Another One Being Difficult

[IHeartWomen]

Ill make this quick. Hung out with this girl twice. We got intimate in my car both times and once where she took "it" out but wouldn't "do" me. We spoke over text next few days about how she had an amazing time and even though her schedule is tough she is going to "make time" to see me.

Fast forward some conversation and she avoids my texts about asking her what her schedule is like and trying to set meets. I tried radio silencing her in which she waited 3 days then sent me a text picture of a drink and hookah (where we went our second time out) and said "jealous?" and tried asking what I was doing. I told her I just got home from going to a comedy club which I actually did. i actually just had just finished getting laid but didn't mention that of course. She writes back "nice" and I didn't respond.

What is the deal w her? Why does she continue to hit me up but avoids questions of obvious intentions of trying to make plans. SHE IS THE ONE who said she wanted to make time. I'm trying to play it cool here but I can't figure her ass out.

P.S. not sure if it matters but she is drop dead gorgeous and extremely sexy looking.

Thanks.

 

[NarrowJ]

IHeart,

You may want to give this a read: viewtopic.php?f=4&t=2784


Hope this one turns out well for you, man!
NJ

 

[IHeartWomen]

IHeart,

You may want to give this a read: viewtopic.php?f=4&t=2784


Hope this one turns out well for you, man!
NJ

Yeah, I read this one already due to my previous, similar interaction. I think she is Type 2 if I had to guess. She told me in a conversation about relationships how she is completely over her ex but they treated each other pretty badly. Which is girl for he broke my heart too many times until I finally got sick of the abuse and finally put my foot down. I know Sw speaks truth because I've heard they haven't spoken in 6 months and he is upset about it (through friends).

I tried the Chase response over the phone (the one where I tell her I'm not good at chasing etc...). She responded with "I know I'm sorry, I am into you and not trying to blow you off. I'm just burnt and get caught up easily even when we have plans". She went on to tell me she definitely wants to see me again and would let me know. That's when she texted me a few days later and avoided my questions about leading to a meet. Then again I tried to ignore her and it leaves me with the picture and comment I mentioned in the OP.

I am definitely keeping it cool as you can see with my responses. In between those were some witty flirty jokes which definitely made it seem like nothing is wrong but I'm not about to ask her what's she's up to just to get ignored again.

Should I maybe just wait another day and try calling to set a meet instead of texting? This way she can't run? I would have just pawned this as some boredom texting on her part or to make herself look busy in front of others, but her taking the picture and trying to get a rise out of me would look pretty weird if she was out in front of dudes (taking a pic of her drink lol).

I just don't want to make a mistake here and plan my next move well. Any additional advice? Or maybe I should just move on?

 

[NarrowJ]

I tried the Chase response over the phone (the one where I tell her I'm not good at chasing etc...). She responded with "I know I'm sorry, I am into you and not trying to blow you off. I'm just burnt and get caught up easily even when we have plans". She went on to tell me she definitely wants to see me again and would let me know. That's when she texted me a few days later and avoided my questions about leading to a meet. Then again I tried to ignore her and it leaves me with the picture and comment I mentioned in the OP.

After sending her that kind of text (telling her you're not going to chase, that you want to either meet or not meet), you shouldn't be responding to anything she sends you if it is not contributing to scheduling something. Otherwise, you're not holding true to what you told her in the first place.

Should I maybe just wait another day and try calling to set a meet instead of texting?

Nope. Don't send her any more communication, unless she gets a hold of you to schedule something.

Or maybe I should just move on?

It's what I would do, yes. And often times, you'll get some text a week or more later wondering why you're not talking to her. Even then, unless she sounds really desperate, I wouldn't answer her. If she's only interested in playing games with you, then she's going to keep sending you messages waiting for you to crack and start talking to her again. She'll smile and laugh to herself, "gotcha! silly boy..." when it should be the other way around. If she sends you something that contributes toward a meet-up, then by all means text her back and schedule something



NJ

 

[IHeartWomen]

I tried the Chase response over the phone (the one where I tell her I'm not good at chasing etc...). She responded with "I know I'm sorry, I am into you and not trying to blow you off. I'm just burnt and get caught up easily even when we have plans". She went on to tell me she definitely wants to see me again and would let me know. That's when she texted me a few days later and avoided my questions about leading to a meet. Then again I tried to ignore her and it leaves me with the picture and comment I mentioned in the OP.

After sending her that kind of text (telling her you're not going to chase, that you want to either meet or not meet), you shouldn't be responding to anything she sends you if it is not contributing to scheduling something. Otherwise, you're not holding true to what you told her in the first place.

Should I maybe just wait another day and try calling to set a meet instead of texting?

Nope. Don't send her any more communication, unless she gets a hold of you to schedule something.

Or maybe I should just move on?

It's what I would do, yes. And often times, you'll get some text a week or more later wondering why you're not talking to her. Even then, unless she sounds really desperate, I wouldn't answer her. If she's only interested in playing games with you, then she's going to keep sending you messages waiting for you to crack and start talking to her again. She'll smile and laugh to herself, "gotcha! silly boy..." when it should be the other way around. If she sends you something that contributes toward a meet-up, then by all means text her back and schedule something



NJ

Ok cool. But if she texts me things like "hi" how will I know if she is preparing to ask me to hang out? Also, sometimes she'll say hey, ill answer and she will say "what are you doing today?" Then after me responding thinking she will set something up, she won't answer lol. Which is why when she texted me asking what I was up to this recent time I just stated what I did and then stopped communication.

So, I guess unless her open text is something like "I want to see you" don't even respond... Gocha.

Boy is that a bummer. She was so hot lol. Her face was one of those faces where all you can think about is getting close. Bah... Oh well. Can't get em all I guess.

 

[NarrowJ]

Also, sometimes she'll say hey, ill answer and she will say "what are you doing today?"

^^^ This is EXACTLY how they rope you in

Then after me responding thinking she will set something up, she won't answer lol.

Yep, lol... just checking to see if you're still "there"


Don't worry, you'll be laying in bed with some 9 here in the next week or two and think back on this and be glad you didn't waste your time on her

NJ

 

[IHeartWomen]

Also, sometimes she'll say hey, ill answer and she will say "what are you doing today?"

^^^ This is EXACTLY how they rope you in

Then after me responding thinking she will set something up, she won't answer lol.

Yep, lol... just checking to see if you're still "there"


Don't worry, you'll be laying in bed with some 9 here in the next week or two and think back on this and be glad you didn't waste your time on her

NJ

Truth lol.

Got a hottie lined up for Saturday. But you know how it is. You can get with a 10 9s but one will just do it for you attraction wise. Who knows though, these are the ones that tend to pop up and grab you from behind one night out the second you get over it and let you "in".

Whatever though. Crushing on the one that got away is half the fun!