https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6pvg7e/a_list_of_approach_invitations/Hector_Castillo said:
My question is, how do you know if you've reached or are close to that point, and what's the alternative to approaching at this point?
Approaching combined with too much rejection may be bad / cause them to quit
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My question is, how do you know if you've reached or are close to that point, and what's the alternative to approaching at this point?
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Hey Rain,
If your pride/ego/confidence feels like its been battered and you can't stand the thought of approaching for the fear of another rejection you're at that point. I'm sure you'll know when you're close to that point because either more approach anxiety will set in or you'll second guess and make excuses as to why you're not going to approach this one. I've never been in either position to really give a better insight but I've seen it in guys when we've been out. So much so one of my friends won't even go to clubs after a rejection he faced before. Don't become this guy....
There isn't really an alternative, because if there was approach anxiety wouldn't really be a thing and anyone who had it would hit the alternative. The best way around it is a break, a change of scenery, and doing 'manly' things to get your T back. As stupid as this will sound on a forum that teaches you how to be better with girls is you don't have to focus on the goal all the time you can have time to yourself to do whatever it is that you do. When your T is back up you'll actually want to be out and socializing again.
I'd like to point out this doesn't mean go cold on approaching, you can still go out for both day game/night game but apply pre-selection more carefully. If you go into an interaction with an approach invitation it'll make you more confident about the approach because they've invited you there! I've seen people try this and become bitter that they still can't get anywhere, but yet I still haven't seen them approach....
You can set simpler goals if you need to to simplify your goals. Its a matter of building your confidence back to get back to another approach. I totally agree approach addiction isn't for everyone, its getting the balance right for you.
SilenceintheSnow
If your pride/ego/confidence feels like its been battered and you can't stand the thought of approaching for the fear of another rejection you're at that point. I'm sure you'll know when you're close to that point because either more approach anxiety will set in or you'll second guess and make excuses as to why you're not going to approach this one. I've never been in either position to really give a better insight but I've seen it in guys when we've been out. So much so one of my friends won't even go to clubs after a rejection he faced before. Don't become this guy....
There isn't really an alternative, because if there was approach anxiety wouldn't really be a thing and anyone who had it would hit the alternative. The best way around it is a break, a change of scenery, and doing 'manly' things to get your T back. As stupid as this will sound on a forum that teaches you how to be better with girls is you don't have to focus on the goal all the time you can have time to yourself to do whatever it is that you do. When your T is back up you'll actually want to be out and socializing again.
I'd like to point out this doesn't mean go cold on approaching, you can still go out for both day game/night game but apply pre-selection more carefully. If you go into an interaction with an approach invitation it'll make you more confident about the approach because they've invited you there! I've seen people try this and become bitter that they still can't get anywhere, but yet I still haven't seen them approach....
You can set simpler goals if you need to to simplify your goals. Its a matter of building your confidence back to get back to another approach. I totally agree approach addiction isn't for everyone, its getting the balance right for you.
SilenceintheSnow
