This girl I am talking to won't give me her number until I verify who I am via snapchat. This is the first time this has ever happened to me... I don't even have snapchat installed. I'm seriously considering just un-matching her. Am I being too strict? ABUNDANCE MENTALITY.
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If you don't have Snapchat, then just tell her that. If that isn't good enough for her, then it's on to the next one.
With Tinder, you have to have an extremely short-term memory with women. If a girl starts probing you to do things that aren't getting you toward meeting up, then you need to be ready to NEXT her right there if she declines. Tinder is the idea of a "numbers" game amplified by 10,000. Don't waste time doing things that may not help you get to where you want to go, and instead spend time chatting up the women who move quickly (and don't make ridiculous requests).
- Franco
With Tinder, you have to have an extremely short-term memory with women. If a girl starts probing you to do things that aren't getting you toward meeting up, then you need to be ready to NEXT her right there if she declines. Tinder is the idea of a "numbers" game amplified by 10,000. Don't waste time doing things that may not help you get to where you want to go, and instead spend time chatting up the women who move quickly (and don't make ridiculous requests).
- Franco
Although I do agree with the move to the next quick and don't waste time, mentality, I do see her point.
There's a lot of fake people / profiles in these kind of apps. Maybe she has run into some herself. I say if she is decently hot (above average Tinder Looks) and you think you can get something out of it, then I don't see why not. Setting up Snapchat won't take you long at all and sending a snap is so damn quick it isn't even funny.
Think about it the other way around. Let's say you have Snapchat, and so do all your friends. You use snapchat to kinda "prove" that girls are in fact who they say they are. If you ask a girl to go to snapchat and just prove herself, but she said "I don't have Snapchat"...wouldn't it come off a little sketchy to you?
Just food for thought... In this day an age...any single guy should have Snapchat...IMO.
There's a lot of fake people / profiles in these kind of apps. Maybe she has run into some herself. I say if she is decently hot (above average Tinder Looks) and you think you can get something out of it, then I don't see why not. Setting up Snapchat won't take you long at all and sending a snap is so damn quick it isn't even funny.
Think about it the other way around. Let's say you have Snapchat, and so do all your friends. You use snapchat to kinda "prove" that girls are in fact who they say they are. If you ask a girl to go to snapchat and just prove herself, but she said "I don't have Snapchat"...wouldn't it come off a little sketchy to you?
Just food for thought... In this day an age...any single guy should have Snapchat...IMO.
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If you really don't want to install it what about asking her about a facebook or instagram? I don't have snapchat but i have had girls ask for instagrams or facebook as validation im real...
Her being interested enough to ask could mean once you provide it a date is allmost a gimme.
Her being interested enough to ask could mean once you provide it a date is allmost a gimme.
So I decided to un-match this girl.
I told her all I had was Facebook, thinking she would ask me for my Facebook profile... but she just mentioned snapchat again. I'm not blaming her, if that is her policy than so be it. I honestly just didn't wanna go through that hurdle, maybe she is just being safe, but it just turns me off. If this becomes a common a theme... then yeah I would probably reconsider. Since this time, I have gotten a few more numbers so it's water under the bridge.
Another thing, I wasn't completely sold on her pictures either. she had a few closeups and the rest were group shots, and honestly, in the one group photo, i couldn't even tell which one she was. It seriously ran through my mind that she wasn't even in the pic lol.
Anyways, thanks for the responses, I appreciate it.
I told her all I had was Facebook, thinking she would ask me for my Facebook profile... but she just mentioned snapchat again. I'm not blaming her, if that is her policy than so be it. I honestly just didn't wanna go through that hurdle, maybe she is just being safe, but it just turns me off. If this becomes a common a theme... then yeah I would probably reconsider. Since this time, I have gotten a few more numbers so it's water under the bridge.
Another thing, I wasn't completely sold on her pictures either. she had a few closeups and the rest were group shots, and honestly, in the one group photo, i couldn't even tell which one she was. It seriously ran through my mind that she wasn't even in the pic lol.
Anyways, thanks for the responses, I appreciate it.
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mindful,
To give a deeper explanation for the advice that I gave, I've generally encountered lots of women on dating websites that want to find you on "another" social media to chat/send pics with. What I find with these girls is that they almost never go anywhere beyond social media with you. Most of them are looking for validation more than anything else, and you following them to that media gives them exactly that.
With these girls, for the most part, you'll end up being the buddy that sends her nude pictures/videos... and if you're lucky, maybe she'll send a few back. And that will be the extent of your relationship.
- Franco
To give a deeper explanation for the advice that I gave, I've generally encountered lots of women on dating websites that want to find you on "another" social media to chat/send pics with. What I find with these girls is that they almost never go anywhere beyond social media with you. Most of them are looking for validation more than anything else, and you following them to that media gives them exactly that.
With these girls, for the most part, you'll end up being the buddy that sends her nude pictures/videos... and if you're lucky, maybe she'll send a few back. And that will be the extent of your relationship.
- Franco