Anything to Salvage here?

[Jack123Frost]

I am a freshman in college. A few months back, I met a very attractive girl at a party, and we meshed pretty well. After a while of talking (and making out), I found out her uncle was the guy who inspired me to become a firefighter (I'm a volunteer), so we sort of had an interesting connection. I didn't have sex with her because she had to walk her friends home, but she knew I wanted it from her, and she was interested, as she sent me a text later that night saying "I miss you already."

We met for ice cream one night, talked for about an hour. Again, I didn't get laid, because she was had a study group later. We met for a third date, and it went pretty good. She held onto my arm as we walked down the street, so I thought that was a good sign of interest. But she again, had to do something with her friends, so no sex. I sent her a text around a week later, never got a response. That was around 2 months ago.

There are multiple things going against me here. I think she placed me in the "boyfriend category," I haven't talked to her in a while, and I am not exactly sure why she didn't text me back the last time...But I was wondering if there was still a chance of salvaging anything here. I thought she was pretty cool, and I would have been Ok with a relationship...we are both in Greek life, so we will probably cross paths again. Any inputs?

Jack

 

[Fuck This]

I think "Boyfriend category" is a little premature...

Three dates means you were an option but something or someone better came up. Since you are both in the Greek system, you might check with your social chair to see if your two houses can do a function or community service project together. Offer to help set up the event, and CALL her to help plan it. You should be able to get a read on her feelings toward you. If she refers you to the social or Philanthropy chair then she's over you. If she acts as a go between and point of contact you now have a dialogue.

At the same time develop a network of first name familiarity within her house. There might be another one of her sisters you could like better. She could be a good reference or if you pissed her off, a bad one...Did you try to escalate and get shut down?

In my house guys with sorority girlfriends were always having their girlfriends bring single girls over. They knew it was their duty to their brothers.

 

[Jack123Frost]

Well, I pushed pretty hard the first night, but she had drunk friends to walk home. She made it seem like she wanted to though...The night did end on a high note. On the other two dates, I guess it just didn't happen. Second date she had a study group after, so I didn't try. Almost same with third date. Looking back, I SHOULD have made clear what I wanted to happen. So she never shut me down in an upfront way. Thanks,

Jack