Am I too attainable or not attainable enough?

[killerman]

One of the problems I'm running into these days is once again I can't get past the first date. This was a problem I ran into last year when I was just starting off. I got over it but now the same old problem has come back. It's just really frustrating because after all the dates and lays and experience and confidence I obtained last year I feel like I've gone back to square one again. The thing is I'm not even nervous. I have no problem getting physical, doing kino and inviting a girl back to my place on a first date, it's just these girls are rejecting me for some reason I can't see. The thing is am I too attainable to them or too hard to get? I could be too attainable as I don't tease them as much as I should and need to screen more so it could be because I'm not enough of a challenge. Yet on the other hand I could be coming across as too hard to get. Girls are ALWAYS telling me how good looking I am. The last 2 dates one of the girls told me I look like a model and the other one told me I'm really handsome. So maybe they see me as out of their league and not attainable? The thing is I don't know which one it is so I don't know what to work on.

 

[Fuck This]

your words focus on YOU...I, Me, etc...

Instead think about how you make THEM feel. Think about how you relate to women

You need to listen for clues like "I feel SO relaxed with you", "You make me happy when I'm with you", "You get what I say."

So when they tell you you are "so good looking" they sense that you need reassurance and ego stroking.

Genuinely thank them for the complement but find a way to make it about their emotional state.

Ask them about how they feel when you are together. You might be surprised at how well she will respond to that.