormones, certain things invoke them in some people and not in others. The LOST finale got me too, but my distant grandfather's passing didn't. Dealing with your emotions "better" is kind of subjective... it all depends on what you want, really. During those seemingly random periods of emotional instability, there's something triggering that. Maybe one really important thought or the cumulation of the emotion you've been concealing finally getting the best of you. But neither of those things are bad.
It kind of sounds like you're a caring, rational guy. The way you just come up and hug your mom when she's distraught shows you know what she needs and care about her feelings, and it might even show her that she raised a strong man who can be an emotional anchor for a woman. If you were to sympathetically (or even empathetically) cry with her, it would show that you understand her feelings but doesn't show much composure or stability on your part.
The thing about being that emotional anchor, though, is it does wear on you. You're not immune to negative emotions, you just have a certain way of dealing with them. You recognize that they're not beneficial to yourself or anyone else, and so you ignore them, negate them, and compartmentalize them. And sometimes, that levee is going to leak and they'll come out in bursts. But you also seem to be able to control those bursts and let them out only when it's safe to do so. To me, that sounds like you've got emotional control down. I would say the only issue would be if you were completely unable to understand why someone else would be sad or angry, because that shows a lack of empathy and emotional relation, and as you've stated that doesn't seem to be your issue.
Best of luck.
Emotions are just hormones, certain things invoke them in some people and not in others. The LOST finale got me too, but my distant grandfather's passing didn't. Dealing with your emotions "better" is kind of subjective... it all depends on what you want, really. During those seemingly random periods of emotional instability, there's something triggering that. Maybe one really important thought or the cumulation of the emotion you've been concealing finally getting the best of you. But neither of those things are bad.
It kind of sounds like you're a caring, rational guy. The way you just come up and hug your mom when she's distraught shows you know what she needs and care about her feelings, and it might even show her that she raised a strong man who can be an emotional anchor for a woman. If you were to sympathetically (or even empathetically) cry with her, it would show that you understand her feelings but doesn't show much composure or stability on your part.
The thing about being that emotional anchor, though, is it does wear on you. You're not immune to negative emotions, you just have a certain way of dealing with them. You recognize that they're not beneficial to yourself or anyone else, and so you ignore them, negate them, and compartmentalize them. And sometimes, that levee is going to leak and they'll come out in bursts. But you also seem to be able to control those bursts and let them out only when it's safe to do so. To me, that sounds like you've got emotional control down. I would say the only issue would be if you were completely unable to understand why someone else would be sad or angry, because that shows a lack of empathy and emotional relation, and as you've stated that doesn't seem to be your issue.
Best of luck.
