Approaching Situations!

[Tramp]

I'm lost on how to handle some situations that I want to cold approach a girl in.


1. How do I approach girl's when they are with their mom's? I see a lot of this. I am younger so it's not awkward as far as age goes.

2. How do I approach girls when they are with guy friends? I've only ever done this twice, first time worked and the second time didn't. If girls are with a guy and aren't holding hands or anything or are with more than 1 guy, this means they're not together right?


3. How do I approach girls when they are in the girl's section of department stores? I have to pass the girl's sections to get to the men's sections and there's always cute girls.


4. How do I approach older women, 20-26? I am 18.


5. How do I approach much older women, 35-45?

6. How do I approach much taller women? I have a thing for tall women.


Hoping this post to be kind of a one stop shop to figure out how to approach girls in situations with different factors.

 

[Marty]

I can't answer all of these, but:

#3: what I do is wait for them to show up in the "Home & Decor" or "Kitchen & Dining" sections; inevitably they get bored with clothing and move there eventually, or you could just go for the ones already there. Women love that household stuff, but unlike in the women's clothing section, you don't look out of place there. Open situationally ("Looking for some bargains for a party?"), go direct ASAP and you're away.

Alternatively, you could just open direct in the clothing section, and if she challenges you, you can always say you were seeking a present for your sister/cousin.

#4 & #5: see this article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/younger-men-and-older-women

#6: I would go for a direct opener with a subtle reference to her stature: "I saw you standing here and just had to tell you ... you look so elegant and graceful. I'm Tramp."

 

[Richard]

Yes! Lots of fun stuff here.
1- Approach, and open the mom! Most mom's want what is best for their daughters, if you come off respectful, you're in. That being said, open with something like "Excuse me miss, I don't mean to bother you, but I couldn't help but notice how cute your daughter is, and if you're not in a rush, I was wondering if I could talk to her?"

2- I've done this a few times, and actually haven't gotten any advice on how this is properly done, but, what I do is approach the guy, with something like "Hey man, cute girl with ya, are you two together?" With yes's I give him a compliment for having such a cute girlfriend, with a no, I ask if they have time, and if I can have a few minutes to talk to the girl.

3- Situational openers work best! Ask her for her input on something like, "Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you, but if you've got a minute, could you possibly help me out with something." Most girls will be happy to oblige, and open normally, then deep dive

4- Older women! I love them, maturity is what gets me That being said, these girls will love you if you come across as a mature man for your age (I'm 18 myself). An added bonus, if you stumble over something, or mix up your words, they're much more forgiving and understanding as you're younger. In actuality most girls pin me down as 21-23, and I'm only 18.

5- Being this young, I have yet to run across a woman this old, and have no advice to specifically open them, but I would open with a compliment and proceed from there.

6- Tall girls, open them exactly the same, with a compliment, or follow a regular opening. Tall or short, they're still silly and cute, and are welcome to compliments the same as any other girl However, most tall girls play some type of sport, and its almost a given as far as building a connection.

-Hope this helped,
Richard

 

[Pato]

Hey Tramp,

I haven't had too much experience with these and almost none with the last 3, but I can tell you about #1-3.

#1- Look at this topic, Light gives a pretty good response to this sort of question. https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=2368 It also deals with a bit of #2 and some other related situations. You could either talk to the girl first, then address the mom, and then resume talking with the girl. Or you could also ask the mother if you could have a few minutes to talk to the daughter first, and then begin talking to the girl. I think the latter would be better in most cases.

#2- The size of the group and the location/situation will change your approach, but make sure you don't approach the group and try to be friendly, you should just start talking to the girl you like. I think Chase said in one of his articles that you should never break circle first, and only talk to the rest of the group if she introduces you or the group tries to meet you, but that might vary. As for if it's one girl with one guy/several guys but no other girls, it might be a bit trickier. It's probably more likely that she is with one of them, and you very well may get cockblocked by the other guys even if she isn't with any of them.

#3- If you have a reason why you would need to pass through the women's section, then it shouldn't be too hard. Just make it look like you just noticed her when walking past and then approach. You could also do something by holding up an article of women's clothing or women's accessories, and doing an indirect-direct.

#6 shouldn't be very different from any other girl. Treat them the same.

Hope I helped and good luck!
-Pato