Are cold approach and online dating pretty much the only options we have?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Thread is not for college students, it is for those of us no longer in college.

In college you had options of joining clubs and doing things like Greek Life in order to meet girls and stuff. Now in the real world, I notice that most advice is geared towards cold approach and online dating. I've heard some guys talk about hobbies but they say almost all of them tend to suck. Main reason being because the hot girls in them tend to do them with their boyfriend and/or husbands.

Are cold approaches (night or daygame) and online dating practically your only options once you're out of a school setting?

 

[Bboy100]

I'm in college so take my answer with a grain of salt. But I would say the answer is no. You can still do social circle. They do exist throughout the world. The nightlife industry of most cities is a perfect example of this. Another way of meeting women is to build it into your career or a passion/hobby of yours. Namely, being an authority figure like a personal trainer, teacher, dance instructor, therapist, club owner, higher level boss or leader at your business or organization etc.

Finally, you can go do things which would be "clubs" in college IRL as well. The only difference is that you'll probably have to pay to take part in it, and they won't always necessarily have lots of hot young women. Because of this, if you do choose this route, its imperative that you pick the right activities (hint: Yoga or other fitness classes in an area with lots of young people).

 

[Franco]

Fuji,

As radeng touched on, anything involving fitness is always a good way to go. If you want to find attractive girls in social circle, you'll be likely to find them in organizations/clubs/groups that involve physical activity to keep your body in shape. I know salsa dancing has been mentioned plenty of times on here (because it's both a physical activity AND a "sexual" one, which is great to get girls in the mood).

I'm pretty sure I've had some friends of mine also mention rock-climbing gyms as a good spot as well -- the girls are very fit there. Yoga and pilates also come to mind.

You just need to think outside the box. You also need to think about what activities you enjoy; if you don't enjoy it, you're not going to want to be a part of it.

- Franco

 

[ProblemSolving]

Great responses from everyone in here. Social circle is how regular guys get laid and depending on the circle you choose, it can be VERY efficient. However, there is some things to keep in mind.

First, it will usually to take a significant amount of time and energy to climb to the top of the social hierarchy, but once you're there, you can really clean up with the ladies. For example, let's say you decide to join a dance class to meet chicks. It's going to be a long time before you get good enough at dancing to where you become respected and pursued by the women there. When you suck and you're learning, the hottest girls won't be interested. They'll be after the guys that are already good at the top of the hierarchy.

This goes for any activity you choose. If you decide to join a recreation kickball team, the guys who the girls will be gunning for will be the guys with the most skill.

You just need to think outside the box. You also need to think about what activities you enjoy; if you don't enjoy it, you're not going to want to be a part of it.

Like Franco said, make sure you enjoy the activity that you choose, because it will take some time and energy before you start reaping the rewards of the social circle.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Yeah bboy had some pretty good insight. Kickball is a huge activity in my area where young professionals have a fun hobby exercise and hookup.

You can also cold approach and join already formed social circles. If you're smooth and can find some hot girls with boyfriends to buddy up with they will give you a warm intro to their hot single friends.

Really it's not that cold approach and online are the only options, there's still tons of options. They are, IMO, the best options.

Also, who says you have to be a college student to date hot college girls. Just as many college girls meet dudes at bars/library/random times as the girls who meet guys in class as other college based activities. Total fallacy that college helps you all that much. The opportunities are actually usually more difficult to manage than pure cold approach IMO.

Radeng

Honestly man, as a 20-something, I kinda wanna get with other female 20-someting college grads. Going for college girls in my experience is just too much drama, especially LTR wise. I also prefer women in the 24 to 25 age range as opposed to 18-21, but that's just me.

 

[JimmyB]

Man, go out, play a sport, join a team, join a club or two, join a gym, make some friends, throw a party with friends of friends. Get out and spend time with people and since girls are 50% of people, you eventually will meet some quality girls