FR Approaching in the mall, hilarious response!

[killerman]

Ok I was out approaching this afternoon in the mall, and approached this cute girl. After giving my opener and compliment I asked her for her name, to which she replied that she doesnt give her name out. I asked her why and she said that she wasn't a fan of my approach. I asked her why and she said I was too intimidating lol! She said she wasnt interested and then before I walked away I asked her for honest feedback as to what put her off. She then replied that I was too cocky and confident lol! Hilarious. Now I know that I've really arrived. Interesting thing though because it makes me think how many girls prefer the weak, shy beta male type over strong alpha male? What do you guys think? Clearly this girl prefered the weak beta male guys, probably because she's a very needy, clingy type of girl. Looking to hearing your responses.

 

[Big Daddy]

What exactly was your opener?

 

[killerman]

"Hey, how are you? You're really pretty, saw you standing there and just had to come and say hi" That was it!

 

[ray_zorse]

Don't forget that girls are emotional creatures. Her thought process goes something like this:

"I'm not attracted to this guy" (emotion) -> construct a logical-sounding reason -> "His approach was too intimidating" (logic)

You can see this process in action when they start constructing multiple, logically inconsistent, reasons to try to explain an emotion, as she has done in this case.

In reality, your approach was fine, unless there was anything in your body language that I don't know about. I have used a similar opener hundreds if not thousands of times and girls are fine with it. Their thought process is "He wanted to start a conversation" -> "He said something nice" -> "Now I can talk to him".

For whatever reason she wasn't attracted, otherwise she would have capitalized on the opportunity presented to her, or if on the fence, played along to see what would develop. That's the only real thing you can take away from this interaction. It's still good to do the diagnostic (ask her impressions), but don't take as gospel.

Ray