Am I Just Paranoid?

[thecloudsandrain]

Hey guys,

So, 2 months ago I met this really nice girl here in Chengdu. We went out on a date and she ended up sleeping with me on that occasion and the next 2 occasions that we met on. On one of those occasions that we met she asked me what my roommate looked like, so I showed her a picture of him. She commented on how he looked like an Arabian guy that she once knew, and then on another occasions when we were eating at a table with her roommates I received a message from my roommate, and as I was responding to it she looked at his user info and remarked "oh, Justin", in a oh that's his name kind of way.

After those three occasions she went away to another city for a month to work, and when she came back it took her two days to respond to me because her phone had broke. I set a meet up with her for this coming Sunday and she agreed.

Tonight, Saturday, I looked at some of her recent moments (pictures you can post on WeChat of where you were/what you were doing) and noticed that she had been on my campus today. Now this girl really has no reason to be on campus because the food here sucks and she doesn't attend school here, so I'm thinking the only reason she would come is to meet someone.

I have a bit of an over active imagination and have a tendency to get paranoid, but my brain keeps telling me she came to campus today to meet with my roommate.

If she did come and make contact with my roommate I would have to let her go, it's just too close for comfort.

I understand that the idea of an open/lover relationship is I don't ask her and she doesn't ask me, but this has me tied up in knots. The very idea of her seeing both my roommate and I just screams drama! I feel just the idea will effect how I will act around her when we meet tomorrow.

Has such a situation happened to you, and how have you dealt with it?

Calvin

 

[bobbybowden]

you put the pussy on a pedestal.

many attractive women will have multiple partners. It's likely she is fucking some other dude, proabbly more than one other dude.

whatever reason she was on campus doesn't matter. It's none of your business

you need another girl cuz this one is too in your head

 

[thecloudsandrain]

Hey Bobby,

Thanks for the words. You were right, I had put her on a pedestal. She sent me a message an hour before were to meet today and told me that she had moved out of her old apartment and had acquired a boyfriend in the one months time that she had been away. We amiably decided to cancel our date. I'm not devastated, but I'm definitely feeling the wanting what you can't have syndrome. I had enough value for her to sleep with me, but not enough (good car, good job, proficient Chinese, etc.) for her to fall in love with me and date me. That's always been the thorn in my side when it comes to Chinese girls.