Arousal Vs. Similarity - Recent Article Question

[Regal Tiger]

Wasn't really sure where to put this, so I just went with general. Anybody can feel free to move it if that's what is best. Also, here's the article link in general:
https://www.girlschase.com/article/arousal-vs-similarity


That out of the way, I've been thinking about this very thing for the past week or two and I'm definitely noticing a lot of what Chase talks about in that article. I'm mostly a similarity type guy just because that's what I find the most fun and enjoy the most (with the exceptions of girls I'm not all that into where I go full on arousal only mode lol).

My question is: how do you better transition and weave together the two aspects?

My overall plan was just to start making more sexually aggressive jokes as well as touching more. During the first daygame meet I don't touch all that much, if it all depending on how long we're together. So that's a little out.

As far as the jokes go, I personally feel like I'm forcing them in at times. And obviously that's bad.


So yeah, any experience with overcoming this one-sided style of game? Either from other similarity focused guys or arousal guys works just fine for me.

 

[topcat]

hey bro,

no need to jump into sexually aggressive jokes. You’ll come off uncalibrated, as you said you they feel forced to you.

I started off as a heavy similarity guy but it failed to get me the results I wanted as consistently so I wove arousal into my game. Here’s how -

As a similarity specialist you have deep diving down and likely are damn good at emotionally stimulating a woman. Good.

What you’ll do on your dates now is continue to emotionally stimulate as you have, but over the course of a date/interaction weave sexually stimulating topics into your deep diving.
Talk about the pleasures of sex or your insights into sex. Ask her about her thoughts on sex and give her insight into these things. This gives you a nice foundation to return to where you can share sex stories and get into juicier topics. Remember though to fractionate back into regular deep diving topics to maintain comfort and avoid inflating a sexual topic.

That should do it.

Oh, also don’t overlook the power of suggestive eye contact, proximity, subtle touch, and provocative body language to create a highly sexual tone, all the while having a ‘boring’ conversation.

 

[Rakehell]

What topcat said. Sexual jokes can come off polarizing and it may arouse their emotions but not in a sexual way.

If your mannerisms are slower and more sensual it should allow you to arouse them comfortably. Also bringing up topics that could be interpreted as sexual if you use the right tonality works for me.

I was once talking to this girl who makes music, she was a singer. I related to her and said that I have a voice as well. We talked on the topic for a while in which I alluded to us collaborating on a “song”. At face value it’s innocent enough but coupled with the right tonality and eye contact it could be interpreted sexually.

(it also kinda depends on the girls you’re going after, rougher girls might respond better to raunchy jokes)

 

[Egor]

Do you have to actually talk about sex? What if everything you say is sexual innuendo?

 

[Skills]

Wasn't really sure where to put this, so I just went with general. Anybody can feel free to move it if that's what is best. Also, here's the article link in general:
https://www.girlschase.com/article/arousal-vs-similarity


That out of the way, I've been thinking about this very thing for the past week or two and I'm definitely noticing a lot of what Chase talks about in that article. I'm mostly a similarity type guy just because that's what I find the most fun and enjoy the most (with the exceptions of girls I'm not all that into where I go full on arousal only mode lol).

My question is: how do you better transition and weave together the two aspects?

My overall plan was just to start making more sexually aggressive jokes as well as touching more. During the first daygame meet I don't touch all that much, if it all depending on how long we're together. So that's a little out.

As far as the jokes go, I personally feel like I'm forcing them in at times. And obviously that's bad.


So yeah, any experience with overcoming this one-sided style of game? Either from other similarity focused guys or arousal guys works just fine for me.

yeah! if you want to do sexual jokes they have to be combined with micro escalations, also there is the right way to do sexual jokes, at some point though you need to drop them, take a look at this video i made about sexual humor...

 

[Regal Tiger]

Thanks for replying everyone! Will report back when I try out some of the stuff mentioned